To be annoyed at this sexist car salesman

[PrettyTricky]

Am irrationally annoyed with a car salesman tonight. Went car shopping and DP came with me. Have fancied a certain model for a while and was in the showroom looking at it.

Salesman wandered over and shook hands with both of us, then proceeded to entirely ignore me, but give my fiancé the hard sell.
DP was non commital and repeatedly pointed out the car is for me, not him. Not to be put off, the salesman continued to talk entirely to him about various financial options, all the while I may as well be on the Moon. He then turned to me, and I kid you not, said
"I won't bore you with the figures love, which colours do you like?"

I'm so annoyed with myself for not telling him exactly what I thought of his attitude at the time, as if I'm incapable of understanding finance options and negotiating for myself. DP was similarly disgusted and we left. I've now been put off that car altogether too.

It's 2020 for goodness sake, is this still the sort of shit we should still be tolerating?

Was at regular lunch of a charity i belong to , during general chat one of the members mentioned his wife and working at the hospital .Another membe asked if she was a nurse , the reply was no she is a consultant , well actually the senior consultant

I own a transport company , 20 years ago people wouldnt talk to me as they assumed I was the receptionist .It doesnt happen now

I had all this nonsense when I went to buy a car on my own. Salesman asked if I would like to organise for my husband to look at it. Well.....er.....no.

I then clobbered him by showing him a print-out from the internet for a quote I had from an online company for about a grand less than the salesman was quoting. I said I would buy from him if he were prepared to match the quote ......long silence. He agreed! Job done!

Why in the name of all that is holy would you give your business to such a complete knobber, and not the company who gave you the better deal to start with (and who presumably didn't patronise you either)? I cannot see one reason why you think you did a good thing here.

I had this too Ford a few years ago. Despite DP saying repeatedly talk to Elf she's buying it, he all but ignored me. We went elsewhere.

It's not jut women though. My DS was out to replace his company car - he had a very generous budget too!. The local dealership were so offhand with him and his partner that he bought elsewhere. Cost that dealership a £50K sale

Email the manager of the dealership and explain why you won't be buying your car there.

A few years ago I went to buy a drill in Argos, they wouldn't believe it was for me.

Something on an even more stupid level: When I was 21, I bought a sticker online for my car. (i had to mention I was 21, wouldn't do it now), and the woman on the phone confirming my order told me to make sure I have a man with me to help me stick it on the car 🤦‍♀️ I did it all alone fwiw.

I went to see a business to by with my husband. I had spoken to the man selling via email and phone, and am quite clearly a woman and the person who was buying. He COULD NOT talk to me when we got there. Everything was directed to my husband, who was totally clueless and just there for moral support. We also had it when looking at apartments to rent abroad, every single estate agent ignored me entirely. Even when I asked questions, they answered to my husband. The most infuriating thing was that my husband didn't even notice. He does now though and it really winds him up.
On a positive note, I have found that getting older and fatter makes people take me more seriously.

@PrettyTricky
I'm just annoyed I didn't say something cutting in response at the time. Kicking myself now.

Hmmm... was hesitant whether it is YABU or YANBU, however as this thread is following exactly the same pattern as so many others, i thought you were slightly unreasonable more than not.

Until you, and others who think car salesmen, politicians, trademen...etc are sexist NOT standing up for themselves, what the heck do you expect to change?

You know you need to take your car to the garage and you are already dreading what you might come across with. So? what are you planning to do about it?
Are you going to actually say something, or just sheepishly go home and vent on MN.

I know I am very fortunate of not having any of these issues. I am blunt ( for those who haven`t noticed ) - I just so hope women who are complaining about these things (which are TRUE and there are so many misogynist men out there!) start actually standing up for themselves

All the best OP for next week

in my view Mercedes are a cut above the rest

Mercedes and Hyundai are the two that we had bad experiences with.
DH and I were car shopping on a hot day in August. I was wearing, for what it matters, a Megadeth T Shirt and my jeans. DH was in jeans and a T Shirt.
BMW were brilliant and attentive, as were Audi, discussing options with us both etc. Mercedes dealer we walked in, asked about the model we were considering and were grunted at, with a point to the end of the showroom. After that we were ignored until eventually we walked out.

