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Woke up late so gave kids a day off

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queenjolo29 · 04/02/2020 09:44

I'm feeling kinda guilty not sure why has they are my children after all, but i forgot to set my alarm last night, didn't wake up till 9 which I might add never happens at the weekend lol. So I thought fuck it give kids a day off.. Please tell me I am not the only one who has done this. They don't have days off unless ill but that's rare. I feel strangely guilty 🤔🤔

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AllHeart1 · 04/02/2020 11:10

I’d imagine the kinds of people who do this are the same kinds of people who take the piss at work by constantly being off sick when everyone knows that they’re likely skiving, thus making it more difficult for people with genuine reasons to be off to be believed.

CorianderLord · 04/02/2020 11:11

Ffs you should've mentioned that they are 5 and nursery age in your OP. Makes a big difference.

Fleamaker123 · 04/02/2020 11:11

Some depressing replies on here. They should be in school. End of.

PreggoFeminist86 · 04/02/2020 11:12

YANBU as long as it's just a one-off. We all hit the 'Fuck It' button occasionally. I mean, your DD is 5... it's not exactly going to leave a huge dent in her academic record, is it? I really don't understand why people are clutching their pearls over this

Enjoy your day & please don't waste it beating yourself up (or you might as well have taken them to school!)

LaMarschallin · 04/02/2020 11:12

DroppedBoxxedRuth

I've just a half day training on mental health and being able to take a mental health day.

Then you have the ridiculous fucking outcry on MN over missing a day of school.

Do you mean that a "mental health day" (due, I assume, to mental health problems) is the same as a child not getting to school because their mother slept in?

And people say that mental health is the Cinderella service.

I wonder why...?

welshmercury · 04/02/2020 11:12

It’s too late. You’ve done it now. Just make sure you do something nice with your kids. Take them to play centre that be quiet because kids are in school. Don’t waste the day

Bibijayne · 04/02/2020 11:14

They're only 5 and in nursery? Nah, no harm done.

nearlyfullycooked · 04/02/2020 11:14

If it's a rare occurrence, enjoy the extra day with them. My reception child hasn't had a day off all year yet, so am tempted to give her a day off soon after seeing your post - the world won't end!

bibliomania · 04/02/2020 11:14

If it's genuinely a once-off, it's not the end of the world. If it happens more than once, it's a pretty basic parenting fail.

Lweji · 04/02/2020 11:15

At those ages, YANBU.

If older, then you would BU.

Why did you leave it out?

PreggoFeminist86 · 04/02/2020 11:15

Also I agree with @welshmercury that you should do something nice. Take them out to softplay, the library, the park, etc. You'll feel less guilty later if you do.

Cora1942 · 04/02/2020 11:15

Enjoy your day with your children.
Children of this age learn through play. Play with them.
The bigger picture is more important.
Do you take them out for holidays ? Or are they at school 99 percent of the time ?
Dont listen to posters criticising you on here.

FirmlyRooted · 04/02/2020 11:15

Missing the occasional day of school for a 5 year old is not going to do any harm! There are so many things in life to worry about but this really isn't one of them. A few days off during the academic year is fine, not a big deal. On a regular basis not so good of course...

Bibijayne · 04/02/2020 11:16

Softplay, museum, park, have a nice day playing with them. Make sure you all get an early.night and set your alarm tomorrow though :)

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 04/02/2020 11:17

these things happen
so long as it is a one off not a regular thing
I'd have a chilled morning and take them in a lunchtime

BlueHarry · 04/02/2020 11:20

I did this once. I can't remember if Dd was in nursery or reception but I remember worrying that she'd tell her teacher she missed school because mummy was asleep. She didn't (as far as I know!) But I was sick with anxiety the whole day! She's never missed a day unless she was too sick to go in, apart from this one day. As long as it's not a regular occurrence it's ok.

Rosebel · 04/02/2020 11:23

Your eldest is 5? Don't worry about it or the perfect mum's who never let their children have a day off. Just have a chilled day with the children.

Lipz · 04/02/2020 11:23

I wouldn't feel guilty. One day is not the end of the world. Here you're marked absent for the day if you are not present for registration at 8.30am, so going in late is pointless in that regard. They won't fall behind or turn into delinquents for missing one day.

All mine are home today, we've a teacher's strike (Ireland) it was very nice having a lie in and no clock watching for the day.

Enjoy your day whatever you do.

SoupDragon · 04/02/2020 11:24

I did it once when DS1 was in reception and I thought he had an inset day. He still made it to university 😂

Curiouschlo · 04/02/2020 11:25

It won't destroy their futures but it's not ideal. If it's the first time then it's not so bad. Although will they lie??? I skived mine off at Christmas (last two days) because her brother had like a flu bug thing and was really poorly. There was norovirus in the class and I just thought I can't risk that. Depending on how far the school is etc I'd of probably took them in late and took full responsibility for a bad morning. Got them there for 10. I am fairly good at getting up but my partner's not.

rhowton · 04/02/2020 11:26

She's 5! Fuck it!! Have the day off and watch Disney!

SallyWD · 04/02/2020 11:26

I would gave just taken them in late. Why didn't you do that?

Drabarni · 04/02/2020 11:28

OP, one day won't matter.
As for work ethic, it's very overrated , we raised ours to think about making a living in many ways, except every bloody day, same place same boredom. Give me a lack of work ethic anytime

antwacky · 04/02/2020 11:29

I did this a couple of times when my eldest was in reception. It was because I had been up during the night with a new baby or 3 year old with ear ache, we also lived in an isolated village eight miles from the school. I used to make the most of day doing something with the kids, out to the beach weather/health permitting or stories and painting indoors then bath and early night. It doesn't do any harm and it can recharge your batteries a little. All of my children had excellent school and now work attendance. Enjoy your day!

Dandelion1993 · 04/02/2020 11:29

That's awful not matter what age the children are.

Poor example to set.

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