So my husband works more than I do

[PebbleStone22]

DH has told me that I should do bedtime routine for our son more than him, as he works more. He is full time. I work 22.5hrs/week.

I have swiftly informed him to have a chat with his manager on Monday about going part time and I'll go back to full time. Then he can see how little I work.
Aibu?

So he views his children's bedtime as a chore

So does she. Apparently the thought of having to do more than she considers her fair share makes her want to work full time.

LisaSimpsonsbff absolutely

Most fathers love bedtimes with their children. Doesn't he like them?

Depends how old the child is and if you’re doing full time childcare when you’re not at work or not?

But similarly to posters above, my husband is never home for bedtime on his work days but at the weekends and his work from home day he does it and and sees it as a positive thing he gets to do, not a chore.

The most valuable thing I have taken from this thread, is the underlying message that DH and I both view this as a chore. I'm embarrassed and disappointed. Thank you for giving me cause to reflect. I will do better.

Well OP, if it's a quick process of teeth, story , cuddle and nighty mighty it's not.

But I've had friends that it went on for 90+ minutes with a couple of children after a long day..... and yea... I certainly would have found that tiring at the end of a 14 hour day with children.

I certainly wouldn't apologise for feeling like that either.

@PebbleStone22

Don’t be so harsh on yourself! It depends on how the bedtime is - sometimes it IS a chore, as the PP said!

Dont be embarrassed! Of course it's a chore at times! Very often the last thing l want after a difficult tiring day, whether from childcare when l was a sahp or work out of home is to get into further 'fun' debate re bedtime with either the DC or DH! It's hard!

our dc deserve to have as strong a relationship with him as with me.

^^ I ageee with this from the first page. However, I also think you don’t have to be so hard on yourself OP!