To not describe your poo in great detail?

[MrsH99]

Wasn't all that sure where to post this but here goes anyways. Not really a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but does anyone else's other half feel the need to let you know everytime they go for a shit and then afterwards describe said shit in great detail? DH lets me know everytime he's going for a BM and then most of the time tells me all about it afterwards (size, smell, you name it). I'm not sure if I'm being prudish or what but it kind of grosses me out and makes me feel a tad uncomfortable - as in, what on earth am I supposed to say to that!? He's the only man I've ever lived with so I have no idea if this is a guy thing or not!

@Iooselipssinkships wow that just sounds so creepy. That would make me so uncomfortable.

@steff13 You know I actually would buy him that, he might then get the message, or probably not lol.

The more I read threads on Mumsnet the happier I am that I'm a spinster for life!

You and me both. That women share their living space and even shag these fucking mingers makes my skin crawl. 🤮

This is very odd - I've never been in a relationship where someone would do that!

My OH gives me a full report but he is a paramedic and is just used to that sort of thing. It goes over my head or I just find it funny. The point is though you're not comfortable with it and he needs to understand that. Like another poster said tell him in no uncertain terms you are not interested and want him to stop.

My youngest son used to liken his to all sorts (potatoes, doughnuts cats) but that stopped when he was 4...with me and DH it's not a general topic of discussion, no.

Though since that Reddit thread we've occasionally announced with glee 'It may be time for the POOP KNIFE'.

Only talked about it since having my DD. Mainly because I now have a rectocele and occasional piles. Who knew post childbirth having a normal BM would count as a treat!?
It's allowed him to be more open about how his IBS affects him too.

Not sure I'd want too many details in the general scheme of things though.

I think it might be a family thing with DH - they're all kind of open with each other about things

This is my DH. I came from a family that never even heard each other fart because if you needed to do such a thing you went to the bathroom and did it in private. I’m still furious, several years later, that DH felt it was acceptable to fart in front on my 86 year old grandmother. I’ve learnt to shut out the details of his daily sh*t. You really do desensitise after 20 years of marriage.
TBF it annoys me more that he leaves his dirty plate in the sink rather than putting it in the dishwasher more than hearing about how ‘that one was almost a blocker’... that one stung..... let’s not have sweet corn for a while’ < not envy

My exh used to send me picture messages if he was particularly proud.
Can’t imagine why he had hit 35 and never had a girl friend before me or why the marriage lasted less than a year!

DH and I make the odd jokey comment, but even then with no actual details.
From now on, just hold up your hand and bellow ‘no details’ at your DH until he gets the message and stops talking. I can’t believe you have put up with it for so long!

@Thewomeninthemirror I'd call the police if someone did that!

Normal in our house. Frequently called to admire a large specimen, dh was very proud of one which disappeared under the bend and out of the top of the water. Doesn't bother me at all but I spent a long time as an older peoples nurse and poo was a big part of the day, either trying to stop people pooing too much or making them go.

We only ever discuss if one of us is poorly and then only in fleeting terms, to show we care.

I think it’s abnormal and unnecessary to discuss what we all do, in any more detail.

@AlexaAmbidextra

You and me both. That women share their living space and even shag these fucking mingers makes my skin crawl. 🤮

😂 LOL! made me laugh that did! Agree totally too!

If my DP sent me a pic of his shite I would rub his nose in my next one

Our longest conversation about bowel habits was "Might want to give it five minutes before going in there."

"I've opened the window" is another welcome conversation stopper.

DS is disabled and has had poo issues since he was born so dh and I are used to talking about poo. The bristol stool chart is very familiar to us and we are also expert at telling the difference between normal and "hes got an infection" by smell . (Not envy).

However thats only ds's poo. Never our own!!

(Apart from the time I had forgotten about my mega beetroot feast and thought I was bleeding to death....)

@kellyhall Why would you stay with someone with such foul manners and no respect for you? Are there any redeeming qualities? Just curious!

I fall on the side of 'I'd rather set my eyeballs on fire than talk about my shit with anyone

Me too. My husband (suffers from ibs) did this knowing I don’t like it, and will even say “I know you don’t want to hear this ..” and I say then why are you telling me then? He goes to the loo often so having to hear about it several times a day was getting tiresome. I finally snapped and told him off about it and he stopped giving details and keeps it to need to know.

My family crudely talks about needing to go or having gone and his family talks about it even at the dinner table. I find it disgusting and rude to talk about such things with other people (unless a concern or a doctor) especially when people are eating. I don’t understand why some people enjoy talking about it.

@Ouchaheadinmybehind 'lets not have sweetcorn for a while' lol. It wasn't the done thing in my family to fart in front of each other/talk about bathroom habits either so I think it must be a family thing - what's normal in one family isn't in another I guess.

Now, when DH comes to tell me about his 'visits' I just tell him I don't need to know and if he tries to tell me afterwards about said 'visit' I cut him off with 'okay don't need to hear anymore'. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't make me want to run screaming from him (although I must admit if it was a behaviour he'd done straight from the off at the beginning I'd have been so weirded out by it I might have thought twice). Maybe the solution is just to start telling him in graphic detail about my own shits. Thanks for the opinions, was curious to see what others thought about it - and from the range of responses it seems to be an individual thing!

Doesn't bother me at all but I spent a long time as an older peoples nurse

I was a nurse for four decades and I’m not at all squeamish. I’ve been up to the elbows in shit and every bodily fluid you’d care to mention more times than I can say. However, that doesn’t mean I would want to examine or hear details of every turd, no matter how spectacular, anyone of my acquaintance produces.

Probably not if you’re describing it to your gastroenterologist. Otherwise, yes.

He tells me when he can't go at his usual time in the morning. I don't care, don't want to know and it turns me off completely.

@AlexaAmbidextra did you not bother reading the posts from women saying they like talking about shit?

Including the one who discusses it with her grandfather!?

It's not that 'men' talk about shit. It's weird people of both sexes.

I'm agog at some of the posts in this thread.

Get noise-cancelling headphones. Proceed as normal. If you've told him not to and he won't stop you may need to leave him.

Boundaries!

We’re both very very private about things like that so he’d never do this.

However - I honestly nearly died the other night when I went into the bathroom after him and he’d left a HUGE floater in the toilet. I had to actually go upstairs to get away from him and prayed he’d go back and flush but he didn’t and I was too embarrassed to bring it up so I went in and shut my eyes and flushed it. Traumatised