Am I being unreasonable about SIL staying

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My sister in law is coming to the UK from overseas to spend the last ten weeks of her pregnancy. She will be having the child her as an overseas patient as she does not fulfill the criteria for NHS care (paying for NHS treatment). My parents have a flat she can stay the entire time but she will be on her own mainly. I spoke to my brother today and was told she was coming straight to us from the airport. No is that ok? Or how long can you accommodate her for?. I made my excuses and got off the phone. I have discussed with my DH and have told my brother that she can stay in my house for 2 weeks but not for the entire time. She will be welcome to stay ad-hoc for a few days here and there if she wants. I have had no response. Is this reasonable?

My parents have a flat she can stay the entire time but she will be on her own mainly.

This sounds like heaven to me. Are you sure she doesn't want to do this, and is maybe pressured to be closer to family?

Are they expecting you to pay for all her food and drink etc while with you? Not to mention extra heating/water use, and any other expenses? Are you expected to take her to the hospital too?

Hmm difficult one OP if you are still reading. On the one hand I can understand your brother not wanting his heavily pregnant wife to be living alone in a strange country especially if this is her first child but he should have checked with you. I think I would be tempted to roll with it until her mother, your mother or your brother arrive. Is one of your bedrooms free for her?

The poor woman - heavily pregnant, shipped off to another country to be largely by herself, then suddenly all of the family are going to descend on her and live in the same flat, for weeks and weeks. With her first newborn. Horrors!

Is the spare flat close to you? If so can she not just stay there and maybe a few nights a week she can pop round for dinner? You could maybe check in on her at the weekends.

It's an odd situation for you to be in, but I also worry about a pregnant woman be so far from home by herself. For the record this is your brothers fault not yours - he knocked her up so he should be with her whether at home or here. Can her own mum not come and stay with her in the flat for the 10 weeks?

As a PP mentioned, what happens if there is an emergency - are you and DH comfortable taking responsibility for this as I assume you'll be the ones taking her to and from the hospital while she's alone here.