To just rant at you about how much of a FUCKING PRICK my husband is

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Long story short, he's stressed with work. He's come home tonight in a fucking foul mood and made me his verbal punching bag.

Everything I do he's moaned at. He was trying to sort something and asked me to hold his torch for him so I did, he then gets wound up with said thing and turns to storm off shouting at me to 'GET OUT HIS WAY' like a piece of shit.

Calms down a bit after tea (that I've cooked) and resumes doing thing in the porch only to start getting pissed off again. Meanwhile he's asked me to wrap something up for him to send to the post office tomorrow which I'm doing in the living room. Comes in, in a strop, and sarcastically starts going on at me 'did you mean to wrap this up like shit?' blah blah speaking to me like a fucking child.

I've come out to the car to literally scream my head off. I wanted to tell him to fuck himself, to look after his own kids (my step kids) when he needs to do overtime (I do this all the time because he's so busy), to make his own fucking meals and to wash his own stupid fucking clothes and do all his own admin for his business, I want to scream at him that he'd have gone under a long bloody time ago if it weren't for me doing all accounts, HMRC, dealing with website etc... For his business because he can't handle it.

Instead I've left the house and am parked in my car in a layby because my step kids were home (who I'd been looking after before he got home from work) and I didn't want to cause any more of a scene than when id shouted at him to stop being horrid.

Rant over. I am FUMING. And yes in typical MN fashion, I am pregnant (and now worried because I've literally just screamed my head off in absolute hormonal rage - it won't do any harm will it?)

"Discuss ways to reduce his stress" How ignorant can someone be? Life is fucking stressful for everyone being stressed is not a valid excuse ever-not fucking EVER

Being stressed does not allow for this behaviour. He needs to seek help for his stress management, you're not there to be verbally and emotionally abused by that turd.

7salmonswimming Good result there it can be done!.

EKGEMS I've been there in that position its not the stress as such its how you MANAGE it! thats the aim and thats what the OP needs to get him to do. I think ther threat of her leaving ought to help to bring him in line!.

He'll have to see thats shes on his side and is ther eto sp upport him but he can't abuse her like this and if he can't sort it then she should go on "strike" and for a long time!.

Whilst on the subject anyone seen this today?.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-51360772

Yes life is stressful for everyone, but not everyone has the same amount of stress, and not everyone handles that stress well - OP's husband is clearly very weak in that area.

So IF OP wants to stay with him, he needs to both reduce his stressors and improve how he handles stressful situations. If he's not willing to do those things then the only option is to leave (or put up with being a punching bag, but I don't think that's a valid option).

Cool down then go home. Grab some toilet roll and tell him if he wants to act like an asshole, he can have some loo paper. Then walk away and do not engage with him at all. He needs to see his behaviour is absolutely not acceptable on any level. Not with his kids about and certainly not towards his life partner and the mother to his future child.
I would also be tempted to go away for the night and let him stew. He can look after his kids in the morning, he can deal with their questions and he can deal with his anger alone.

I hope today has been better OP.

And as per usual the OP avoids the most obvious question “why did you have ANOTHER baby with him if he behaves like this regularly?”

24 hour old bumped threads, but tbh, your step kids need to hear you put him in his place or else they're likely to think that the way he treats you is normal and acceptable.

Lovely people don’t behave like this. I’m sorry that you’re having a baby with someone who abuses you. He doesn’t deserve you and you don’t deserve to be treated like this. I dread to think what he’ll be like when there’s a screaming baby in the mix.