To ask for times your intuition was right?

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Started reading the gift of fear today (if you can’t tell with this post 🌝) and would like to hear if anyone has ever had a gut feeling about a dangerous situation that turned out to be right?

NC. When pregnant with my middle child I was convinced I was going to lose him. Didn't tell anyone as it's not a happy thought. He's 12 now and I still have a feeling I'm going to out live him, it's awful, I've never told anyone this but it weighs on me.

was out shopping with flat mates & I had a weird feeling. Asked friend if they definitely had shut/locked the door. Was eager to get home & en route another flat mate phoned to say she had just let herself in & our flat has been burgled.

Twice, both unpleasant men. Long stories but one a Catholic priest turned out to be an absolute creep and the other a next door neighbour was imprisoned for almost 20 years being a paedophile! My DH insists I now always trust my intuition.

Not scary, but definitely a gut feeling just today.
All morning I was thinking of how we can save money, simple things like taking an unworn coat for toddler back as we don't necessarily need it etc. I also thought for a second that we'd really struggle on my wage alone.
At 4/4.30 my eyes started to feel strange - watery and itchy like hay fever.
At 5 I got a call from my husband. He got called to the office just after 4 and told he's been made redundant.
This is totally unexpected and it was a couple of hours later that I remembered my thoughts thus morning and then my teary eyes.

bingsdracsula So sorry to hear this how awful for your husband and yourself. I do hope he gets a new job soon

I remembered another one!

My Gran was in a nursing home, and I had this overwhelming feeling I must visit her.
It was about 6pm, and my ex was on nights.
So it was really difficult to arrange child care and to organise a lift- the morning would've been so much easier!
When I got there they were surprised i was so quick, turns out 10 mins before they had called family to visit as she was near the end. I had no idea they'd done that, (pre mobile phones!)
So I just sat there talking to her, and she died about 15 minutes after I got there. I was the only one there, and it was so lovely and peaceful.

I cannot say I have had any gut feeling. Maybe there is something wrong with me. I seem to be the opposite of being a medium, just pretty opaque to spirits.

That my sister in laws new boyfriend was married. I hadnt even met him, just saw a picture and said to my husband, he's married i'm telling you. He said not to be so stupid and we hadnt even met him yet. Fast forward 9 months and we discover he was married with kids and two other women on the go as well.

Husband called me a spooky bitch after that

I was very close to my great aunt. She was ill in hospital when I was in my late teens. One morning, ar work, I felt like I had the wind knocked out of me and just thought. She's dead. My mun called me a short while later to tell me my great aunt had just died.

When I was 15 I was due to go on a fun looking holiday with my dad. I really didn't want to go but I couldn't explain why. My mum said she was sure I'd have fun when I got there and to give it a chance. My father left me 150 miles away from home and we didn't speak for 5 years.

Aged 12, 1 was due to go on holiday with my mum and brother. We all felt a sudden reluctance to go when we got in the car but tried to shake it off and went anyway. On the second day of the holiday we had a serious car accident.

I had a recurring nightmare that my first husband was cheating on me. Although I never told him, I had the same nightmare for the whole 11 years we were together right up until he left me for someone else.

These are so interesting!!

I had a stalker as a teenager, a much older man. He finally moved to Spain, and I didn't have any more problems. Fastforward several years I was revising in my room and I suddenly thought of him. Just popped into my head. I looked him up, he'd started a new company, got married, nothing interesting. Three days later I popped into the shop he used to work in and one of the assistants there who I was friends with told me that my stalker had died 3 days before. Turned out he'd have died in the ambulance at pretty much the exact time he popped into my head, having not thought about him for years

My Dad knew my ex was abusive before we even got together. His exact words were "slimy, deceptive and not to be trusted". A year later I dearly wished I'd listened to him.

I have predicted the end of all three serious relationships in my life while they were still happy and loving, before any of them became toxic. Have predicted several other relationships ending within minutes of meeting said partners, all my friends introduce prospective partners to me after first couple of dates bc they know I'm usually spot on. Have predicted the personalities of their partners from photos, nearly always right.

Knew I was going to meet first and third boyfriends on the days I first met them. Both times I was invited to something, really didn't want to go and had other things to do but knew that I absolutely had to be there.

