Do you know anyone like this?? Drives me insane!!!

[Lipperfromchipper]

Actually reminded of this on another thread and thought it was worthy of its own 🤣🤣

Does anyone know someone like this?!! Drives me INSANE!!

My SIL... goes to a restaurant and orders a meal let’s say
Sea bass with samphire and a butter based sauce with mash and veg on the side...but then requests the following
Can you take off the samphire
and instead of the ‘butter sauce’ can I have mushroom sauce from the chicken dish instead
and then instead of mash can I have chips and instead of the veg can I have a plain green salad.

Emmm ok says the waitress.. SIL gets the dinner as she requested (much to the chefs annoyance I imagine!!) and then COMPLAINS that the meal is bland or doesn’t really work!!! Meanwhile I just want to fucking scream!!!! OF COURSE ITS SHIT YOU MADE THE FUCKING DISH UP!!

HARD WORK!!And relax...,

Didn’t mean to have voting oops

Yes I had a friend a bit like that.
Also my exes parents were a nightmare for complaining.
They would complain about a "dirty" knife on the table (looked fine to me). Complained about the fact that we had to wait 30 mins for a table (it was busy and we hadn't booked) complained that the meals were expensive and they shouldn't have to pay full price (there was nothing wrong with the food and the prices were clearly displayed on the menu). They complained that they had asked for Mayonaise and had been waiting 5 whole minutes for a waitress to come with some. All night they would just find things to complain about, request to see the manager after the meal and give them their list of trivial shit they weren't happy with and try to get money off the bill. I stopped going to restaurants with them after a couple of meals with them as I just couldn't stand it. Those people who complain about everything piss me off the most

If I was the chef, I'd be gutted. All that effort getting the perfect balance of flavours for nothing.

But I get irritated when my vegetarian friend who is recently vegan, refuses the beautiful asparagus & chaume tart she has eaten for years, and asks for vegan cheese. And then grumbles.

Vegan cheese tastes VILE. Where is the joy in a meal like that? Can't she eat vegan all week at home and then eats normal vegetarian for her one meal out ? Removing dairy from 13 meals in 14 is good enough isn't it?

I am turning into an intolerant old woman

Oh and also....I once worked in a fancy restaurant and a woman came to pay but said she wasn’t paying for her steak as it wasn’t very good!! I was baffled because she and eaten the whole steak and accompaniments, I had also approached the lady a few minutes into the meal to ask if it was to her liking...to which she had responded that it was lovely ....some ppl are just odd (and CF)

Oh yes, I've got one like this. She's perfectly find in all (most) other respects but we've had to stop eating out with her. She wants to know every detail about every item that might take her fancy, from where the meat is from to how long the veg is cooked. Even just getting tea and cake is a trial. When, after hours of analysis followed by indecisive faffing she does finally order she'll complain about every little thing. Makes me want to ram her fork where the sun don't shine.

Your SIL sounds like a bit of a control freak drama llama. Does she do it to seek attention? Does she think she knows better than the chef?
I’d be saying “ just have chips and gravy, love “ . She clearly doesn’t understand what eating out involves. I.e. someone else has dictated the menu.

Someone like this at my office. Always changes her meal from what is on the menu. Drives me mad.

We often ask to change something on a meal because of allergies (not dangerous ones) but your sister is taking it to a whole new level, she sounds like very hard work.

@Finfintytint YES she is a complete control freak!!

Next time tell the waitress not to bother changing it as she will.just complain like fuck about it
(In front of your friend 😉)

I do this 😳

I don’t complain though unless I absolutely have something worth complaining about!

Yes I've known people like this. Really annoys me.

Just have the meal as it comes fgs!

Really can't be doing with fussy finicky people.

People actually ask for changes on a menu? I might ask them to not put tomatoes or mushrooms on as it's just a waste with me, I won't eat them, but I wouldn't ask for something else instead.

The complaining is off, but I’m all for ordering what you actually want. Had a friend tell me I was ‘embarrassing’ her once as I ordered the goats cheese starter dish with a portion of chips as a main meal. I wasn’t that hungry and all the mains were quite heavy. This was at Centre Parcs by the way, not a fancy restaurant

A decent restaurant can accommodate changes. A decent chef wants customers to enjoy their meals.

I have some allergies which means I sometimes swap items. Or should I just never eat out?

I don’t know anyone like that (thankfully) but it would piss me off massively.

My inverse AIBU is restaurants that list a dish as coming with something and then leave it out. Being a bit of a foodie twat I will often order dishes on the basis that the walnut/cheese combo will really work, or the rocket will lift an otherwise rich/ salty meal. So many times I’ve had something delivered without, for example, said walnuts / rocket, and I feel so as it entirely corrupts what I was expecting and they think it doesn’t fucking matter much.

I’m not sure why it bothers you so much OP. Are you the one cooking the food?

I ask for changes to the menu. I used to be a chef and it never annoyed me that people asked for changes, after cooking the same menu all day it was always quite nice to cook something a bit different as long as they didn’t ask for something impossible. I often complain of my meal isn’t cooked correctly or is of poor quality, how is a chef meant to learn if no one tells them where they are going wrong? But I agree it’s cheeky to ask for big changes, make up your own dish and then moan that it didn’t taste as expected.

My SIL does this. I've eaten out with her many times and she's never just ordered something without requesting changes, not even once. It appears to be some kind of weird power thing with her, like being a pain in the arse shows how important she is.

I'm a chef and I can honestly say that very little effort will be put into a plate of food were someone thinks the menu is pic&mix .

The same goes for people who ask for half of something and half of something else.

Vegan cheese tastes vile

Well it’s not cheese that’s why. 🤦🏻‍♀️

My DH accidentally bought a tub of vegan ‘cream cheese’ recently because it was on the same shelf as the proper stuff and the labelling was very sneaky and said something like ‘Better than’ ( in minuscule writing) CREAM CHEESE in massive writing.

I decided as it was in the fridge we may as well try it. It was absolutely fucking grim. I’m not a fussy eater and there’s not much I can’t stomach but that was properly heinous. I ate half a teaspoon and had to spit it out. Couldn’t get rid of the aftertaste for ages. 🤮

The hotel I managed many, many years ago had a very stubborn chef. He wouldn't have pandered to your sil at all, in fact the only variations he made to his meals were either for allergy sufferers, in which case a completely "sterile" part of the large kitchen and separate pans and utensils, or those with specific dietary requirements for religious reasons, which again was prepared in the almost separate kitchen...

I work in a pub and the number of people that do this is infuriating. One woman sent back a steak as it had 'too much fat' (it was a totally normal ribeye) and then requested pork belly as an alternative, which she then sent back to the kitchen as 'too fatty'. Managed to eat all the chips and leave the salad on both plates though. She then came up to the bar and requested a free bottle of wine for her inconvenience, saying that she used to work in a pub and assured us that she 'wasn't a dick'

She did not get her wine.

Yeah my sister does it. She says it’s because she’s an excellent cook so is fussy. She’s not an excellent cook. She’s just fussy

I no longer eat out with my sister for this very reason.

She once ordered “the vegetarian pizza but instead of corn can I have olives and instead of peppers can I have ham?”