To ask for times your intuition was right?

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Started reading the gift of fear today (if you can’t tell with this post 🌝) and would like to hear if anyone has ever had a gut feeling about a dangerous situation that turned out to be right?

Yep all the time. About people being twats, mostly.

I know someone who is massively popular and has a reputation for being absolutely lovely, generous, kind etc etc but I can’t get past the feeling that they are a complete fraud. It’s very awkward at times because I’m sure my suspicion shows on my face - and they haven’t actually done anything ‘wrong’. It must be micro tells that I am picking up on.

I always find myself watching people quite closely and considering their behaviour - I also think this is a legacy of my childhood. People will often behave or react in a certain way and I will think to myself, ‘I knew they were going to do that!’ Even when the behaviour is ostensibly quite unexpected.

Regarding the many pregnancy examples - I’m sure there must be a physical reason for them

Everybody will be able to relay an experience of their gut instinct being correct. They'll be quick to forget or ignore all the times it wasn't. Or all the times it didn't kick in at all. It's a load of nonsense.

Absolutely. A mixture of unconsciously picking up on things, recognising physical symptoms, and coincidence.

When I was nearly eleven I had a crush on one of my elder brother's friends and felt devastated when he said he was going to be away hitch-hiking round Europe all summer holidays.

About a month after he left, I woke up suddenly because I could hear him talking. He kept saying he couldn't see anything and it was completely dark, and he sounded really scared. It felt very important so I sat up in bed and told him each time he said it that it wasn't dark, light was shining in and the shadow of the tree outside was being thrown onto the bed. I don't know how long it went on for, but then it suddenly stopped being important and I went back to sleep and I'd forgotten it in the morning.

Only then I came in from the garden to have lunch and my mother was telling my elder brother that she'd had a phone call, and his friend had been in a lorry-crash in France two days earlier and been in a coma, with both legs and some ribs and his pelvis broken and a head injury, but he'd come round in the middle of the night and the doctors would be bringing him back to England as soon as he could be moved.

Even then it was just something strange that I didn't really want to talk about, but of course when he had come home and was well enough to see people and very bored, I was allowed to go and see him, and one day I asked him what being in a coma was like, and he said, well, nothing much because that was the whole point about being in a coma, you weren't there, but just before he came round he'd started to feel as if he were dreaming -- and then he described exactly what I had been telling him about that night, right down to the shapes of the shadows and that they must have been onto something uneven and that it all had square edges. And he said someone kept telling him it wasn't dark at all, and saying that the light was coming in. And then he woke up.

I suspect that probably counts as woo, and I have no idea whether it's intuition or not.... I simply knew as I was waking up he needed to be shown light, and that it was immensely important. And I never told him it was me, because I was so embarrassed by the very idea! oh the unrequited love of the pre-pubescent.

Age 11, begged my mum to take me home on a day out as I KNEW something bad had happened. Couldn't relax all day. Very out of character for me. We walked in to a trashed house that had been ransacked and burgled.

Age 16 - going away on a school trip to Europe. Couldn't wait but then on the way there I couldn't shake the feeling something was amiss. I was going to die (dramatic I know). We ended up involved in a coach crash near our hotel. 1 teacher taken to hospital and a few minor injuries of others but I will never forget the sense of relief that that is 'all' it was

2nd pregnancy I knew was not going to work. From the minute I found out I just didn't feel happy. I longed so much for it but the day I got the result I just felt an overwhelming sense of sadness. Low and behold I miscarried a month later
My 1st and 3rd pregnancies were fine and i never ever had that feeling of doom with them, it was really odd.

Intuition is an amazing thing. I always go with my first instincts now, regardless of how bizarre they may seem

AskingQuestions your experience is so difficult to explain. You never told anyone? Why do you think he came to you?

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Yes, it's because we've known since childhood that we have to be completely aware of the, well, in my case mother and be able to read the moods, attitude, whatever. We grow up on constant alert it's knackering at times but its kept me safe once or twice. It's like a heightened awareness of danger.
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Your story is amazing and definitely woo. I don't think that there is a rational explanation. Whatever it was it worked for your crush.

I’ve had feelings about people, I wouldn’t let my son play with a child who later turned out to sexually abuse another child.

