Good luck tonight whiskeychaser!

[Sarah510]

Good luck tonight. Just caught up on your threads. Hope there wasn't any more drama during the week.

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery

Excellent username, Beery

Wow this woman sounds insane! I'm new to these threads! Hi OP (so far I've read the first thread and I'm hooked!) going to read the second thread tomorrow with my cuppa! I hope this evening went ok for you though! I'm intrigued to find out!

I hadn’t realised there was a second thread?

The only trouble with this thread is its not by the original poster so their updates don’t stand out.

More to her dd, YasssKween, and the people they've asked lifts from.

She really is a stupid woman. All of this could have been avoided by her simply saying yes to your original reasonable request. It could have been avoided by her apologising for her pig ignorance during the first week but she chose to continue to be horrible. It could even have been avoided last Friday when you had still generously offered her the lift as long as she arrived at you house on time. But she still fucked up. There's really no cure for stupid. You're well rid of this non-friend. Your dd seems well able to handle her dd, though I'm sure her dd knows bloody well that her mother is the only one in the wrong in this crazy scenario.

The only trouble with this thread is its not by the original poster so their updates don’t stand out.

Just what I was thinking

Was she there Whisky?

Hope you’re ok whisky I only just saw the first and second thread and was reading like

You’ve been amazing and an absolutely fantastic role model for your daughter.

Did she ask for a lift home?

Sorry, I went out for drinks when I got home.

I met my dd inside at the end of the club so that if they attempted to follow her, etc, I could put them straight.

As it was my dd came out first and we left the building and walked to the car. They stayed inside, not sure if they're waiting for a cab or what.

The dd was a bit passive aggressive during the club and completely ignored my dd, so I guess that means they realise we're done giving them lifts, so we're of no use to them anymore.

My dd is also a bit hurt and sad, but as she says, it isn't any real loss as a real friend wouldn't behave that way.

I'm really proud that she isn't playing 'tit for tat' and is rising above the games.

The memes are things like 'she doesn't argue with those she doesn't respect' which references something she said in her text to me, and various other things about being careful not upset her, etc.

I'm just ignoring and not dignifying any of it with a response.

@Sarah510, thanks for asking though. I'm sad it came to that, but I know I've done the right thing.

@Whiskeychaser
I'm not surprised you are sad and tbh I feel for both of the kids. Her dd is only following what her mum is saying, doing and pretty much teaching her kid HOW NOT to get through life and that's gotta be tough especially if other people start to cop on to her and refuse to put up with it.

I hope you and your dd will be ok . Your dd sounds like a grown up in a teenager's body.

I've read a little of the threads and it seems to me that from her replies to your texts and the Facebook posts that she is being bitchy and trying to goad you. From what I've seen you have ignored her or been sensible in your replies. Best just to ignore her from now on. But I do hope that everything goes well and that you feel less stressed in the future.

PS Keep all messages and print Facebook stuff because it sounds like she is threatening you.

Cannot believe it was Friday again. That came around really quickly!! Glad you've stood your ground OP.

The only trouble with this thread is its not by the original poster so their updates don’t stand out.

Yes.

Hopes Whiskeychaser will start her own 3rd thread

I would unfriend her on FB.

Don't let her toxicity creep into your life anymore.

Well done Whiskeychaser. You've handled this brilliantly. It sounds like they've finally got the message re the lifts. Such a pity the situation arose because of her selfishness.

I hope the CF does find another kind soul to give them lifts, and that the new chauffeur expects them to be there ready for the lift, doesn't assume they're giving the lift without clear prior arrangement and expects please and thank you. I also hope they ask for petrol money after the second or third time when it looks like becoming a regular thing.

In other words I hope CF has it brought home to her forcibly just how exceptionally generous Whiskey was all that time and winds her neck in!

What was she posting on Facebook? She sounds unhinged to be honest. Who thinks the world is interested in that sort of sht. *

To be fair, this is the 3rd thread on this subject and we are all up on Friday night / Sat morning waiting for a reply

Users are just like a abusers.....they follow a script.

It is so clear to see.

You oblige them a lot.
You oblige them some more.
Then....
You pull back a bit as it's not suiting you.
They get shirty.
They feel entitled.
They feel outrage at the idea that you are not at their beck and call.
They get snippy.
And more snippy
Then nasty
More nasty.
They blank you.

Honestly it is really funny if you think about it.

I'm someone who would oblige someone but absolutely no way am I doing too much.

I will very deliberately pull back and say "No Billy". You've helped out there. No more.

OP, you have done what you could and a lot more.

This was NEVER a friendship.

User's are only interested in what works for them, for as long as it works, for them.

The bonus hopefully is your DD seeing the when daughter clearly too.

💐

I reckon she’s knobbled the coach for a lift, hence the hanging back...

I'd just block her now on Facebook, friendship is over.

Just move on.