To ask for times your intuition was right?

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Started reading the gift of fear today (if you can’t tell with this post 🌝) and would like to hear if anyone has ever had a gut feeling about a dangerous situation that turned out to be right?

I had a gut feeling that something was wrong in my pregnancy and that my child wasn’t coping well inside. They did growth scans at 32 and 34 weeks which showed he hadn’t grown at all. I then said he definitely needs to come out something is telling me that he won’t survive inside any longer and that he would be safer outside even if he is premature. The doctors did daily CTG scans for 3 days and they kept telling me that they would get me to 36-37 weeks.. I kept telling them differently.

At 34+5 days they did a CTG and advised me they were going to take him out. He was born absolute skin and bone and he looked about 33 weeks gestational age rather than 34 nearly 35. Luckily he didn’t need to go into SCBU for proper care, he just had his temperature checked overnight in an incubator.

I’ve never trusted my gut instinct more and as a result I would always listen to it now

Gut feelings can often be wrong too, based on appearance and manner etc. I often change my mind about my first instincts on meeting people. Just look at the old man who lived next door to kevins house in home alone!

I can always read a room when I enter it but I’m not sure if it’s because I’m really good at picking people micro movements up.

There was somebody who everybody else thought was lovely but gave me the creeps. His wife left him after he raped another woman.

Second pregnancy knew from positive test that it wasn't going to work out. Not just a worry it was a strong gut feeling and I told everyone that I know I will have a MMC at 12 week scan. On the day I told the sonographer before she started that it had gone wrong. And I was right I was almost 14 weeks by the this point and the embryo hadn't grown past 4/5 weeks.

3rd pregnancy I worried constantly something was going to go wrong after the MMC. I kept saying I have a feeling something will go wrong when I'm full term so my midwife scheduled me extra appointments to put my mind at rest and it was at one of these extra appointments that it was picked up I had pre eclampsia. I had no symptoms at all and had to be induced there and then. Also went on to develop HELLP and me and my baby nearly died. If it hadn't been for the extra appointment I wouldn't have been seen by the midwife for another week.....I dread to think

I sensed that my friend (and new bf) was a creep and something was truly amiss with him (and some of his family). But they were all just so nice that I ignored it - and actually told myself I should feel grateful to meet such a lovely man with such a lovely family.

10 years of horrific abuse.

I heed my instinct over "nice", now.

That my boyfriend was cheating.

I was once a bit lost (going to a friends house) and had the impulse to follow a random girl off the bus who was getting off at the same stop. I didn’t because that would be creepy. I eventually found my friends house and knocked, strange girl from the bus answered, apparently she was also invited to the same get together.

Yep.

We (DW, DS and I) were visiting a friend in her flat in Wrocław DS was around 2. We were in the living room and DS was tootling around and went into the kitchen.

Anyway, I was chatting away with the others when suddenly all the hairs on my neck stood up, I had a massive adrenaline surge and knew DS was in danger. I gasped, shouted his name and dashed into the kitchen, where DS had pushed a stool up to the window and was climbing onto the window sill. The window was open and our friend lives on the 5th floor...

Accepting a friend request on FB from a friend of a friend. Normally I only interact on fb with people I've met, or have socialised with online via forums etc, I don't just jump straight into FB because it's such a window on your life.

Anyway, I ignored my instincts because our mutual friend is truly lovely. I played "nice" and accepted her request.

Huge mistake.

She bombarded me with invitations to pages, put me into FB groups that I had no interest in (repeatedly - I left, she rejoined me, I left, she rejoined me, etc etc) and we didn't have any other interactions of any kind as she never posted a single thing, just commented on other people's posts and in a really odd way.

I unfriended her (I didn't think she'd notice as we had absolutely no contact) and received a whole host of messages about why I'd done something so awful. I just said the truth - we weren't interacting, we were strangers, I didn't like the group thing she was spamming me with and that it's just the way it was. She continued to question me, with multiple messages, etc. So I blocked her.

The creep set up a new FB account so she could message me from that! So I blocked her again so she couldn't contact me.

And yet another FB account was set up, purely so she could send multiple abusive messages, including some emotional blackmail (I'm housebound, I don't have many friends, I'm so looooooonely, you're a horrid person, I HAAAAAAAAAATE you). That account has now been deleted so I'm assuming FB has acted on my complaint.

I'm never ever accepting anyone I don't already know, ever again. Talk about being a fucking weirdo....and she was a grown adult.

@Mammabee20 oh wow I’m so glad everything turned out okay! Same to you @Newcatmum

Intuition is crazy isn’t it! Even good things, I broke up with a partner and booked a solo trip to Spain and remember having a feeling that I would meet someone good there. Ended up meeting my dh in a bar by chance! It’s weird how you get feelings about things!!

When DS1 was born he was about 48 hours old my mum told me to swaddle him and put him on his side which I had been doing.

I'd fed him in the middle of the night and settled him down.
A few minutes later I had an overwhelming feeling of utter dread like I can't even describe.

Quickly switched the light on to see he had fallen forward, face down and totally unable to breath.

He was ok, thank fuck.

Safe to say I didn't listen to all my mums advise after that....

