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DP still hasn't opened expensive birthday presents!

112 replies

twuntfreezone · 07/02/2020 18:55

am i being unreasonable/over sensitive/precious/immature (fill in the gaps!) to be hurt that my partner still hasn't plugged in /set up /taken out of the chuffing box the expensive smart tv i bought him for his birthday (and other gifts) telling me when i protest that he "likes to 'SAVE' things and open them at some other(???) point??!
he says it's something he wanted, and acted thrilled at it, but 3 weeks later he hasn't even taken it out of its box to see if it even WORKS??! i did ask him to at least plug it in as if it's faulty (though it's brand new, jvc, from Amazon prime) i would need to know within a certain amount of time in order to send it back, but still need hasn't bothered.
it seems to me he can't really be that "thrilled" with it or surely he'd have been eager to set it up and start enjoying it??!... my finances are EXTREMELY limited, which he's aware of, but i was SO EXCITED to get him such a great quality present and if it was me I'd have probably injured myself in my unbridled excitement to rip it open and start using it!! i realise we're all different, but he does know how i am, so i can't help being hurt that he seems so non plus'd by it...am i being a big girls blouse???

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RositaEspinosa · 07/02/2020 21:20

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speakout · 07/02/2020 21:22

I would return it. Without a word.

Spied · 07/02/2020 21:26

I'm thinking wrong model. Some guys are very into their tech as a pp said.
Or he's not that into you and feels guilty opening the box and using it when you may be demanding it back v soon....

Confusedbrain · 07/02/2020 21:27

Yep I can definitely see where you’re coming from! 3 years ago bought dp an expensive drone for his birthday and it is still in the box never been used, despite him loving the present idea when he was given it!

PapayaCoconut · 07/02/2020 21:32

If my finances were "extremely limited" I wouldn't have bought such an expensive gift. And if someone with "extremely limited finances" bought me such a gift, I would not be able to enjoy it.

MsPepperPotts · 07/02/2020 21:33

You should have bought yourself the new TV and given him your old one! Smile

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/02/2020 21:44

My finances are extremely limited, I cant afford to buy myself a new TV let alone someone else a really good one plus other stuff. Clearly I am misunderstanding what "extremely limited" means........

ElloBrian · 07/02/2020 21:44

O...k Hmm
It did indeed just get really weird.
At least you can return a telly more easily than you can return a boob job.

Maybe next Christmas try reading the GQ gift guide, OP? If you’re short on ideas, I mean ...

TimeForPlentyIn2020 · 07/02/2020 21:45

Have you been drinking?

sonjadog · 07/02/2020 21:52

Well, that was strange.

Floribundance · 07/02/2020 21:53

’Did this just get really weird?’

Grin
Choice4567 · 07/02/2020 21:54

Wow. That was unexpected

SlippersAndThePaper · 07/02/2020 22:05

Did this just get really weird?

Yes. Grin

If finances are extremely limited then don’t buy a tv?

Walkerbean16 · 07/02/2020 22:07

I haven't opened my main very expensive Christmas present yet. I hate the fact he spent so much and i dont want to ruin it by it!

UYScuti · 07/02/2020 22:10

this thread is only ostensibly about the telly, the real subject is his 'enormous cock' and how exciting it is that he will 'crawl over broken glass' in order to access her false bosoms, assuming she does go ahead with the surgery that is.
So will he risk broken glass for standard breasts, or do they have to be enhanced, maybe his cock is also enhanced? Confused

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 07/02/2020 22:11

Me: Hmm, that is obviously upsetting for you OP
Me: But there could be reasons we don't know about
Me: Thinks of various times I've been given expensive gifts I don't want, need, or like.
Me: Composes reply in my head as I read other responses.

Me: WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT ABOUT

HoppingPavlova · 07/02/2020 22:12

Christ on a bike, how did it get to that?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 07/02/2020 22:12

Have you had a drink dearie?

Prepenultimate · 07/02/2020 22:12

I do this with presents- mostly lovely bottles of bath oil or something like that. I might have the box in my bedroom and enjoy it, then move the bottle into the bathroom and wait for the 'right' occasion to open it. For me, it's about prolonging the anticipation of the lovely item- and that makes the joy last longer.
I don't know if I'd be the same about a TV though just because they're not really MY thing.

Prepenultimate · 07/02/2020 22:16

(I'm just pretending I haven't seen the diversion.)

SlippersAndThePaper · 07/02/2020 22:24

I’ve got a kindle that DH bought me about 3 years ago. I’ve never opened it.

How are you going to pay for new boobs?

NotTerfNorCis · 07/02/2020 22:27

I know exactly what you mean. My OH can be funny about receiving gifts. One year I made him a photo album - I mean selected and printed out over 100 photos from the last few years and arranged them in an album. I know that's old school, but still. Anyway, he wouldn't have anything to do with it. Left it to 'gather dust'. There were loads of other times he was funny about presents but that to me was the worst.

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 07/02/2020 22:42

Personally I got distracted by the elderly father watching endless documentaries about the A414

I now want to know more about the A414

BoomBoomsCousin · 07/02/2020 22:53

I have been like this with presents occasionally. It really isn't that I don't want them. It's that it's work to set up and learn when all I really want to do is sink into bed or whatever. At some point, I get out of my slothful slump and take great delight in making it work and getting to grips with it.

It is a bit of a case of being materially spoilt I think, as if I had nothing else to do I would be more likely to get on with it.

I wouldn't take it as a sign he doesn't like it - though he may not appreciate it as much as you would/you expect him to - just that his approach to things is different from yours.

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 07/02/2020 23:04

He hasn't opened it because it's not a relationship, she's a delusional stalker and he's terrified.