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Woke up late so gave kids a day off

658 replies

queenjolo29 · 04/02/2020 09:44

I'm feeling kinda guilty not sure why has they are my children after all, but i forgot to set my alarm last night, didn't wake up till 9 which I might add never happens at the weekend lol. So I thought fuck it give kids a day off.. Please tell me I am not the only one who has done this. They don't have days off unless ill but that's rare. I feel strangely guilty 🤔🤔

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funinthesun19 · 04/02/2020 13:51

Enjoy your day and move on.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 04/02/2020 13:51

I can't believe that someone seriously doesn't even contact the school if her child is off. Surely the school would wonder where s/he is?

No. All they need to know is they are not there. They send a text to parents saying the child is absent. If I don't respond then they know there is nothing to worry about and they are with me.

Bella2020 · 04/02/2020 13:52

It's one day. YANBU.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/02/2020 13:53

Honestly MumCan'tBeArsed Day should become a national holiday imo

PlomBear · 04/02/2020 13:53

Oh well. I doubt that my job from 2 or 3 years ago doesn’t even remember if I was sick or not. It doesn’t matter. I’ve had a series of bullshit jobs, me being off sick has no knock on effect.

When I am signed off work sick, such as for a broken limb or surgery, I feel no guilt whatsoever. Why would I?

Jellybeansincognito · 04/02/2020 13:54

Of course yanbu.
Sometimes you just need a rest.

GoodbyeRosie · 04/02/2020 13:55

your 5yo and toddler didn't wake you up before 9am?????????

And that's why I smell something with this thread.

I would suggest that having both a Five year old AND a toddler that don't wake before 09:00 a.m. is impossible.

Good luck going forward with a five year old that now knows they don't have to go to school if their a bit tired.

HerRoyalNotness · 04/02/2020 13:56

I gave my eldest a day off yesterday. He’d had a cough for a few days, no fever, but he just needed a day at home. His school is a high pressure environment as many others are and he needed a break. And he has to catch up the work for the day too, which is why I’m normally reluctant, but he knows that and still wanted to stay home

anothernotherone · 04/02/2020 13:58

schnubbins on the other hand can you imagine doing this in Germany come September, when the OP's child will be Schulpflicht...

The OP has a nursery age child too and I wonder how deeply she's sleeping to be sleeping until 9am with two young children in the house. Surely the youngest at least was awake for a considerable amount of time before the OP woke up.

anothernotherone · 04/02/2020 14:02

Iminaglasscaseofemotion that's a terrible safety procedure! If you don't respond it could be because your unconscious on the kitchen floor or dead in your bed, and your child is far from safe with you!

On a more mundane note it could be because you've list your phone.

They should speak to you surely!

anothernotherone · 04/02/2020 14:03

You're not your, lost not list

namechanger0989 · 04/02/2020 14:03

Enjoy your day off! If it's truly a one off then I would rather have given them the day off too than try and rush out the door and have to drop them at school an hour late.
She's 5, read a book and do some counting to make up for her lost day at school .... people on here need to get a grip. She's not going to fail her GCSEs for one day.

Hugtheduggee · 04/02/2020 14:04

Meh, not quite 9, but my baby and toddler often don't wake until gone 8, and the only reason the toddler doesn't sleep in routinely until after 9 is because we have an alarm in their room.

Its not that uncommon, it's just that the parents of lark children (understandably) talk (or complain) about it more. Not all kids are larks, and either by nature or nurture, I think siblings are more likely to be similar.

Or they all had a shocking night, everyone was awake at 3am, hence both children slept in later. That happens too...

formerbabe · 04/02/2020 14:07

When I am signed off work sick, such as for a broken limb or surgery, I feel no guilt whatsoever. Why would I?

Weird post.

No one thinks you should feel guilty if you're undergoing surgery or have broken limbs. Confused

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 04/02/2020 14:07

that's a terrible safety procedure! If you don't respond it could be because your unconscious on the kitchen floor or dead in your bed, and your child is far from safe with you!

Yup good point, the school should probably review their policy on that.

LaMarschallin · 04/02/2020 14:08

Just as long as you don't complain if you have to wait for, eg, an outpatient appointment.

One of the doctors may be having cute snuggles with their DCs after forgetting the alarm, so appointments for 6 doctors are squashed into 5. Or even 4.

Perfectly normal behaviour apparently.

PlomBear · 04/02/2020 14:08

formerbabe - it’s not weird. This is Mumsnet which is unlike the real world. It’s a heinous crime in MN land to be off work sick you know.

Weathermonger · 04/02/2020 14:10

Oh my, all the holier than thou' perfect mothers on here today. I would totally do what you have done, enjoy the unexpected day with them and have fun. My kids are now honour roll students in high school and university, and I can assure you the odd day off throughout their schooling has done them no harm, and they all have an excellent work ethic as well.

ilovesooty · 04/02/2020 14:11

Of course it's not a heinous crime here to be off sick. That's ridiculous.

user1494182820 · 04/02/2020 14:12

Haha, real bunch of asshats commenting here. A child's long-term prospects are not going to be affected by one impromptu day off school. How about teaching kids to be flexible, seize the day, go with the flow (also really important lessons to learn). If they're in school on time the rest of the school year, I'd say it's probably a good thing for them. But then I wouldn't choose to engage with the draconian education system in this country anywayGrin

XJerseyGirlX · 04/02/2020 14:13

Me and ds had a harry potter day a few weeks ago. He woke up really emotional for some reason and luckily I had a day off work (i work part time) so thought ' Stuff it' it was a brilliant day. Curtains closed, quilt and dog on the sofa with HP and loads of munchies. It was the first time i had done it and we absolutely loved it. Didn't beat myself up about it in the slightest and you shouldn't, enjoy your day OP

AtomicRabbit · 04/02/2020 14:13

It's fine. Used to do it quite a bit when the children were little like yours. Everyone needs a break now and then.

Cant' believe all the YABVVVVVU responses.

Are these people prison officers in real life? Life is hard. We all need a break now and then. No harm done. Do it again, when you need it.

Hope you're having a lovely day!

SoupDragon · 04/02/2020 14:14

One of the doctors may be having cute snuggles with their DCs after forgetting the alarm

Yeah, because that's exactly the same as the OP letting no one down isn't it...? 🙄

user1494182820 · 04/02/2020 14:15

@anothernotherone

Both my 3 year old and just turned one year old are unlikely to wake up much before 9 given the chance. They are naturally late to bed and late to rise. Everybody is different Smile

WhateverHappenedToMe · 04/02/2020 14:21

Will you be complaining how unfair it is when they miss out on their attendance awards because they were "only off one day"?