Everyone kept telling me I was imagining I was pregnant, or I'd miscarried and not noticed(!) or that I was wasting their time. The pregnancy was ectopic and could have killed me. I had a little alarm bell shrilling in the back of my mind night and day, getting louder and louder.

Good job I listened and made a fuss until I got listened to.

Another similar to NewCat is that I was pregnant, had the 12 week scan, everything was great baby measured 13+1 week.

A few days later I knew something was wrong, couldn't shake the feeling of utter dread. Paid for a private scan at around 15 weeks and the baby's heart had stopped.

Poor thing.

About 2 weeks before my eldest DD due date, I woke up with a rock hard stomach, and a dull ache. We went to the hospital, and they didn't want to admit me, but I kept telling them there was something wrong, it just didn't feel right.
Anyway, they admitted me and broke my waters, but nothing was happening so they left me alone for a few hours.
Then with a shift change, a nurse eventually listened to me and understood my fears. She called the doctor from home and baby's heart beat was erratic so the did an emergency caesarean. It turned out my placenta was coming away from the wall of my womb, so if she had been born naturally or even 10 minutes later, she would have probably died.

When I was pregnant with my son, I had really bad nausea and could barely eat. The doctor gave me some pills and assured me they were safe. I took one and I felt so much better! But, something felt wrong, I only took that one and binned the rest. A couple of years later I heard those pills had been withdrawn for some birth defects they had caused.

When my youngest DD was a baby, I always put her pram in a certain spot in the living room, tucked between the settee and the porch door.
Anyway, this one evening, I just didn't. Its hard to describe a feeling of just knowing I shouldnt! So I put her in the dining room instead. About half hour later, the ceiling fell through directly above where she would've been. There was a hidden leak from the bathroom radiator.

Love a bit of intuition!

I love weddings and am usually that weepy, emotional guest crying through the ceremony as I find it all so moving.

However on two occasions I've attended a friend's wedding and felt no emotion apart from a gut feeling that the marriages would not last. One friend ended up getting divorced within a year. The other friend is still married but confided in me that she and her husband lead completely separate lives and he is seeing another woman. They have stayed together for their DC.

I'm no relationship guru (I'm not even married!) but I instinctively felt both couples were ill suited and in the case of the second couple, I disliked my friend's then DP (now cheating DH) within minutes of meeting him even though he was outwardly quite charming.

Yep, when I was 15/16 on the phone with my first boyfriend I was suddenly overcome with a feeling that he shouldn't go to college ( about an hours drive away ) I was really distraught, crying down the phone can't really describe it but had such a bad feeling about it. He did go to college the next day but drove there via different route, turns out there was a massive ( two fatalities, many injured ) car crash on the road he would have taken. Remember it clear as day nearly 30 years later!

My friends boyfriend, everyone really liked him but I had an overwhelming feeling of hatred towards him. He was later arrested for having child abuse images on his computer.

We were packing to go on holiday and had got suitcases out of the garage, DS was picking the usual stuff from the suitcases that had been left from last holiday (lilos, sun creams etc) But not long after DS didn't feel good so I bathed him and sat him on the sofa, whilst bathing him I notice little red raised blebs he said they were itchy, I thought it was a midgy bite, Anyways I was hoovering up stairs and I had this overwhelming feeling to check on DS so I asked now EX to go check, he said in a minute I shouted NO NOW! I just knew something was wrong and I was scared to go look...It turned out DS was having anaphylaxis 😰 never been so scared in all my life 😢

I was running some errands on a Saturday morning and had an overwhelming urge to just go home. I hadn't wanted to go out,but I needed to do a food shop. I stopped to turn around and go back at one point but decided I had to carry on.

When I got home, ddog had passed away. I might have been able to do something if I was there

Don't think I'll ever forgive myself for not trusting my instincts on that one.

February 1991. First day back from holiday and my supervisor had called me Sunday evening asking if I would go in early next day to do overtime. Train got in to London Victoria at 07:35 and I was hungry. I dithered first a moment at the croissant shop but something told me to get something from the work canteen instead. Two minutes after I left the station an IRA bomb went off. It was in a bin at the croissant shop.

1995 I was pregnant for the first time after ages TTC. On the way to the 12 week scan I just knew something was wrong and the sonography said the baby had stopped growing at about 8 weeks.

@Eastie77 I've only felt that at a wedding once before - I love weddings but I felt depressed and could barely swallow the free wine.

The marriage did not last two years - and, for full disclosure - I married the groom a few years after that

Talk about a sixth sense

I was at home one day and DH was at work (building site, civil engineer) I had a horrific feeling something had happened to him but couldn’t get a hold of him. Ten minutes later he came home and someone had slipped a piece of rebar (metal pole) and it stopped right on his neck. You could see the graze another mm or two and he would have been dead. He actually came home early as he was so shocked.

Quite recently! I drive everywhere and generally hate getting the train as it's extra faff. Going down to visit some friends I hadn't seen for a year, and out of nowhere got a really strong feeling that I really, really didn't want to drive. It's a journey I know well so was unexpected.

Booked train, went down for weekend, got home to find a car accident with multiple fatalities had happened near home, at pretty much exactly the time I'd have been driving up that road. Gave me chills!

Always try to listen to my intuition and gut instinct :)