I knew the second we had conceived DS1, and I also knew he would be a boy. Didn't have the same intuition with my subsequent three pregnancies.

I also knew that my great grandmother had died before the message arrived. We were on holiday in the US and as we arrived back at our hotel after a day out, I said, there is a message at reception and it's sad news about our great grandmother. In fact she was 98 so she'd had a wonderful life, but I was close to her and just knew.

I knew Ian Huntley had killed Holly and Jessica before it was even known he was under suspicion. There was just something about him that set alarm bells off for me (probably because of things I experienced as a child and therefore on high-alert all the time) so I wasn't surprised when they announced he was arrested and charged. My mum even rang me when she heard to say "I can't believe you were right and so so sure of it too". She even tells people to this day because I'd said it so calmly... he used to ingratiate himself and always seemed to be present with the news crews and I calmly said to my mum "he did it".

Many other examples... too many to mention.

Sometimes I have this voice, not like an inner voice but an actual voice that has snapped me out of my comfort zone on a few occasions. I'll be going about my business, everything seems normal and I'm maybe a bit on autopilot and I'll hear "Sassanacs"!! So loud it's like someone is with me (always a stern male voice) and immediately it'll get my hackles up, I'll get goose bumps etc and suddenly become hyper aware and change whatever I'm doing, A bit woo for some but it has served me well over the years and I NEVER ignore 'it'

I've often been told I have a policeman's nose, others describe it as a sixth sense or having an 'ability'

I get this ALL the time. Just yesterday we were walking with our 2 daughters to the park. Our 5 year old was on a scooter and was slightly ahead of us. I mentioned to my husband about the danger of hidden driveways, and jogged to catch up with her just in time to grab her when a car reversed really quickly out of a drive. My husband was a bit shocked that I'd only just said it.

I find I am often suspicious of people who seem "too nice" although that is more to do with my cynicism and the fact that I'm a grumpy so and so!

That said, I sometimes think people who constantly have a happy face on, never a bad word to say about anything ever etc are concealing something. Not necessarily anything bad but perhaps sadness about something or a secret anxiety and they try to paint a happy picture all the time to cope with the underlying problem when out in public.

It’s interesting how many of these are related to our babies.
I’ve woken up in the night plenty of times to grab DS just before he falls off the end of the bed!
I also knew with both grandfathers that it would be the last time I would see them.

Other than that, I don’t really get many of these. And I don’t ever trust my instincts anyway - maybe I just don’t listen hard enough?

Name change for this one.

I have a weird internal navigation thing. If I’ve been somewhere before I can generally point to it/drive there without needing to check a map or road signs, I just got with whichever feels right. I don’t own a sat nav and only need to use a nap on my phone to help me fine specific roads/shops.

Also, pre-children when I was despairing I had two different very strong visions of my future. One has happened (it was walking with DD) and on my more rational days I think to myself it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. The second I’m still waiting and seeing.

On the flip side though, there was a bit at university I was CONVINCED I was going to marry. He went AWOL and I’ve been happily with DH for 20years now...

I knew behind a shadow of a doubt when I was pregnant with dd1-before I'd even missed my due period. And I knew she would be ok-after having two prior miscarriages. And she was!

I have always been able to see hear and smell things most people can't notice. Not intuition but measurably more acute eg opticians always comment on my eyesight. It is common in my family. Consequently we often warn of things which can seem like woo but is simply that we smelled/ heard/ saw more or sooner.

Sometimes it is fun, like spotting friends in a crowd at a distance. Other times it can be a drag having to raise the alarm for whatever reason. And we find people exhausting, I think because we see their faces too clearly.

My 2nd pregnancy from the moment I got a positive test result I just knew it wouldnt last. I remember telling my husband and my friends that it just didn't feel right, everyone kept telling me I was being paranoid & all pregnancies are different but lo and behold I had a miscarriage a few weeks later.

Then my 3rd pregnancy I had an early scan as I had some bleeding. The dr told me there wasnt a baby and they did a blood test for hcg. But I didn't believe them. Later that night the dr rings & tells me my hcg is too high for there being no baby & it must be ectopic and I needed to come in right away. I refused, I just felt it was fine. Went to hospital the next day and another scan showed no baby so they prepped me for a chemotherapy drug that would kill off the pregnancy in my tube. Still I felt terrified, I didn't want to go through with it. Then another female dr spoke to me and said she would scan me once more and there it was, my baby boy. He had tucked himself away in my uterus (apparently I have a bicornate one??) And he's now 8!!

