Good luck tonight whiskeychaser!

[Sarah510]

Good luck tonight. Just caught up on your threads. Hope there wasn't any more drama during the week.

@messolini9

Obviously hard won!!🙄

Years ago.... obliging a neighbour..... so much.. because she was studying....picking up MY child from our local sailing club and without any request or contact .....THREE!!! of her children got directly into MY car.....which meant that I had to do a second trip to pick up MY children. 😂...they had been told to just get in my car🙄🤔

From that moment on I just text to every single request "pity..that just doesn't suit"...on a loop.

She was not happy at all. I just looked through her with a vague smile.

I was soooooo done.

I've spent an inordinate amount of time over the last two days reading all the threads and all the posts and just wanted to say how brilliantly you have handled everything, whiskey. I find this sort of conflict so upsetting and would never have managed it all with the dignity you have.

And three cheers for your amazing DD for standing up to CF's DD and not standing for the passive aggressive nonsense. You've clearly given her the courage to do that and she will never end up being taken for a ride (or taking someone else for one I suppose I should say!) in the future. I really hope you now have the mental space and energy to invest in other friends who actually deserve you in their lives.

Thanks everyone. 🙂

It hasn't been easy for me to stand my ground, and not fall back into my people pleasing ways, so the support here has really helped.
My family have also had my back and my dd, especially, has been really supportive and understanding of my reasons for putting my foot down, and she doesn't blame me at all for what's happened subsequently with the friend.

She's also realised how much time she invested in trying to keep her friend happy, even at the expense of what would've made her happy.

It's definitely been a learning experience for both of us.

My main aim is to make sure I bring my dc up to be assertive and kind, and to value themselves, and not allow themselves to become people pleasers to the detriment of their own health/wellbeing.

I think the work we've been doing over the last year has really helped, and that this was a big step for us in putting our needs at the same value as other people's needs.

Well done whiskeychaser and well done to your daughter too

Glad it's been a learning curve. I had a similar situation years ago, except I was the teenager back then. The girl I went to the hobby with turned into the nastiest, spiteful brat you can imagine. Your DD is well rid.

It's such a valuable lesson to learn to prioritise your happiness over others. It sounds selfish, but I spent years being bullied by that girl (on and off though, just as long as it suited her). As soon as I realised that I mattered and I wouldn't be taking any more of her shit anymore, she was even more horrible, but I was free of her. And she hated it.

Your DD has dodged a huge bullet.

I'm so sorry you've both had to go through this, it's such a shame for your DD but on the upside I doubt she will keep paying for cabs so they will probably stop going to the club so your DD wont have to put up with this there for much longer.
And no its definitely not your fault

Post this on Facebook? I actually have a more classy one which I posted as my banner photo (visible to all) after I had blocked someone

Classy one

It's not classy. I've seen those posts from people on my Facebook.

The first thing I think is sad act.

There really is no such thing as a classy passive aggressive fb post.

Good for you and your daughter OP, treat it as a learning experience and move past it.

No. There is no classy way to post that tripe. Its tragic every time and people just laugh at it.
Whiskey is doing the best thing which is not feeding her at all. She's posting her silly nonsense and getting absolutely nothing in response. It's perfect.

Well done @whiskeychaser

Thanks everyone. Much as I'm tempted, I'm not going to post anything back as it's just not me. I'm not playing her games.

the best response is no response - she will eternally be left to wonder...

That second one is so not classy.

Hope this week has been all quiet @Whiskeychaser which means Friday night you can enjoy DD's club without a whirligig of stress

Good luck tonight @Whiskeychaser I hope she doesn't go/start anything with you

Yes how was it @Whiskeychaser

Any updates from the weekend @Whiskeychaser?

Any updates OP?

@Whiskeychaser, Ive been watching too and hoping everythings ok? You dealt with it fantastically

Ugh, can't stand those passive aggressive Facebook posts.
Hopefully everything has settled down and you have your peaceful routine without them @Whiskeychaser