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To not describe your poo in great detail?

92 replies

MrsH99 · 25/01/2020 20:09

Wasn't all that sure where to post this but here goes anyways. Not really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but does anyone else's other half feel the need to let you know everytime they go for a shit and then afterwards describe said shit in great detail? DH lets me know everytime he's going for a BM and then most of the time tells me all about it afterwards (size, smell, you name it). I'm not sure if I'm being prudish or what but it kind of grosses me out and makes me feel a tad uncomfortable - as in, what on earth am I supposed to say to that!? He's the only man I've ever lived with so I have no idea if this is a guy thing or not!

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Tellingitlikeitisnt · 25/01/2020 20:11

If my DH did this I would tell him in no uncertain terms that it’s very weird and he needs to shut up

Does your DH have a fetish?

ZooeyS · 25/01/2020 20:12

Envy - not envy.

I don't think I would want to have sex with him. Like, ever.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 25/01/2020 20:12

Er.....
No. Most definitely not.
Our longest conversation about bowel habits was "Might want to give it five minutes before going in there."

HappyAsASandboy · 25/01/2020 20:13

No, this is not normal. I have had several long term relationships including living with men, and been married for 10+ years and no man has ever described a poo to me unless it was expressly asked for and in relation to a child's health.

Queenoftheashes · 25/01/2020 20:13

It’s not normal. Sometimes I get informed that that it was grim or not to go into the bathroom but people don’t generally feel the need to give you a detailed image.

slipperywhensparticus · 25/01/2020 20:14

That sounds wrong

And I say this as someone who showed her son the Bristol poo chart to see if he had diarrhoea

DesLynamsMoustache · 25/01/2020 20:15

Eww. I'm not squeamish about poo at all but this is way TMI! Why would you care anyway? Confused

june2007 · 25/01/2020 20:15

No not unless it is unusual to the norm or linked to a health condition.

Hahaha88 · 25/01/2020 20:15

Ewwwww wtf would you do that

june2007 · 25/01/2020 20:15

Perhaps you can give a copy of a Bristol chart to help him.

Sparklesocks · 25/01/2020 20:15

I’m not in a relationship with a teenage boy so no!

DesLynamsMoustache · 25/01/2020 20:16

And yes I've never met another adult who has described their poo to me in that kind of detail! 🤮

TriangleBingoBongo · 25/01/2020 20:16

My DH does occasionally if he feels it was noteworthy. Recently he had a lot of blood in it so he discussed that with me and I also asked as I was concerned.

I don’t need to hear about it all the time though, nor do I pay that much attention to my own.

SimonJT · 25/01/2020 20:16

Last week mine summoned me into the bathroom to view his giant shit, I have no idea how he got something that big out of his bum.

APatchyTomCat · 25/01/2020 20:17

Er no.

TigerOnATrain · 25/01/2020 20:18

@MrsH99

Grim. FFS tell him - firmly and loudly - that you have NO DESIRE WHATSOVER to hear any details of his sweaty greasy smelly fucking shits!

Just ask him 'what the fuck is wrong with you? Do you have some kind of shit fetish???'

orangejuicer · 25/01/2020 20:18

Not normal!

KellyHall · 25/01/2020 20:19

That's gross.

My husband does loads of gross things too, I feel your pain OP.

My dh picks his nose and eats it; blows his nose and tries to show me big snots; farts a lot (and they f-ing stink!); puts a finger on one nostril and blows snot out of the other nostril - in the street, in the shower; has properly smelly feet and doesn't wash them often enough. I could go on but I'm feeling a bit sick seeing it all listed out!

AriadnesFilament · 25/01/2020 20:19

What? Why?! Does he get a kick out of making you squirm?

MsAwesomeDragon · 25/01/2020 20:20

My dh has bowel problems, so when having a flare up he can be pooing up to 10 times a day. He does not discuss any of them with me, thank God. The only reason I even know when he's having a flare up is that I notice the more frequent trips to the toilet.

Toucan123 · 25/01/2020 20:21

Have you ever told him to stop telling you about his bathroom visits? Does he just continue to do it anyway? If any DP of mine did this it would put me right off him. What a massive turn-off and such a weird and pointless thing to do.

Pr1mus · 25/01/2020 20:22

It's okay youre not alone! My DP does this too 😂 he's called me in to look and all sorts! I just let it go over my head nowadays and try to look at it from a positive point of view, he must be pretty comfortable around me to talk to me about that shit (pun not intended 😂) 'cause I'd never dream of discussing my bowel movements with another human being! 😂

Fishcakey · 25/01/2020 20:22

We discuss our poo in great detail all the time. It's just poo! I have IBS and I love a poo discussion. Quite a few of my friends love a poo discussion too. I always thought talking about poo was normal!

Shockers · 25/01/2020 20:24

Sometimes, if I have one of those ones that leaves me feeling actually empty, I’ll mention to DH that it was a really good poo... Blush

DrManhattan · 25/01/2020 20:24

Massive turn off