I get really obvious deja vue, like scarily accurate to the point it can sometimes be months later and I'll remember already dreaming about the exact moment. Once I dreamt about a friends episode, this was back when they were new and the USA premiered them months before the UK. My best friend had come back from 3 months in the US and we were discussing friends and I told her about an episode I remember seeing, I got it perfect right down to Chandler leaving his hat on a post box before fighting & it being stolen. My friend was shocked as she had just watched that episode in America and it hadnt even aired here

I knew I'd marry my DH the first time I met him. We went through a lot to be together but I stuck with it as I knew we'd get there eventually.
I knew the sex of my first baby from about 8 weeks. I was utterly convinced and I was right. Never got any feeling either way with DC2 and 3.
With DC3 I knew I was pregnant a few days after conception. I was walking up the stairs one day and just came over with an overwhelming feeling that I was. It took over a week after to get a positive test but I knew.

Not so much intuition but it's often when I think about my mum or best friend who live far away I get a call or text from them out of the blue that day to say hello.

I think intuition when it comes to DC is the strongest - I have had very strong gut feelings about not letting them go to sleepovers or certain places which at the time seemed irrational and overprotective but turned out to be the best decision. I also just know when something is bothering them no matter how much they might try to hide it. Even my DCs have said 'Mum how did you know'. I didn't know, I just felt it.

Mordred Absolute same story here (but not in Wrocław where, ironically, my dad is from!).

I was visiting a friend in her flat here in London. DS1 was 3 at the time and was playing oh so quietly in her DD's (2) bedroom. I'm having tea in the living room, talking with my friend, when literally, my dead uncle's voice booms inside my head and says, "GO!" I never had ANYTHING like that happen. It was realer than real, so to speak. I had that same sense as you- this urgency, the hairs on the back of my neck sticking straight up. I just left, mid-sentence and ran into check on the 'quiet' kids. They were both leaning out of a 5 storey window dropping small toys onto the pavement. My heart still stops, 15 years later, when I think about this.
It was such an ENTIRELY instinctual, panic-filled pull towards that bedroom.

Goodness, some of these stories! dontstepinthecowpat, your DH just saw his life flash before his eyes. His heart must still race when he revisits that memory! Yours too!

Backintime isn't that the truth? When you know, you know and there's just no rationale behind it other than a deep intuitive feeling that your apprehension towards something needs to be honoured.

No creepy examples from me, but I have a very strong intuition in business, and in social situations. Unfortunately not so hot on articulation!

Time and experience have shown me that I need to trust my gut more - which means working on articulating my instincts well enough to persuade people.

I grew up as the youngest in a fairly disfunctional household, which does make sense. I had two adults and two teens to read day in day out, and learn a lot about situations that might upset me.

(my husband will make friends with Anyone, and I'm always telling him after five minutes "don't bother with him, he's a twat" - he's learned to accept that as gospel!)

These are so interesting! I totally understand with the knowing you’re pregnant thing. My first pregnancy I kept saying I was pregnant from the moment I (thought) I ovulated, I just knew. I missed a period and still nothing. Ended up having a 60 day cycle and I kept saying it’s fine, I’m pregnant, even though I was getting negative tests still. Turned out I was and on the dating scan I hadn’t even ovulated at the time I first said I was pregnant. Intuition is so strange

Buying a new (to us car) I took an immediate dislike to the salesman. To the point I refused to talk to him or shake his hand or let our children sit beside him in a test drive.

My DH thought I was over-egging the "dislike the salesman" thing

A year later my DH sent me a news link. The car salesman had raped and murdered one woman and had tried with two others. He was on drugs and his young son was in the house at the time.

I think my DH trusts my intuition now.

Another minor one is we're driving home in the dark and I say - better watch out for foxes (never said it since or before then)... and about 5 minutes later a fox ran in front of us!

I believe my gut feeling these days and sometimes it's difficult because it goes against what you are hearing/seeing from other people and society in general! I have learnt to trust my own gut feeling and there have been lots of examples in the past couple of years where what my body and brain were feeling/warning me against was spot on.