I can usually guess who's just messaged me, or who's calling the home phone.

I can nearly always predict the course and importance of my relationship with someone when I first see them. First time I really noticed this I was getting the train back from college and saw this young lad sat by a window, and just knew I had to sit near him and start talking to him. Five years later he and I have entirely integrated into eachother's families and he's like my brother. Other times included a man who became the friend that got me away from an abusive boyfriend, people at college I'm still close friends with years later

I always know if one of my friends, or occasionally a random acquaintance on the train or something, has had a bad day and needs to talk to someone.

I could go on, there's been quite a lot. I have no idea if I'm intuitive or just observant, but I can't really explain a couple of them like with the stalker

My mum. I knew something was terribly wrong the week she was diagnosed with breast cancer.

Me. I’ve somehow known I was infertile since my late teens. Didn’t try for a baby until my thirties, ended up with a complex diagnosis of four ways I couldn’t get or stay pregnant.

ex had made friends at new job and introduced me. From the word go, I didn't like one guy. Ex told me how this guy had taken him under his wing at work etc and was dead kind, I wasn't buying it. During a house party this guy invites his half sister (who turns out to be a child but we all thought was an adult) starts crying and ex asks me to sit with him in another room... guy starts going on about how he's a bad guy then he's not a bad guy and he's sorry for ruining the party etc. I leave him to his sob story and ex accused me of being cruel and insensitive (yet he was bored of sitting listening to him). Few weeks later guy loses job, ex comes back from work and says this guy is on the run from the police... his step sister had reported him for trying to attack her?!

I once had dealings with a man who gave me the creeps so much that I had a panic button installed in my office. He went on to be a notorious mass murderer. I think this was one of the few times that a murderer did not surprise everyone as they thought he was 'such a nice ordinary chap' etc. This one definitely wasn't.

My gut told me that while I was prostrate with hyperemesis during my 2nd pregnancy, my "DH " and my " dear" friend were starting an affair . I was right - they were both just too attentive to me and I could tell that the reason was two guilty consciences. They are both now exes.

I have a habit of freaking people out because I just seem to know when something is off. I don't think it's any kind of woo shit, I just read people well.
DP always, always dismissed me saying 'I just have a feeling and I can't explain it'. Now, he knows now that I am pretty much always right. It's like you pick up on cues that others don't, really, really tiny things and it jars. It can be as small as the way they stir the coffee and somehow that shifts your perception.
I know 'women's intuition' is a bollocks thing, but I do think women pick up more on body language, or what people say than men do. Perhaps it's more of a cultural thing? But DP does listen to me now because he's never found an occasion when I've said 'This feels wrong' and been able to say that I misread it.

Nowadays he says he always thinks 'what would sadeyed say about this?'

Loads of times. You should always trust it. (I feel it's our hearts though, not our guts).

17 years ago I was pregnant and had just moved house and still needed to register with my new GP, made an appointment to register which was two weeks later and see the midwife there. I had a horrible headache on the Sunday night and was sure something was terribly wrong. Felt a bit stupid but asked for an appointment the following day despite not actually being registered with them yet, a check of urine and BP showed severe pre-eclampsia and a scan a the hospital 2 hours later showed that my baby had stopped growing. One steroid injection later and an emergency section and my daughter was born 2 months early. Tiny but perfectly fine.

10 years ago one Saturday night, big Chinese takeaway for dinner. Felt like I ate too much. Didn't feel too great on Sunday but wasn't too worried just thought the food had been a bit dodgy maybe. Monday morning still wasn't feeling too great and was sure something was 'wrong'. I decided to go to the GP - very unusual as I rarely go unless a limb is hanging off. He pressed on my stomach, told me he thought I had appendicitis and sent me straight to hospital. I was in surgery for 7 hours as my appendix had burst.

Even now my GP jokes that he has the hospital on speed-dial when he sees I have an appointment. For the appendix thing he swears I must have a stupidly high pain threshold as I described it as a 4/10 pain and only showed that it hurt when he did the press and release test on it. I should have been in agony apparently.

Was once walking down the street and just as I was about to cross the road over a side street, I had the sudden urge to stop and pull my sock up. It was weird because my sock didn't need pulling up.
Just as I stopped to do it, a car flew past doing well over the limit. If I hadn't stopped I 100% would have been hit.

