Not saying hello to dog walker

[liferr]

My husband and I are both able to work from home a couple of times a week but we have a dog walker for consistency.

I mostly just shout hi to her or pretend I'm not in. Dh thinks I'm rude for not going up to dog walker and saying hello in person. Can't be arsed tbh. Especially if I haven't bothered to put my bra on!

Do you say hello every time?

Aibu?

I personally think it's fine. She knows you are working and it seems you great her well. She's probably glad not to get held up with small talk aswell.

I'd be the same

Haven't read all the responses but maybe the next time you do see her properly just explain that when you are working from home you often can't leave your desk and sometimes have your pj's on. It sounds like you have a good relationship with her so she should understand.

I am a dog Walker of one, and when I go and pick him up, sometimes there's someone there, so I will just go in I have a key and shout hi, as I go in, if they are downstairs they do say morning back and a little small talk, sometimes although the car is there and door is unlocked, it's like no one is around, I suppose that they could be upstairs maybe in a office working.

A quick shout out hi, if it on the phone etc , is fine. I've known many dog walkers "complain" that owners want to have a chit chat; its fine if the walker has time to chat!

THIS. ☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️Maybe those people demanding that the OP should go waste the dog walkers time, should actually read what the dog walkers have to say on here, FFS!! 🙄

I find that rude. I’m a nanny/housekeeper and my boss is stay at home mum. I find it really off of age doesn’t come to say hi when I get there, fine if she’s busy but it’s usually just reading a book or on her phone

I absolutely LOATHE silly small talk. Don't see the point in it. I would say hi if I bumped into her in the hall but there is NO need to get up from your work and approach her and pass comment on the weather, the price of cabbage, Mrs Smith from the post office's gammy leg, that the birds don't seem to be eating the sunflower seeds you left out but you are sure you saw a blue tit eating the dogs shit yesterday, Brexit, the first daffodil that has appeared in your garden overnight or the cramps you had last night from the large Toblerone you polished off while watching Midsomer Murders. I am sure she is delighted to escape the jibber jabber Jackanory story too!

comment on the weather, the price of cabbage, Mrs Smith from the post office's gammy leg, that the birds don't seem to be eating the sunflower seeds you left out but you are sure you saw a blue tit eating the dogs shit yesterday, Brexit, the first daffodil that has appeared in your garden overnight or the cramps you had last night from the large Toblerone you polished off while watching Midsomer Murders.

My lads would probably say that’s a very apt description of my phone calls with them! 😳

Come on, people, it’s not rude in the LEAST. You sound a little like an introvert; we hate small talk. It’s a transaction— you pay her, she walks your dog. End of. I don’t understand all this guilt-tripping. For goodness’ sake. Your house your rules. You’re not having your dog walker over for cocktails!

Oh it's totally fine, OP! I'd say secretly, your dog walker is relieved. She knows why you don't talk to her. It's not a personal thing at all. She's just doing a job.

Why not just shout hi, have a nice walk, or something like that, you don’t have to go and greet her in person.

she probably doesn't care .....and just accepts your busy.

YANBU at all OP. Does DH chat to her? Funny how women are expected to be chatty.

she sometimes reminds my dog she won't be walking her tomorrow as she has a dentist appointment (in a loud voice)

She does sound hilarious though! I’m sure she likes you just fine, ignore DH.

Wow - who are these dogwalkers who have time to talk every drop off and pick up (when there are dogs waiting in the car!!) My dogwalker marches in and out, time for a quick clean of paws and a hi and bye if I'm around and we chat over whatsapp instead. I don't come down from upstairs if I'm working in the loft and I know (because I've asked) that they really just want to get the dogs out or back home.

Ignore the overreaction YANBU.

You acknowledge her in other ways and she's there to do a job, I'm sure she isn't interested in a full blown convo with every client she has.

Just check in once in a while and all is well. She's there to work not socialise.

How would you feel if you were treated the same way?

How would you feel if you were treated the same way?

Bloody delighted, just like the rest of the dog walkers on here!!

Honest to Gaia, the number of posters on here berating the OP for not paying attention to the dog walker, while they can’t even be arsed to read the responses from actual dog walkers, is unbelievable!!

This made me laugh.i sit my friends adoreable dog,hes nearly 7 ive sat him since he was a puppy.Love him like my own,i cant imagine her ever letting anyone she hardly speaks to sitting her dog, hes her baby,we worked together,ive done this since i retired shes still working.I get a text every morning and a phone call every lunch time..I know im a friend as well as dog sitter but not speaking seems rude,

*My retired mum stays with my dog when Dh and I are out during the day. My girl has an amazing life.

She fusses over him but doesn't have the strength to walk him to the fields and back.

I walk my dog everyday at 7 - twice if Dh is not in. And we attend agility training together. She is groomed daily, played with often and even massaged. I'm far from a lazy owner.*

@liferr bit confused about your dog's apparent sex change in this post?!

If you absolutely can't get away from what you're doing then it's probably OK imo, but if it's because you just can't be arsed then that's poor form. Doubt the dog walker will care you're in your pyjamas.

Bold fail

I walk a dog. Her owners are lovely but I am there for the dog, I don't need them to come and greet me. YANBU

If I were your dog walker, I’d prefer it, daily small talk is such a chore - much easier to shout hi and bye imo.

If I were the dogwalker, knowing you were busy working and therefore not wanting interruptions, I would not be offended at all. Probably glad not to have to do the smalltalk. Dogwalker herself no doubt just wants to get on.

If I was the dog walker, I would probably rather you just shouted hello or didn't bother tbh. I hate making small talk. I would love to be a dog walker for the sheer fact you don't have to talk to people

I'm another who'd much rather not have to chit-chat awkwardly. Actually, if I were a dog-walker it would be at least in part because I'm more comfortable talking to dogs than people.