To take her phone?

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My 12 year old has her friend over to sleep for the night. My daughter has a phone but not a smart phone, she can text and phone - that’s it. Her friend has an iPhone, complete with all the apps, snapchat and tick tick etc.
Since she arrived the two of them have been glued to friends phone. I’m uncomfortable with this but am accepting it. My question is, when it comes to sleep time can I ask friend to leave her phone downstairs? We have a no devices in bedrooms overnight rule. I will tell friend where it is and she can get it if she needs it at any point. I won’t hide it. Just ask that it’s left in the living room overnight. Is this an unreasonable thing to do?

But it doesn’t sound as though OP does have a no phone rule though...she allows her dd to have her phone. I would allow it but keep checking in

But it doesn’t sound as though OP does have a no phone rule though...she allows her dd to have her phone

That’s not what the OP says..

What do u think will happen if they have it in the room overnight?! :s. Bizarre

Unsupervised access to the internet. Inappropriate photos. Just for starters

DD's school sent out a specific letter two years ago warning parents about SnapChat on sleepovers after a girl fell asleep in a funny position on a sleepover. You could see her tummy, part of her bra and part of her pants. One friend SnapChatted it to a couple others not thinking that someone would screenshot it and pass it on.

My DD has narcolepsy. She drops to the floor asleep at utterly random times. Snapchat is the absolute bane of her, and therefore my, life because kids think it's funny to pass on the image

That's even before you get onto them accessing porn because someone's parents didn't put blocks on that the kids can't bypass

But it doesn’t sound as though OP does have a no phone rule though...she allows her dd to have her phone

Her DD's phone doesn't have internet access so less of an issue. Though if it has a camera it's still potentially problematic

Don't be a killjoy it's a sleepover they are having fun, her mate may tell other mates n they will take the piss or not want to stop again.

Yabu. If that's your rule then you should have told the parents beforehand. Dsd had her own very genuine reasons for needing to know she could contact us at any time if she was anywhere unfamiliar, but I didn't feel the need to share her full history with every friends parents on the off chance they confiscated her belongings.

Warned beforehand, we could have either declined the invitation or explained she had personal reasons for needing to know she could get in touch. If it was simply taken she'd either have texted an sos, or your dd would be telling you around midnight that her friend had just called home from the landline and one of us was en route to collect her. Many successful sleepovers involved a whispered call from the toilet, or subtle texts in the night.

And of course it wasn't the same at school. Like many dc, she was fine if there were adults around she felt she could go to. 'New friends mum' isn't in that category.

She has a decent phone. It can make & receive calls & texts. Internet access is not a human right at age 12.

No of course not, and you all survived without phones and all that. That's great. But at that age I also had a crap phone and it was super embarrassing and I could hardly keep in contact with friends.

By a non smart phone I'm guessing it doesn't even have a touch screen. Anyway, not criticising, just saying from what would be a young persons perspective

The poster who has no idea what could happen to two 12 year olds on a sleepover with a smartphone is incredibly naive.

We have no phones in bedrooms overnight and we expect that rule to be followed by visiting children too. We ask that they charge their phone on the landing - so they know where it is, but they can also get to sleep without looking at who knows what all night. I don't think this is an unreasonable request tbh.

Call her mum and she what their rule is