To to leave DD alone when there are so workmen in house

[SoWhat21]

AAGH ive just realized Dd is off school the week I’ve organized to have a plumber come to do some essential work. She’s 13 and does would have stayed in house alone while I worked the mornings but not sure I should leave her now. He’s down a work for me in the past but still. Also have a painter coming but can probably reorganize him. Plumbers hard to get here.

id see if i can arrange for her to be elsewhere, i dont think shes in any danger but work men are a pain in the butt for wanting to talk, asking questions, being in the way etc it makes me feel uneasy and unable to sit and settle at something so i wouldnt like my dd to feel that way...

I wouldn’t leave her.

If I were the plumber I suspect I wouldn't be keen to lay myself open to allegations by being in a house alone with a minor.

Can she arrange to see friends or other family members for the morning until you get home from work?

I would see if she can spend the day with a friend (assuming it's just a one day job), just because I think itll be inconvenient for your daughter and, as another pp has said, the tradesmen mahmake smalltalk which your DD may not really want.

How does she feel about it? Personally I wouldn’t leave her though.

You’re also putting the tradesmen in a poor situation, I’d think the majority would not want to be in alone with a young girl.

I don’t think it’s fair on either your dd or the workmen. Can’t she go elsewhere for the day?

If they are from a company, They won't be allowed to be in your house with someone under 18

Even the BT, Sky ,Tesco delivery people state someone has to be over 18 otherwise they cant come in

I wouldn’t.

Not fair on the plumber

Agree with others - don't think it's really fair on either party. I think both would be uncomfortable with that arrangement. Tell her to arrange to go to a friend's house whilst you're at work.

It would be a no from me.

Agree with everyone else, it's not fair for either of them. Can she spend that morning with a friend?

My DM (in her 70s) was at our house when our windows were being replaced and she went out to avoid him bending her ear constantly. Safety aside, your DD may well not feel able to do that or to tell him to stop talking!

No, don't leave her. It's not fair on her or him!

I leave dd 11 alone for a couple of hours but would not leave here with contractors in the house.

I used to hate it when my parents did this and felt quite uncomfortable. Was the plumber just going to come in when you weren’t there?

Anytime I’ve had workmen in, leaving minors hasn’t been possible. Even popping to the shop for 5 minutes was a no

When I had work done through my insurance company, my 16 year old DD wasn't allowed to be there without any adult. Seemed a bit odd for that age, but u think it protects the workmen as much as anything else

I work for a HA. Our workman need to have an adult in the property all the time they are there.

Does the plumber know there will just be a child there?

I must be in the minority but I don't really see the issue ,obviously yes there is a risk but the risk is vanishingly small. I don't know many workmen who'd want to spend all day chatting to a 13 year old and presumably the DD can goto her bedroom at any time. I do find it really sad that people are so quick to worry that any man may be a Peadophile these days. I remember when I was about 7/8 and my parents getting the kitchen done, the workman agreeing to watch me and my sister when my mum went supermarket shopping. I don't believe we interacted with him much, but he was a responsible adult there in case of ermeegan y etc.

No, Not fair on her, not fair on the plumber and you would probably be worrying while you were gone anyway.

No way. Not fair on anyone.

Also , ( unless there's a background of the 13 year old making false allegations or having additional needs requiring actual care(, I don't really see why it would be unfair on the plumber ??