To not feel sorry for colleague ripped off at strip club?

[Bibbiditybobbidy]

30 year old colleague went to a well known strip club on a stag do, and woke up the next day with £7k missing from bank acct.
He was so drunk it appears he managed to spend all that without knowing. When he complained they sent him evidence of himself ( CCTV) at the bar authorising each transaction, times receipts etc
He parents have had to lend him ££ as he’s at his over draft limit and he’s paying them back.
He’s weeping and wailing about it but I just think he’s been an arse and should learn as lesson AIBU? He’s getting lots of sympathy about the ‘injustice’ of it in the office... but he's exactly the kind of guy to show off in front of his mates playing the big man, while he’s actually a bit of a beta male...I have NO sympathy for him, the little creep!

[AutumnRose1]

Oh I posted about this club, it might be shut down

I find it hilarious

But if he has authorised the transactions, he hasn’t a leg to stand on. Being legless (sorry) - is that a defence in law? Can he say “they could see I was hammered and shouldn’t have taken money”?

[Poppinjay]

I can't feel sorry for anyone who gets 'ripped off' in a strip club. He shouldn't have been in one in the first place.

One thing I learned from a few years working behind a bar is that alcohol doesn't change people. It just sometimes removes their inhibitions so you can see more clearly what they are really like.

He wanted whatever he was buying. He just made some rash decisions in order to keep enjoying himself that he wouldn't have made had he been sober.

He's learned an important lesson. Let's hope it puts him off risking contributing to the profits of these abhorrent places in future.

[Bluerussian]

I vote you are not being unreasonable but I can't help feeling sorry for the guy even if he did behave like an ass. People make mistakes. This is a big one that he will, hopefully, never repeat. However it could have been worse, he could have accidentally killed someone whilst drunk, imagine that? At least nobody died and he will recover.

Let's be a bit kind, what's done is done. £7k s a helluva lot of money to fritter away in one go!

[Cautionsharpblade]

As @CurrynChips has pointed out, it’s illegal to sell alcohol to someone who is drunk. It sounds like the club has sent him CCTV evidence of themselves doing just that. They’re breaking the conditions of their licence. I suggest he take things further with the local licensing authority if he can’t reach an amicable agreement with the club.

[Ishotmrburns]

Getting drunk and spending all of your money on strippers is not being scammed, it's just being stupid.

I don't think it's especially bad because it's strippers, if that's what you're asking. It's no different to spending it all on alcohol, drugs, puppy dogs or cakes. He just got drunk and fucked up. He needs to learn his lesson and move on.

[BumbleBeee69]

okay I'll bite...

What the actual FUCK..can possibly cost £7K in a Strip Club ?!

[AtrociousCircumstance]

Good.

He loved the idea of being on the seemingly powerful end of treating human beings as commodities, using them like objects because he had the money to do it.

Doesn’t like it so much when the gross system treated him like the pathetic punter he is, does he?

Nasty little prick. His poor parents.

[AnArrestableOffence]

I don't really get why sex is the only place where we generally agree that it's not appropriate to take advantage of a drunk person.
Someone who is clearly intoxicated shouldn't be able to spend 7k in one venue without questions being asked.

[NameChangeNugget]

I think he has a case. Taking all moral opinion out of the equation and the usual excitement on here about strip clubs, they have broken the conditions of their license. From memory under the Police Reform and Social Responsibility Act 2011.

[BumbleBeee69]

OP was this in the Papers just recently ?

news.sky.com/story/strip-club-could-lose-its-licence-after-fleecing-a-man-out-of-50-000-11901952

[Natsel84]

hustlers comes to mind .. maybe he should get the DVD

[Franticbutterfly]

This made me lol. If you get too pissed and spend all your money it’s no one’s fault but your own. Maybe he’ll cut back on his boozing now.

[NarwhalsNarwhals]

No sympathy, he got drunk and lost track of what he was spending which is easily done and quite annoying, I'm quite good at it especially on payday (which is why I now take cash on nights out not my card and have taken amazon and ebay off my phone) but the important thing here is being drunk doesn't change what you want to buy it just removes the bit that tells you no, you can't afford that.

So drunk me gets overly generous buying people drinks and then buys presents for sober me, that sober me would have bought but knows I really can't afford and/or don't actually need. If drunk him is buying private dances that is because he wanted private dances.

[Poppinjay]

He may not have been 'clearly intoxicated'. Maybe the club have sent him the CCTV evidence because he looks relatively sober and they haven't broken any laws.

[PanicAndRun]

Meh I don't see why anyone would have any sympathy for him.

Shit happens.

Strip clubs don't make their money from bowls of peanuts and £5 notes thrown on the stage.

[percheron67]

After I was married my husband told me that he had gone to a European country on business, picked up two prostitutes and took them back to his hotel. He was a very heavy drinker and passed out. In the morning he discovered that they had taken all the money in his wallet.

Strange thing is, that he could never understand why I suddenly went off sex with him!!

[CorneliusBeefington]

BumbleBeee69

Champagne, the mark up is insane, £400-£1k a bottle. Drinks in general, a bucket of six beers can be £25+.

"Sit downs" with a dancer £3-400 an hour plus the club fee on top, rounds it up to maybe £4/500 an hour each. Just means that the dancer is taken off stage rotation, the customer has paid for their time exclusively. Once a dancer had clocked that the customer is a wannabe Billy Big Bollocks she will have asked him to invite her friends. So maybe two or three dancers, on a sit down for a few hours, easily tots up.

Every card transaction will have had a club charge. (£20 > £25, £50 > £60, £100 > £125 etc)

[Feelingabitashamed]

Bloody hell that is a HUGE amount of money.

Is he claiming someone was pushing the drinks and dances on him and he was just agreeing every time as he was so drunk?

I don't like strip clubs or people using them (trafficking etc) but if they were giving someone blind drunk the hard sell that is a bit out of order.

If not, and he was ordering more booze and dances of his own volition, plus compos mentis enough to remember his PIN each transaction (I'm assuming it wasn't hundreds of purchases under £30) then it's his own silly fault.

[CooCooCoo]

Well, I hope the girls made a tidy amount and the club didn’t take too much of a cut

[RicketyLangClegety]

Sounds like he got scammed. I don't believe he knew how much the evening was costing, and the bar took advantage of that. It's an unethical business, being unethical.

[HuntIdeas]

Sounds like he was definitely taken advantage of while intoxicated and surely the strip club is on dodgy ground morally and legally? It is illegal to sell alcohol to someone who is intoxicated. Was in a position to consent to spending that money?

[AgeLikeWine]

What the actual FUCK..can possibly cost £7K in a Strip Club ?

Table reservations with bottles of Cristal champagne and super-premium vodka costing hundreds of pounds each. Add on private dances at £30 or more per dancer per song an it’s very easy to spend a fortune.

A fool and his money....

[DesireesChild]

A fool and his money....

A creep and his money...

I haven't a shred of sympathy for him.

[BumbleBeee69]

Champagne, the mark up is insane, £400-£1k a bottle. Drinks in general, a bucket of six beers can be £25+

"Sit downs" with a dancer £3-400 an hour plus the club fee on top, rounds it up to maybe £4/500 an hour each. Just means that the dancer is taken off stage rotation, the customer has paid for their time exclusively. Once a dancer had clocked that the customer is a wannabe Billy Big Bollocks she will have asked him to invite her friends. So maybe two or three dancers, on a sit down for a few hours, easily tots up.

Every card transaction will have had a club charge. (£20 > £25, £50 > £60, £100 > £125 etc)

jesus christ