The first time i met my dd's partner. I had a horrible feeling about him.
I could never have imagined what a evil bastard he turned out to be.

I love these discussions.

As well as the gift of fear you may find it interesting to look at Paul ekmans work. He’s the inspiration behind the tv show “lie to me”.

I ignored my gut when younger to my detriment. The result was my taking jobs that weren’t right for me, dating unsuitable boys for way too long and staying “friends” with people who really weren’t, it also I believe contributed to my experiences of assault.

Once I caught on to myself and started paying attention to my “gut” things much improved.

But I don’t believe it’s a supernatural thing I think it’s a combination of us picking up on body language, facial expressions, body aroma (I’m not saying odour as that’s a different thing. I’m talking about things like people’s natural odour changes when they’re lying, or aroused etc), changes in vocal pitch and stress on syllables etc.

I believe it’s a case of we learnt when these things signalled danger and so we evolved from our ancestors that did the same. It’s not survival of the fittest it’s survival of the ones that learned fastest!

But we’re socialised - especially girls & women to ignore these feelings especially around predatory boys and men. We really need to teach our daughters NOT to ignore our instincts.

My 2nd mc, very slight spotting but I insisted on being checked. Similar to pps very strongly felt something was very wrong way before any clear symptoms. Turned out to be a rare & complicated twin intrauterine and ectopic pregnancy. They missed the ectopic at first but I was luckily already in hospital when I started to deteriorate. If I’d been at work many miles from a hospital I dread to think.

Also when having dd, slow but not otherwise problematic labour, when I very suddenly was convinced there was something very wrong, and asked for a dr to check me over, within a few mins baby & I both took massive turn for the worse we were lucky to survive.

I’ve always known as soon as I meet someone whether they’re a decent person or not, I’ve only been wrong once - my ex - and he did a massive about turn that even his family and old friends were blindsided by. There’s another person I met at school, they’re well thought of and friends with many of my oldest and dearest friends - I’ve never trusted them, always thought they were fake and hiding their true personality, I’ve yet to be proved right on that one but I’m certain I will be, known them almost 35 years. Recently another in the same circle confided they feel the same but feel unable to say anything or not socialise with them with the others as the accepted opinion is they are lovely and harmless. Was a relief it wasn’t just me and the two of us CANNOT put our finger on what it is thats putting us off them. Anyone had an experience like this?

Sadeyed - sadly I think girls and women are better at reading people because we need to be! We’re more vulnerable.

to all who’ve suffered losses

another mum told me of how she dutifully went to her sons' sports events. cold, muddy, wet winter Saturday, a small huddle of parents standing on the side lines in local park. then a rather scruffy passer-by seemed to sidle up to her and tried to speak to her. she ignored him, and had a strong feeling of antipathy, so much so that she trudged all the way round to the far side of the pitch to get away from him.
turned out he was the headmaster. this was before the days of helicopter parents, so she had never seen him before.
some years later he was jailed for abusing boys. not her sons fortunately, but they said he did hang around the showers, they just laughed at him as ridiculous.

another one was a colleague returning to the office, on top deck of bus. field officer. near the office, felt uneasy when a 3 black youths came up the stairs. he then felt ashamed at what he presumed was unconscious prejudice, so suppressed the urge to go downstairs and get off bus early. they then threatened and robbed him.

I did a course on self-defence once, and it was emphasised to us to always respect your intuition. don't delay, get away.

I agree with a pp in most cases I don't think it's anything woo. In terms of not trusting someone I think you can pick up on their body language. I never liked a friends husband, he was very detached & he made me uncomfortable, friend also changed her behaviour around him. He was a wrong'un which didn't surprise me at all. Same with health if you fairly in tune with your body, I knew the moment I had conceived which sounds weird, my mum was the same.

I agree that women are more likely to read peoples behaviour as we are more vulnerable.

Not so much intuition but my husband and I will often be thinking of the exact same thing at the same time but way out of context.
For example I'll be thinking I must remember to book the dog into the vets next Saturday and he'll suddenly say did we ever get the dog booked into the vet. Sounds trivial but happens so often. I like it though 😂