Put a f*cking blanket over your baby

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It’s horrible day- freezing light rain that sticks to your & face ice cold wind.

Nevertheless, am I still seeing 6 month old babies being strolled around in the pram wearing nothing but a coat, jeans and socks. No blanket, no raincover. Meanwhile their parents are dawdling by wearing a nice thick coat, a hat and a pair of gloves.

Are these people stupid or lazy? AIBU?

I'm sure you'd have judged me, I never remembered blankets or cosy toes when mine were little. I don't feel the cold much and they don't seem to either. It's not that cold....

Yup. Saw one couple of days ago. Shivering bundled up parents with puffer coats/gloves/hats/scarves/long boots and a small child of about one with blue feet (no socks, no shoes, no blanket). His feet were literally BLUE. However, I'm not going to pretend that I give a shit about someone else's babies. Natural selection.

There's something amusing about it, though. I lived in another European country for a long time. All small children and babies were appropriately dressed: coats/shoes/hats/blankets in winter, summer dresses/tshirts/shorts in summer. NEVER have I ever saw a baby with blue toes without blanket or at least shoes in winter. Not once in 24 years. Must be different babies, though. Some special super obedient kind, not kicking all those blankets off all the time..

Mine would defo never keep a blanket on, so we use the warm muff thing (not entirely sure that’s what it’s called). She chucks her hat and gloves off though, and I do wonder if I’m being judged when it’s really cold.

Often on MN it’s claimed that no one is judging, everyone is too busy with their own lives. It’s clear there is a huge amount of judgement and it’s all targeted at mothers by other women who should know better.

Hear hear. I never felt so judged as when my children were small, felt like someone was always watching what you were doing, to try and catch you out for anything they perceived as less than perfection. Usually so they can get some sad frisson of pleasure from telling a young woman off. Or having a good gossip about irresponsible young mothers today to their friends or online.

the mind your own business types are always the ones whenever something dreadful has happened to a young child. start shouting why did nobody notice or say anything

DS1 would remove and discard any shoes, socks or blankets I put on him, for 95% of the year. I even got a lovely snuggly buggy sleeping bag type thing, to ensure he couldn't kick it off. He screamed absolute blue murder whenever I put him in it! He still runs hot now, at 14. He's the one sweating in a thin t shirt whole I'm bundled in jumpers, coat and hat. He sleeps under a summer duvet in winter and refuses to wear pj's as they make him 'boiling'. He's perfectly healthy.

I got several lectures from well meaning strangers about it and had to practice biting my tongue hard.

But the OP didn’t say anything Evilspiritgin. Didn’t do anything useful or constructive. Just slagged the woman off on here.

What good is this thread going to do?

There are thousands of parents reading it so some might take the Put a Fucking Blanket Over Your Baby message on board.

That's far better than approaching a random parent in the street with some sort of intervention isn't it? Let's be realistic that would never go down particularly well. And as protesters on here point out, there could be mitigating circumstances with an individual case.

I literally do not give a flying rats ass what other people's kids are wearing

My 2 year old kicks blanket off in her buggy nothing I can do to stop her doing so!!!
Your very judgemental

Call SS on me! My 2 year old unzipped her coat whilst strapped into the buggy and I couldn’t put the blanket back on because she threw it in a muddy puddle. She was also trying to take her shoes off.

I'm pretty sure 99% of parents know when they're baby is cold or not. I've never even walked past one person ignoring a cold wet baby in a pram, let alone multiple people. So I'd imagine the OP is being OTT.

If anyone had come up to me and chastised me for not dressing my child appropriately, I'd have told them to get fucked.

I know what's best for my own child, thanks very much and goodbye.

I lived in another European country for a long time. All small children and babies were appropriately dressed: coats/shoes/hats/blankets in winter, summer dresses/tshirts/shorts in summer. NEVER have I ever saw a baby with blue toes without blanket or at least shoes in winter. Not once in 24 years. Must be different babies, though

Well I lived in the UK for 29 years and NEVER saw a baby with blue toes without blanket or at least shoes in winter. Not ONCE! So does the UK win?

There's something amusing about it, though. I lived in another European country for a long time. All small children and babies were appropriately dressed: coats/shoes/hats/blankets in winter, summer dresses/tshirts/shorts in summer. NEVER have I ever saw a baby with blue toes without blanket or at least shoes in winter. Not once in 24 years. Must be different babies, though. Some special super obedient kind, not kicking all those blankets off all the time..

Oh, where was this Utopia? Inyourheadland?

I thought DS wouldn't wear a hat, but he's kept it on recently, when it's been actually cold. He just runs quite hot. I can't get that worked up about it, especially given that overheating is so much more dangerous for tiny babies than being a bit cold.

'Cold babies cry, hot babies die', said my health visitor. It stuck with me!

I actually had the opposite experience last spring - clearly remember it. It was April and a balmy 18 degrees in London. There was a baby of about 8 or 9 months being pushed along with a cosy toes, thick winter coat and thick woollen hat. I remember being because personally I would have assumed the child would be sweating buckets dressed like that on such a day, but then I reasoned that presumably the child's parents knew full well how to dress their own child and got the fuck on with my own life. Try it sometimes OP.

Is there some secret epidemic of babies in the UK getting frostbite and hypothermia whilst wearing coats in double digit temperatures? Someone should alert the Daily Mail.

Probably the same people who put a blanket over for shade in the summer.
Yanbu

What’s wrong with shade?

You'd think so by reading this thread, Cohle, wouldn't you?

If a baby's lips were turning it could be hypoxic from choking and you probably should have said something.

In real life, away from the hyperbole, When I was being judged... I knew my baby best and she ran hot. I'd already felt her neck 20 times, her sweaty, boiling neck, so your judgement would have been useless. She now plays in the snow in a hoodie at 9 and comes in boiling hot. Why don't you donate some kids' clothes to a shelter or women's refuge and actually do some good?

YABU

They need a snowsuit because blankets get blown away and kicked off.

Yes this really bothers me too! When dd was small we had a 'cosy toes' in the buggy - like a little sleeping bag pod thing and it was brilliant! She loved it too and was always toasty warm inside it.

YANBU OP. I hate seeing this.

Ok I’ll bite!

Maybe if the baby/child wasn’t in a forward facing buggy, but facing their mum/dad/nanny/granny/personal assistant, who was able to engage with them, they’d be distracted enough to not be focusing on pulls ng their clothes/covers off....

Bring on the hate, I can take it