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DP still hasn't opened expensive birthday presents!

112 replies

twuntfreezone · 07/02/2020 18:55

am i being unreasonable/over sensitive/precious/immature (fill in the gaps!) to be hurt that my partner still hasn't plugged in /set up /taken out of the chuffing box the expensive smart tv i bought him for his birthday (and other gifts) telling me when i protest that he "likes to 'SAVE' things and open them at some other(???) point??!
he says it's something he wanted, and acted thrilled at it, but 3 weeks later he hasn't even taken it out of its box to see if it even WORKS??! i did ask him to at least plug it in as if it's faulty (though it's brand new, jvc, from Amazon prime) i would need to know within a certain amount of time in order to send it back, but still need hasn't bothered.
it seems to me he can't really be that "thrilled" with it or surely he'd have been eager to set it up and start enjoying it??!... my finances are EXTREMELY limited, which he's aware of, but i was SO EXCITED to get him such a great quality present and if it was me I'd have probably injured myself in my unbridled excitement to rip it open and start using it!! i realise we're all different, but he does know how i am, so i can't help being hurt that he seems so non plus'd by it...am i being a big girls blouse???

OP posts:
twuntfreezone · 07/02/2020 23:25

bloody hell you lot!
i was only joking about the massive c*ck and Boob job. there's a lot of you on here who take YOURSELVES way too seriously....let alone ME.....I was just being jocular.....what a shame so many of you find that weird!
lighten up eh?!

OP posts:
twuntfreezone · 07/02/2020 23:38

@lionelritchiestolemynotebook??
I'm a delusional stalker??!
HA!!
nobody wants your notebook....let alone Lionel Ritchie!!
get back to your youth in the 1970's!

OP posts:
UYScuti · 07/02/2020 23:42

Why so defensive OP?

bitheby · 07/02/2020 23:53

I have Asperger's too. Setting up a new TV takes EFFORT. Get it wrong and it causes stress it could get broken. I'm not saying he's on the spectrum but my experience is that I have to be in the right mental space to be able to do this kind of thing. Doesn't mean I don't want the thing. It's just that the barriers are higher than the goal.

bitheby · 07/02/2020 23:56

That'll teach me not to RTFT.

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/02/2020 00:12

Username is about as inaccurate as it could be :o

twuntfreezone · 08/02/2020 00:14

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ElloBrian · 08/02/2020 00:16
Biscuit
1Morewineplease · 08/02/2020 00:27

Has this thread just gone tits up?
In any case, OP, you said that your finances are “EXTREMELY limited” yet you bought him an expensive tv.
Why?

RoryGillmoresEvilTwin · 08/02/2020 00:29

I reckon you got the wrong make. Jvc is a bit budget 😂
If you wanted to impress you should've got a samsung/sony type.

Or...he's just not that into you and doesn't really want it but hasn't told you yet...probably a combo of the two.

HolyForkingShirtbaIIs · 08/02/2020 00:31

OP is about 3 posts away from saying "ok boomer" to someone and then we can ring down the curtain on this thread. Grin

MissMoogle · 08/02/2020 00:49

Someone was bored on a Friday night it seems

Spartak · 08/02/2020 01:17

If there's already a TV in his loving room, maybe he's got nowhere to put another one? I've not got an aerial point, or a spare socket in my bedroom, so an additional TV wouldn't be any use.

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/02/2020 01:59

that's funny pyongyangkipperbang......considering it was ptangyangkippabang......just saying....thicko!

oh bless, you dont get it..... thicko

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/02/2020 02:02

This thread has reminded me of a friend of mine who received a ££££ guitar for his birthday from a woman he had seen a handful of times over 3 months. She was very upset when he returned it as an inappropriate gift for the time they had been together, he had her down as the needy/stalker type and turned out he was right. Cant help wondering if the OP is the same woman!

1forAll74 · 08/02/2020 02:08

It's fairly common for people to do this, as in not open a present Immediately, I leave things for a while sometimes, and so does my adult son. It may seem strange, but just a personal choice that's all.

MaxPanic · 08/02/2020 03:50

Reading random threads at 3am is so rewarding.

Charlie97 · 08/02/2020 07:45

Oh dear OP wine is not your friend is it?

Another AIBU thread most people say yes so OP

  1. Starts name calling
  2. Flounces
  3. Shoes themselves up

Very entertaining though.

HeadachesByTheDozen · 08/02/2020 09:04

YANBU to be unhappy he hasn't unwrapped it yet, he seems to not care about your feelings, so he doesn't seem to make you happy 'happy' overall.

However you don't even live together so he's really just your boyfriend not your DP, I wouldn't be spending that amount when he is really only your boyfriend and not your husband. Not even live in actual DP. It's a lot of money spent on a boyfriend, but at least you know what he's like now, his ungratefulness and rudeness, before you get too involved. I'd chalk this up as a lesson, and walk away from him.

Bluntness100 · 08/02/2020 11:07

Well this got a bit messy didn't it?🤣

AmelieTaylor · 08/02/2020 11:16

Maybe some good will come if this?!

Maybe it’ll teach some people to READ THE THREAD

...but I doubt it

Bubble2019 · 08/02/2020 17:39

You definitely need to open the box and plug it in. I ordered TVs from Amazon. The first one had the screen smashed and the second one has a black line running through the pic. 😟

Amiable · 08/02/2020 18:40

My husband does this. I’ve realised it is just the way he is, and usually set it up/use it myself!

Mummadeeze · 08/02/2020 19:43

My partner does this because he is a narcissist and a control freak. He doesn’t want me to have the pleasure of seeing him enjoy his gift. He used his broken headphones that he had been complaining about for 3 months whilst the new £80 ones I bought him sat in the box. I kept asking why he wasn’t using them, if there was something wrong etc. He liked the attention. I have worked out it is a way of trying to make me feel bad like so many other mind games he plays. I hope this isn’t the case for you, but have just mentioned my experience as a warning and something to look out for.

LadyB49 · 08/02/2020 20:11

Return the tv. If he looks for them take him out to choose a new and much cheaper tv.