I know I'm BU, but how do I stop getting annoyed at DH for mispronouncing words?!

[DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou]

Been with DH nearly 25 years, we are born and bred in the south and when we first met he spoke like me.
After about 10 years he started dropping his t's (batteries are now ba'rries). A few years ago he started saying ain't

But now he totally mispronounces words especially those with u in it.

Assume is now assoom.
Once he pronounce puberty as pooberty (he at least had the good grace to correct himself)
The G in long is now over pronounced as though he isn't a southerner.

There is now thurr.

I asked him gently tonight why he does he and got pissed of fans says I attack him about it.
But it annoys me, it's unattractive and cringey.

I know I'm being unreasonable. Tell me I am so I can feel guilty and get over myself.

Have you moved? I involuntarily pick up an accent local to whether I am after a few months, it slowly thickens until I sound completely local.

Do you have a holiday home in Norfolk?

No and no!

Does he work with people with similar accents to his 'new' one?

DP says 'noo' instead of 'new', and 'parzley' instead of 'parsley'. Fucking dick [grr]
YANBU

It isn't an accent. He's making an effort to change the way words are pronounced.

But the lack of t's and making himself sound rough is very much a 'trying to fit in' at work.

Tbh that's sounds really irritating. Why? Where are these odd pronunciations coming from?

Yes we have 'noo' instead of 'new' as well.

Be warned, asoomed and Stooart (Stuart) is next...

He probably gets grief for being too 'posh' and it's easier for him to convert full time. Bless him.

Don't even get me started on Eggzit and Bregzit 😭😭

it annoys me, it's unattractive and cringey

He maybe feels the same about you “attacking” (his words) him about it?

Or maybe there are other things you do that get on his tits, but he has the good grace to keep schtum?

He maybe feels the same about you “attacking” (his words) him about it?

Exactly! Hence the making of the very thread you're on.

Why would he change the way he talks on purpose? That’s odd so I see where you’re coming from OP

Ain't would be grounds for divorce.

Why would he change the way he talks on purpose?

Because people can be dicks. I've had people mock the way I say specific words because I have a bit of a weird mix of an accent (but not really that uncommon based on where I was working) and it made me feel like I was too 'common' and wasn't being taken seriously.

Realistically the people doing the mocking tend to be the most unprofessional and least competent but as an 18 year old newbie I didn't know that.

I don’t know your age OP so excuse me if you have no idea what I’m talking about but I would come over all Hyacinth Bucket.

My DP is bilingual in talking to his adult DC ('ain't') and talking to me ('isn't'). We just laugh about it.

My adult DD can switch between RP and local accent effortlessly.

I suppose we just think of it as normal, understandable and quirky. Might that help?

I'm laughing so much at "pooberty" 😂

I'm a East London lady and have moved about the outskirts of London a bit (Dartford, Dagenham etc) and we're awful for "new" as "noo" and "walk" as "wolk" 😂

Be warned, asoomed and Stooart (Stuart) is next...

DH's best mate is called Stuart. If using his full name DH says it fine, if he shortens it it becomes Stoo not Stu. But since I mentioned it he mainly does it to annoy me. Doesn't do.it with any other words though.

In Blue Planet the otherwise saintly David Attenborough talks about "toona" which annoys me

Toona! 😣

I have another one - when cumberbatch pronounced penguins as "peng wings" when he did that wildlife programme, guess how DH pronounced it next time we happen to mention penguins??

When I said "what?! Are you kidding me?! Peng wings now?!"
He got really defensive and angry with me.

Does he watch too much American telly? Like kids do when they’re little, affecting their accents.

It's not an accent though. It's individual words.

And honestly, there's just no excuse for peng wings.
He didn't even watch the programme! It was me telling him about it after I saw it posted on Mumsnet!

I talk like this.

There's no t in water and I say noo, my 5 year old is always correcting me "Mummy it's watttter