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To ask you to tell me how old I look?

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Cyclelover · 18/01/2020 20:32

I was insulted today and told I look much older than I am. Could I ask you to tell me how old you think? Blush

Be kind, but honest

To ask you to tell me how old I look?
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LotteLupin · 19/01/2020 11:13

Byef I did say 15 but probably not a mum at that age ☺️😀

The look in your eyes is mature. That's the 3 kids!! 🙂😘

Inappropriatefemale · 19/01/2020 11:13

Riot 31

LotteLupin · 19/01/2020 11:14

Cycle the cream is worth saving up for. It's £1.70 a day. Fags are £10 a day. If you only have one pack. So if you didn't buy them for 25 days - three and a bit weeks - you'd have the cream.

The cream isn't expensive next to the fags. They are a massive luxury item.

JaneJeffer · 19/01/2020 11:15

These threads are pointless because I could take five selfies and look different in every one depending on flash, daylight, etc. Also it could be a pic from 10 years ago or not even me!

Psychologika you're gorgeous but autocorrect hates your name Grin

TigerOnATrain · 19/01/2020 11:18

Regarding the ages of the posters who have posted their pics... Here's what age I think you look like ...

@Inappropriatefemale early to mid 40s, @WingBingo mid to late 40s. @Whatageami early 30s, @fikel late 50s @Winododiw early 40s, @Psychologika late 20s/early 30s, @riotlady early 30s, @SirChing Mid to late 40s, @ByeFeliciaa mid to late 20s, @Snoopdogsbitch early to mid 40s, @OldGrinch late 40s.

(Although it's hard to get it really accurate, as most of you have 'doctored' the photo/put subtle filters on, and done the 'hold the camera high to disguise the jowls and double chin'' trick...)

TigerOnATrain · 19/01/2020 11:19

I see a bunch of posters posting pics, who are desperate for people say they look younger than their age. And lots of others claiming that people they know 'often think they look much younger/often think they are their son's sister/get asked for I.D. to buy alcohol even though they're 44!' 🙄

Well all I can say is if that is true, then all of these people saying this, are terrible at guessing ages... Or they need to go to specsavers... because no-one looks more than 7-8 years younger than their age, (10 max,) not when you look properly and look closer, and they are not conveniently putting the camera higher (to hide the double chin and jowls, and so the loose skin/loosening face muscles fall back slightly...)

Along with the 'lift the camera higher' trick, putting a soft focus on the camera, can make you look 10-12 years younger on a photo.

I was also amused by something on twitter some months back. Some French man (in fashion or something,) had said 'all middle aged women (like over 45,) are unattractive, not sexy, and 'past it..' Obviously rude, and untrue.

However, within a couple of hours, HUNDREDS of women aged between 45 and around 59 were posting selfies of themselves pouting (some with collagen-filled lips,) their boobs pushed up in a push-up bra, wearing a vest top, their hair clearly dyed, and tons of make up troweled on, with comments like 'THIS is me - a 45 year old woman - and now say all women 45 and over are not sexy..!'

The pictures, and the comments with them, made it clear that they all thought they looked sexy and 'hot,' and that they looked much younger than their age. Other comments included 'this is what a 49 year old woman looks like, and why I get mistaken for my 28 y.o. daughter's sister' and other hilarious gems like that. It was embarrassing, because every single one of them looked their age, like everyone does - roughly.

I can look anything from 5-8 years younger than my age on a photo, to 5-8 years older. Depends on the angle, the lighting, and if I have any make-up on. But overall, I look roughly my age... just like everyone else.

As a pp said, people posting photos on here that CLEARLY have a filter on are just cringeworthy. The validation some women on here are so desperately seeking, is not healthy or normal.

Why are people SO desperate to be thought of as looking younger than their age? What is wrong with looking your age? Seriously, it's all so fucked up, this desperation to get validation and compliments and 'oooh you look so YOUNG!' comments. It's quite depressing actually.