Hyundai was the favourite. We were soundly ignored by a couple of salesman who actually turned their backs and carried on chatting.

We went home, ordered the Hyundai online from elsewhere and have never been back to the dealer so they lost the car plus servicing for being judgemental arses.

He called you Love?

That would be me out of the door like a shot. Get the car but from a different dealership. And I’d be emailing the dealership to tell them why they lost the sale.

That is shocking. I think I would be too shocked to answer too. He should be in a comedy sketch.

We came to look at a family sized car.

Salesman told me "you don't want to look at that one, how about this smaller hatchback"

"No we really want a bigger car than that, can we have a look at that one"

Salesman to by husband- "Oh shes trying to trick you into having a baby already is she?"

We left.

That is not irrational annoyance, I so wish you had said something to him.

"You guys work on commision, right? Big mistake, HUGE" :p

@RhymingRabbit3

F**@k* me... 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had that with Hyundai. Had decided on the car I wanted but not the best way to finance it. I had access to non- dealer finance so wanted to start with the best price for paying cash. They would absolutely not tell me what they could offer. Said it was much easier for me to think about the monthly repayments on their deal and whether I could afford that.
Ok, I ask, so what's the APR on the finance then?
Apparently that was not something I needed to worry about, they would do me a good deal and all I needed to worry about was whether I could afford the monthly payments and what colour car I wanted.
I left and went home and reported them to the FCA.

Yeap i had this once .Went car shopping with my DF , DH at work , my money paying and salesman proceeded to talk to dad not me but i am one outspoken bugger it didn't last long .much to my DF amusement who knew full well it was coming.
Just recently brought my new car and didn't have a problem but i did pick it online on the garage website then went to view it couldn't fault the salesman to be fair .

I just remembered - the £250 refund was offered in response to me leaving a really bad (but honest) google review, detailing the sexist sales staff.
post refund I was asked if I'd like to remove or change the review.
It's still there.

This make me laugh because I went for the MOT to the garage where I bought my car a few years ago and ended up paying quite a lot for repairs, so the female employee asked me if I wanted to swap my car for a newer one and started talking about finance plans, and when I mentioned I needed to discuss it with DH first as we share finances, she promptly replied "but why? that would be YOUR car"

She must have been instructed after a similar episode

made

We had some training yesterday and the trainer was giving some examples of how people have breeched the SRA rules. The trainer kept saying 'The female solicitor...'
He never said male solicitor 🤔

Last time i part exchanged a car my then dh came with me as i was 3 weeks post section. The salesman was lovely esp after asking about condition of my vehicle.
SM; does it have alloys
ME; yes, deeply scratched
Ex H under breath; dont tell him that
ME, the man has eyes, he will notice.....
After that the salesman spoke to me about my car and what car i wanted. ExH was left to field a 7year, 15 month and 3 week old. 😂😂

Myself and DH went to a car dealership yesterday and whilst there I remembered I had seen a thread on MN recently detailing exactly what we experienced!

The car is for me, I will be paying for it and the one driving it 99% of the time. However following the initial 'Hello Mr & Mrs' and shaking both our hands the salesman proceeded to talk to and look at my DH virtually the whole time. After 5 minutes of this it just put my back up completely. It didn't help that the guy had dog shit smelling breath! I literally thought one of us had stepped in something and was checking my shoes until I realised!

We went for a test drive and upon return to the dealership the whole conversation continued to be geared to my DH. DH seemed ready to agree to the first price we were given when I said 'We need to go away and think about this'.
The salesmen asked DH 'what can I do to make you commit today'. I said 'bring the price down!'. I went on to quote a cheaper price from Car Wow and also made the point that we are in a good position because it is nearing the end of the month and Brexit is looming, basically stating they are chasing sales. Well, his face dropped and his whole demeanour changed!
He went on to knock a further £800 off the price! I still insisted we were going to go away and think about it and that's what we did!
I can't believe this behaviour is still so commonplace in this day and age.

BuzzShitbagBobbly - I bought from the dealer because getting the new car from the online quoter would have been a fiddle faddle and involved going hundreds of miles by train and driving it back. It was likely to be the local dealership that would service it, so it made sense to go with them if they were prepared to match the quote. Which they did.

We live in a fairly isolated place.