To not describe your poo in great detail?

[MrsH99]

Wasn't all that sure where to post this but here goes anyways. Not really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but does anyone else's other half feel the need to let you know everytime they go for a shit and then afterwards describe said shit in great detail? DH lets me know everytime he's going for a BM and then most of the time tells me all about it afterwards (size, smell, you name it). I'm not sure if I'm being prudish or what but it kind of grosses me out and makes me feel a tad uncomfortable - as in, what on earth am I supposed to say to that!? He's the only man I've ever lived with so I have no idea if this is a guy thing or not!

Poo talk with dp = weird
Poo talk with dp about ddogs poo= normal everyday chat

So the first time it happened, why did you see him again afterwards?

@Fishcakey

We discuss our poo in great detail all the time. It's just poo! I have IBS and I love a poo discussion. Quite a few of my friends love a poo discussion too. I always thought talking about poo was normal!

NOPE. It's not.

@KellyHall

My dh picks his nose and eats it; blows his nose and tries to show me big snots; farts a lot (and they f-ing stink!); puts a finger on one nostril and blows snot out of the other nostril - in the street, in the shower; has properly smelly feet and doesn't wash them often enough. I could go on but I'm feeling a bit sick seeing it all listed out!

Are you actually kidding? Why the fuck are you with this creature?

I love a poo discussion. Quite a few of my friends love a poo discussion too

I've entered a parallel universe 🤮

Jesus Christ, what the fuck is wrong with some people?

Not nice, rather schoolboyish to be frank.

Yuck. No this is not normal. How do people find each other remotely attractive when they reach this base level?

The more I read threads on Mumsnet the happier I am that I'm a spinster for life!

when i'm at my grandparents me and my grandfather do this sometimes for a laugh, his favourite term is a 'baby's arm' which is a long, thick, sturdy poo.

But your OH doing it all the time is rather odd.

@Fishcakey I also love a good poo talk.

I tell DP if I've been constipated and then I have a massive poo after laxatives/prunes ect. I also tell him if a remarkable big one comes up.

Dp tells me when his poo smells like baby poo.

We also talk to each other whilst having a poo.

My DH has been known to WhatsApp me photos if he's particularly proud 🤮

I hate it, it makes me want to throw up and I've told him not to repeatedly but he finds it hilarious

My DH wouldn’t even try and tell me, not if he wants to say married anyway.....

YANBU, your dh is 🤮

No way. My dp was just super coy about explaining that it wasn’t that he doesn’t like curry but that one type ‘impacts him’... he couldn’t even say ‘it gives me the runs’.

No man I’ve lived with has ever been this graphic, ew.

Just putting it out here.
A few years ago I would have gone with your way of thinking. DH now has advanced bowel cancer, maybe if he’d been more like yours I would have made him go to the doctors earlier.

I can see from the range of responses it seems to be a personal thing. I fall on the side of 'I'd rather set my eyeballs on fire than talk about my shit with anyone'.

I think it might be a family thing with DH - they're all kind of open with each other about things although I have to admit I don't remember them all talking among each other about their respective shits!

The fetish thing did, unfortunately, cross my mind but I don't think it's that - and to be honest don't really care if he does have a fetish about it so long as he never brings it up with me or expects me to participate in whatever sort of fetish it is. I think he's either not grown up or doesn't see it as being a problem being open about that kind of thing.

But the two posters who said their DH asks them in to look at their poo - really? Wow lol DH has never asked me to do that, I can't think of anything worse to be honest.

Whoops, posted too soon!
I just meant that he didn’t pick up on symptoms that would have raised alarm bells with me.

@Fishcakey I'm with you...And I know many people who have the poo discussion with their dp's too. It's pretty normal as far as I'm concerned.

www.chroniclebooks.com/products/poo-log

Buy him this, and he can record it instead of telling you. There are also apps for that. Apparently.

No that's not right. Tell him to stop it.

😂

Mine told me he had one brewing so I said really so do I! Hasnt said it again since

My ex would leave the door open when having a BM. We were in a tiny flat, all one floor and bathroom right in the middle. Once I'd realised and walked past mortified I'd stay in one room until he was done but then he would then shout me to come in and ask or tell me something pointless. Was usually naked too. Along with straining, wiping his bum and checking the toilet roll I think he got off on it. Maybe he enjoyed me being uncomfortable. It kinda made a bit more sense when I was asked when I'd start leaving the door open- suffice to say I would go to the toilet anywhere but home. I would end up with a bad stomach but at this point he started barging in and I wasn't allowed a lock. A wee fine, don't mind that but meh.
He was controlling and violent but this I found so so uncomfortable and odd.

And I know many people who have the poo discussion with their dp's too

How do you even know that?

Not in a million years! DH will tell me when he's heading to the toilet, and that's bad enough. The only time I'll happily discuss a bowel movement (with him or anybody) is after one of the Zoiddogs has had an upset stomach.

@Fishcakey I'm also with you on this.
I mean, we don't always talk about it but it's just part of life at the end of the day. I have IBS and he does mega turds that often block the toilet. We live in a small flat so not a huge amount of privacy, better just to laugh about it imo!