To not go to work today?

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I’ve got chronic migraines, and they’re mostly under control, but in an ideal world (albeit one where I still had migraines) I’d take about 4 days off a month for the migraine and the recovery. As it is I take about a day off a month. But I still feel guilty!

If I’m not at work nothing much changes. My coworker still doesn’t budge from her desk all day, my work gets done when I return. I struggle to find enough to do as it is. And some days I’m just filled with dread at the idea of going in (& the dread is sometimes a pre-migraine symptom).

I don’t always know if what seems like migraine symptoms early in the morning (4:00 am) will turn into a mobster or of triptans will scare it off. About one day a month I don’t feel like chancing it. Then, on the days it stays a quiet grumbling, I feel guilty for staying home and flipping through magazines and napping. AIBU to stay home?

@Freezingold they are awful, I literally can't have my head still, it needs to be continually moving, and believe it or not, hitting my head off a wall offers some relief! The medication I'm on has been working well so far, hopefully it continues. When I have one I literally can't function!

I'm lucky to have a supportive husband, no offence intended, but your ex seems to be ignorant of how your condition affects you, along with his child! Totally unacceptable, and I guarantee it wouldn't be the same if it was affecting one of them!

It's not to late to ask for a referral to a neurologist if your current treatment isn't working and your GP agrees that it might help. You've said that your sleep pattern can trigger them, and I know that some neurological wards do "sleep studies" so maybe they could tell you more about the correlation between sleep and migraines?

Thanks @Retroflex I will see a neurologist. Luckily this past year has been better however I’ve been working totally flexible hours so I might just be avoiding the problem.

Pleased you have some management of cluster headaches. I don’t know how I’d cope, poorly probably. Sympathies! I’ve heard that they can abate after a while, which if true I sincerely hope for you. I might be misinformed.

My Ex and his DD were difficult people and possibly made my migraines worse with the stress! Ironically DD is the most moody person you will ever meet and Ex lied a lot to me so he really was two different people! Mmmm maybe my migraines getting less frequent tied in with not having to deal with that in my life!

Now my poor older child has been developing migraines. So sad for them. It’s strongly genetic.

on the basis that you are not safe to get home if the migraine develops, no one is picking up your work, and you're not paid more than 1 day, YANBU