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DH telling really daft lie

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MaidofMuswell · 02/02/2020 23:17

DH and I going through rocky patch as he’s working v hard and never good at doing that and also remembering has a wife so been a bit selfish / absent for few weeks.

V sweetly gave me tub of bath salts today as gesture to say sorry as he knows I love a soak. Weird thing is, he told a whole story about how “the woman in John Lewis said they were the nicest in there” and it’s a tub from the champneys brand that I am pretty sure is only sold in boots.

He is a bit odd and unobservant and he just went a bit confused when I mentioned this and said he’d been on oxford st and thought was JL but there is a big boots there too. Maybe he think I’ll think it’s posher if comes from JL or something so was trying to make it seem like had spent more or something but a. That’s a bit odd anyway and b. The whole thing is just weird.

He’s always been a bit evasive and unreliable w timing etc and a few friends have asked if he’s possibly been having an affair (normally friends with husbands who have done so are bit alert to that as a risk) and I’ve always been confident he’s a good man who is just a bit hopeless in some ways but there’s something really weird about this I can’t pin down and I’m wondering if he’s got someone else to buy them or he’s bought different gifts and got the stories mixed up. I just can’t work out what it is that’s making me so uneasy about this.

OP posts:
Spartonian · 02/02/2020 23:22

Any other reasons to not trust him?

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MaidofMuswell · 02/02/2020 23:25

Plenty. Nothing I’ve ever been more than irritated by rather than worried. Reliably home later than says the main one but recently sleeping together less too which am sad rather than worried about and had put down to work taking over.

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Wattagoose90 · 02/02/2020 23:32

Champneys stuff usually goes down to 75% off this time of year in the boots sale to clear out all of their Christmas 3 for 2 offer left over stock. He's probably masking that they were cheeeeeeeap.

busybarbara · 03/02/2020 00:30

The weirdest thing to me is your obsessing over this minor detail

Lalala205 · 03/02/2020 01:24

I wouldn't give it too much thought. If you were pleased with the gift he probably just rambled on to 'big up' the present some more.

Robertwars · 03/02/2020 07:08

They sell Champneys products other places too now, I noticed them in Superdrug recently

cochineal7 · 03/02/2020 07:31

On its own I would never even give this a second thought. But in a pattern of your gut instinct playing up it might be relevant. Hard to tell.

Whynosnowyet · 03/02/2020 07:33

Receipt? Bank statement? Least you would know...

Inforthelonghaul · 03/02/2020 07:35

Hmm I get what you mean OP, someone I know who is a bit of a compulsive liar does this - gives just a bit too much detail. I don’t think they sell Champney stuff in JL and I’m pretty sure he’d know where he bought it. It wouldn’t occur to my DH that buying it in JL would be significantly nicer than Boots or anywhere else. I think you might be right and this is the tip of the iceberg maybe.

Namechangerejsjs1239 · 03/02/2020 07:35

@MaidofMuswell they sell them in other shops too OP and have their own website so possibly might be in store at JL. I think you are reading far too much into it- enjoy your bath salts

Inforthelonghaul · 03/02/2020 07:36

And it’s always the detail that catches my friend out. They’d never be caught if they just gave minimum information but it’s the elaboration that always proves the lie.

ShowOfHands · 03/02/2020 07:39

I buy bubble bath in the supermarket so just thought I'd do a cursory Google to check where you can buy these marvellous bath salts and John Lewis sells bubble bath for ONE HUNDRED ENGLISH POUNDS. The veracity of a single lie is no longer a problem. We're all going to hell in a bath salt encrusted handcart.

ShowOfHands · 03/02/2020 07:43

Oh it's okay. It's bubble bath perfume and cheaper than the THREE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY POUND PERFUME RIGHT NEXT TO IT.

This is all v much a revelation.

Feelsdeadpeople · 03/02/2020 07:44

Maybe he won them in a work raffle.

cherryblossomgin · 03/02/2020 07:49

So he didn't notice the massive boots sign above the door? The boots on either side of John Lewis have a junction between them, so it's not like they are even close.

LividLaughLovely · 03/02/2020 08:02

The bath salts are irrelevant.

If multiple friends are hinting, and you're getting suspicious about little things, he probably is having an affair.

Friends don't hint about stuff like that unless they have a really good idea about it.

Number3or4 · 03/02/2020 08:06

Do you think since your friends have told you about their suspicions it is making you more alert and picking up on strange things your dh does? It was a gift you liked, from your unreliable dh. It might be a simple explanation as he meant to go to JL but was busy on his phone and ended up in the wrong shop. Don’t text and walk people it is very annoying for passerby’s. He should have noticed the price difference but he might thought he accidentally found excellent saving/sale item. Did he ask you if you wanted more all eagerly? He might be super excited and think he got an excellent deal and want to show off his super savings.

RedskyAtnight · 03/02/2020 08:07

he went into both John Lewis and Boots and looked at things. Finally he chose something he thought you'd like and bought it. He then did a whole bunch of other things that he considered more important than buying you bath salts and forgot which shop he bought them from.

Does it really matter? If the two shops are in close vicinity, it's not like he was claiming to be somewhere when he was actually somewhere else?

TimeForPlentyIn2020 · 03/02/2020 08:28

Does he normally lie about stuff? Some people can’t seem to help the,selves.

TryingToBeBold · 03/02/2020 08:29

He probably doesn't even care where he got them from.. let alone paid enough attention to the store he was in.
Maybe thinks John Lewis is posher

TryingToBeBold · 03/02/2020 08:30

he’s working v hard and never good at doing that and also remembering has a wife so been a bit selfish / absent for few week

Its sad this is causing your rocky patch.
Trying to juggle a new work load can take adjusting? Being absent isn't completely selfish.. hes sleeping less and trying to juggle new work and make it work for himself.

ElloBrian · 03/02/2020 08:35

The Boots on Oxford St opposite John Lewis has massive makeup displays taking up pretty much all the ground floor. I’m pretty sure that bath salts etc are on the lower ground floor with the everyday shampoos etc. It’s quite a different set up to the John Lewis. You couldn’t just wander in off the street and grab a random tub of bath salts. You’d remember which you’d bought from.

MyOtherProfile · 03/02/2020 08:38

Sounds like you have lots of things niggling. Hope it all comes to nothing.

BigFatLiar · 03/02/2020 08:55

So we have

Your husband has been working hard and has form for being forgetful of you. He's not very observant and a bit unreliable with timings and gets evasive when questioned. Because he's a bit unreliable and a bit evasive your friends suggest he mat be having an affair. You're now concerned he has bought a gift he knows you'd like and you're worried he thinks he bought it in JL when he may have actually bought it in Boots.

Could it simply be that you've married a bit of a scatterbrain who's trying to work hard and is a bit sorry that you've been neglected.

What is he evasive about?

CallmeAngelina · 03/02/2020 08:57

In isolation, it's probably nothing. But your spidey senses are screaming - probably for a reason. Your friends are twitching too.

Keep your antennae switched on. Watch and wait.