And the people coming up with comments like 'don't post on here if you don't see the point then' can just shut up, because it's a free country, and people are allowed to post what they like. You're not the thread police, so just do one eh?

And no-one is saying women fall apart when they hit 40, because they don't. But they do - and always WILL - look their age!!!

YellowFeathersInHerHair · 19/01/2020 11:19

Ooh can someone guess me!! My hairdresser told me I'm difficult to age and I've wondered what she means ever since

To ask you to tell me how old I look?
yellowallpaper · 19/01/2020 11:20

53?

Casino218 · 19/01/2020 11:20

Cue loads of insecure women fishing for compliments. None of you look a day over 21. You're all amazing and fabulous. Be happy.

VaggieMight · 19/01/2020 11:20

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yellowallpaper · 19/01/2020 11:20

Latest pic 60 ish? Sorry op

LightDrizzle · 19/01/2020 11:21

Zoflorabore

I’d say 40 but could be younger, not smiling is a harsher look. Your skin looks good and you have very few wrinkles, the nose to mouth to chin lines looks more inherited/part of your face rather than age onset. I had strong nose to mouth lines at 6!

BlackOfHeart · 19/01/2020 11:21

Yellow. 35

yellowallpaper · 19/01/2020 11:22

Just seen 42! You are definitely a sun worshipping, sunbed using smoker!

SirChing · 19/01/2020 11:22

@TigerOnATrain Aaaaannnnnnd breathe!

TigerOnATrain · 19/01/2020 11:23

@SirChing Grin LOL. Did I get your age anywhere near?

@YellowFeathersInHerHair umm early to mid 30s..

Sagradafamiliar · 19/01/2020 11:24

I really want to join in but I post all sorts of shit on here, I'd be outed! I like being anon.

TheAncientEnemy · 19/01/2020 11:26

OP - I would say late 60s, can tell that you are a smoker/ maybe a runner?

riotlady · 19/01/2020 11:27

@3luckystars you’re the closest- I’m 27!

I’ve always looked older than my age, when I was a teenager it was always me that got sent to buy cinema tickets when we were trying to sneak into an 18. I don’t mind too much at the minute but I might when I’m 40!

SirChing · 19/01/2020 11:29

@TigerOnATrain Yep, I said upthread I am 43.

I don't understand the poster who said it's a load of insecure women looking for compliments. Its about how old we look, not how gorgeous or otherwise. I am well aware that I look like the Love child of Jimmy Krankie and Jimmy Hill, but it's fun playing guess the age. It doesn't harm anyone so who gives a shit??

WorraLiberty · 19/01/2020 11:31

Some of the answers on here are ridiculously nasty and make the 'guessers' come across as way more insecure about themselves, than the people posting pics for validation.

I can only imagine those posting things like '62' on the photo of a 30/40/50 year old, are sat in front of their screens seething with jealousy or something like that anyway Confused

ChristmasSweet · 19/01/2020 11:34

I would have said mid 50s in all honesty, because I think you do look older than you are. My mum is 59 and looks younger than you. Blush Definitely don't look 42.

Its just genetics unfortunately, and sometimes lifestyle. But my dad has been a smoker the majority of his life and again, he doesn't look as old as you. Dunno if you use sunbeds or what, but if you're otherwise healthy, non smoker etc it's just genetics.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 19/01/2020 11:38

Fuck me, this thread is one of the most irritating and pointless threads I've seen on MN and that's saying something.

As PP said, desperate requests for validation, photos filtered to fuck (and half of them very very obviously so, yet denied Hmm) and half the people could be lying anyway. Identifiable pictures of your faces on the Internet, which actually could be other people (and I believe the OP is in this camp) £200 face creams recommendations, stealth boasts, unkind comments and disingenuously wide eyed unkind comments presented as "honesty" and "advice".

And I know, yet here I am reading it, but I was hoping more people would come and say what the fuck are you all doing.

Sadiee88 · 19/01/2020 11:39

@YellowFeathersInHerHair 25???

Sadiee88 · 19/01/2020 11:40

50? Hard to tell with filters x

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