I am currently 5 months pregnant with my first baby. I have an older sister who is also pregnant (slightly further on, around 8 months) with her 3rd baby. My parents are generally very supportive and caring but when my sister has neared the end of her pregnancies they begin to make demands about how they want to be kept in the loop during/after labour. As I get closer to my own due date they have also started to drop hints to me and I know they will be making similar demands soon. My dad is much worse than my mum, he does not ask politely, but instead makes clear demands. His first is usually that both him and my mum expect to be the first phonecall to let them know the baby has been born (fair enough, I know I will want to tell my parents first, but his approach is quite rude as he doesn’t ‘ask’, instead he ‘tells’ us abruptly that this is what we have to do). Secondly, he will frequently tell our partners that they have a responsibility to keep him and my mum updated on progress throughout labour. With my sisters 2 previous labours, her partner did not send enough texts/make enough phone calls to keep him happy and he still complains about how her partner kept them in the dark for hours on end during her long labours. He never says anything to my sister or her partners face about this but he will complain to me and other close family members still until this day. Thirdly my parents are extremely competitive when it comes to seeing the baby once it is born. They will always ensure that they are the first people to see the baby, by showing up early for hospital visiting times etc. For my sisters first baby they tried to convince me that she would want them to be waiting at her house for her to arrive home so they could greet her and her newborn coming home from the hospital. My sister and I have spoken about this at length and I knew she would want to spend her first few hours at home settling in with her partner and new baby. I managed to convince them to wait at home for a few hours until they were invited over by my sister although they weren’t very happy to do this. My sister and I have talked about this at length and although she finds it really annoying, she has went along with what they wanted for the most part and does not argue. I am not quite as easy going as my sister and am finding the demands to be really irritating. I have told my partner that I don’t want him to be distracted during my labour by having to call my parents every time something happens (my dad has already told him he expects to kept up to date with my progress during labour). AIBU to think it’s quite selfish of my parents to make these demands? I just want to be able to get through my labour without having any other unnecessary stress or distractions. I have tried to tell them this is adding to my stress about going in to labour but their response has been ‘that’s very selfish of you to want to make us worry for hours on end not knowing how you are, we aren’t asking for much’. What is the right thing to do???