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Woke up late so gave kids a day off

658 replies

queenjolo29 · 04/02/2020 09:44

I'm feeling kinda guilty not sure why has they are my children after all, but i forgot to set my alarm last night, didn't wake up till 9 which I might add never happens at the weekend lol. So I thought fuck it give kids a day off.. Please tell me I am not the only one who has done this. They don't have days off unless ill but that's rare. I feel strangely guilty 🤔🤔

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yolofish · 04/02/2020 22:27

Well this thread is a clear case of "never the twain shall meet" isnt it?

On the one hand we have the feckless parents who are allowing their DC to slide into drug addiction, joblessness and generally being layabouts (maybe even not getting into a RG uni shock horror!)

And on the other hand we have the "my kids have never missed a day of school, even if they have a limb hanging off" brigade.

Walkon · 04/02/2020 22:28

My kids were supposed to be in school today but they weren't because the teachers were on strike.

So obviously a day here and there is no big impact on their education.

ohwhattodowithmylife · 04/02/2020 22:32

For goodness sake- hope
You enjoyed your day. Just dint make
It a regular thing!

ActualHornist · 04/02/2020 22:34

I actually can't believe the craziness on this thread. One day at age 5 is not a big deal.

RainbowMum11 · 04/02/2020 22:35

I went through a really bad patch last year (basically a mental break down) and there were occasions when I just couldn't wake up on time due to medication, illness etc I always took DD in to school though, even though she was late - she got the benefit of most of the day at school, I got a little break and was better for her from a continuity point of view, especially as I was really not well.

FloreanFortescue · 04/02/2020 22:37

Sorry YABVU. You're making decisions which affect your children negatively.

FloreanFortescue · 04/02/2020 22:38

Oh my god. Sorry my phone did not register the SIX HUNDRED replies already. Over and out.

formerbabe · 04/02/2020 22:40

You can try to dress it up as a cute day at home ...yay, duvet day, ice cream, snuggles with mum on the sofa, pjs etc but what it boils down to is the op couldn't be bothered.

ActualHornist · 04/02/2020 22:47

Think OP has been pretty clear that she couldn't be bothered. But so what? It's one day and the child is 5. She might be depressed, it might be indicative of another problem. But we can only go on what she's posted here!

MurrayTheMonk · 04/02/2020 23:02

I give my girls a surprise day off every two years or so. Neither of them are educationally subliminal as a result. And as we do something special that day they get plenty out of it and remember their odd ditch days fondly.

Given that their school has shut for the afternoon today and until lunch tomorrow to prepare and then tidy up from taster tours for current year 6's (which is a bit ludicrous imo), I don't think they can been too precious about the odd day off here and there.

Obviously don't make a habit of it OP...but.l no one will die if a 5 year old and a nursery kid aren't in school for a day.

lovelovelove2 · 04/02/2020 23:06

I hope you enjoyed the day with you kids. I don't think it hurts at all. How nice to have that memory of your home day. Maybe if they woke up late a day at home with you is exactly what was needed.

olllsss · 04/02/2020 23:18

Hha this happened to me on friday. Its fine.

proseccosparkles · 05/02/2020 00:13

Wow some people are pretty judgey on here eek!

Mine have the odd day off before half term to go on holiday every year - I must have slid down the slippery slope 😂

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 05/02/2020 00:18

Only read the 1st page, and could see where this thread was going Grin skip to the last page, and I see I was right !!!! My God....I'm a bloody awful parent then....god knows how DC1 graduated with a first and works in film production, with all the duvet days I gave her. FFS sort your shit out posters, the OPs DC is 5....

FamilyOfAliens · 05/02/2020 07:17

We only live once, Now and again we all need a sleep in and day off.. a mental health day. Just call the relevant people to inform them.

“A mental health day”? Ffs.

FamilyOfAliens · 05/02/2020 07:20

So obviously a day here and there is no big impact on their education.

Probably not. But having a parent who’s too lazy to get out of bed and take her children to school might be.

PanicAndRun · 05/02/2020 07:23

As a one off , even if it's once a year it won't be, not even as a might. As a regular thing it will be.

Vulpine · 05/02/2020 07:26

Whywontthey - lets hope your dc doesnt let down other crew members with random 'duvet days' Hmm

Onceuponatimethen · 05/02/2020 07:29

Actually one in three people who voted agree op was fine to do this. One day at five and nursery is neither here nor there

formerbabe · 05/02/2020 07:32

How nice to have that memory of your home day

I don't get this...there's weekends and 14 weeks of school holiday every year. People talking about school as if it means they never see their dc and their dc are never at home.

Vulpine · 05/02/2020 07:47

Yeah i see enough of my kids as it is Grin

Thegreymethod · 05/02/2020 08:30

*Safeguarding? Social services? DV? Drinking? Drugs? Struggling?

What is wrong with you people? Do you always overreact? You sound insane. You must be impossible to endure.
*
This!!! Jeeeeeeez the kid has one day off (the op never said it's a regular occurrence and gave no hint that it is) and so far her 12 year old usually gets everyone ready she's a drunk/drug addict....... why do people always dig further with absolutely no reason too!! Just read a post and go off the facts the OP gives. She had a day off the world hasn't ended, get on with your lives

PlomBear · 05/02/2020 08:38

I’m surprised that no over zealous / crazy MNetters have tracked down the OP and reported her the council.

That’s the kind of things the sad cases on here would love to do.

PleasantVille · 05/02/2020 08:42

Individual anecdotes are meaningless but afaik there is a very strong correlation between attendance and achievement and I'd bet between parents who value attendance and achievement.

I may have this wrong but isn't the attitude and involvement if the mother a strong indicator of doing well.

Your attitude may have more impact than you think.

PlomBear · 05/02/2020 08:49

My parents let me have the odd day off school and I’ve not done too badly - currently studying a Master’s degree and my CV is pretty good too.

But then I’ve never been one to follow the crowd or follow “the rules.”

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