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I know I'm BU, but how do I stop getting annoyed at DH for mispronouncing words?!

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DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 16/01/2020 19:40

Been with DH nearly 25 years, we are born and bred in the south and when we first met he spoke like me.
After about 10 years he started dropping his t's (batteries are now ba'rries). A few years ago he started saying ain't Confused

But now he totally mispronounces words especially those with u in it.

Assume is now assoom.
Once he pronounce puberty as pooberty (he at least had the good grace to correct himself)
The G in long is now over pronounced as though he isn't a southerner.

There is now thurr.

I asked him gently tonight why he does he and got pissed of fans says I attack him about it.
But it annoys me, it's unattractive and cringey.

I know I'm being unreasonable. Tell me I am so I can feel guilty and get over myself.

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cologne4711 · 17/01/2020 11:37

I'd find it annoying that he thinks it's fine to annoy me at home, but feels he needs to change his accent to fit in at work.

I thought workplaces were more professional these days.

I can understand the accent travelling up and down the motorway thing because mine does that depending on who I am with, but I always speak the same at home.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 17/01/2020 11:39

DP says "yorn" for "yours" ..the urge to pull out his tongue is getting harder to resist each time he says it.

crustycrab · 17/01/2020 11:43

I've got a friend who mispronounces a lot of words.

"Debriz for debris" being one. I find it endearing.

DH says "Samwich" and I want to throttle him. All depends who the person is I think

LaBelleSauvage123 · 17/01/2020 11:52

DH is a southerner born and bred but puts a short ‘a’ in words like ‘bath’ and ‘afternoon’.Now DS1 has started doing it too but in lots more words. It doesn’t really bother me that much but I’m interested particularly in why DS1 is doing it ( he’s 18 and has only started this in the last year).

SwishSwishSheesh · 17/01/2020 12:25

Mine says 'theselves' instead of 'themselves'. I have to take a deep breath every time.

Hefzi · 17/01/2020 12:33

How I speak in real life makes the Queen sound common (also from the SE) . I have noticed, over the years, that I do moderate my accent at work now, largely on the grounds of having spent years being put down for being a Southern snob/too posh etc at one place I worked. The local accent there was very distinctive, and most colleagues were local with massive fucking chips on their shoulders :could your husband be doing the same and forgetting to switch back? If not, LTB is probably the only solution. Or a permanent relocation to under the patio.

Babynumber2dueNov · 17/01/2020 12:51

My husband does this too!! 😡 he started saying ‘wader’ instead of water when his brother got a faint Aussie accent, then denied copying him. When I’ve pressed him he has denied it, but then another time will say’it sounds better!’. Then he went through a stage of using’posh ‘A’s in words- pl’ar’stic instead of plastic- he just sounds like a Dick! 😂 but it really is infuriating! I feel your pain OP! 😩 luckily we’ve got young kids so I’ve been able to say speak properly or the girls will talk like that and try to spell like it too!

potter5 · 17/01/2020 13:22

Love peng wings! Smile

Hillaire · 17/01/2020 13:27

I can't stand it when people pronounce new (and similar words) as noo rather than n-yoo. One of my pet hates.

I've even taught my daughters to pronounce duvet as 'joo-vay' - I know that it's a French word so technically is supposed to be doo-vay, but I hate the sound of that.

Nomorechickens · 17/01/2020 13:39

La-zan-yay is actually the correct Italian pronunciation though. It's the plural of lasagna (which is what Americans call it I think)
If DH is ever corrected on pronunciation he deliberately carries on pronouncing the word wrong forevermore just to annoy (enrage) me. Eg Ciabatta Is chow-batta, prosciutto is pros-kew-tio, pescatarian is pescotarian.

Scatterlit · 17/01/2020 13:47

I've even taught my daughters to pronounce duvet as 'joo-vay' - I know that it's a French word so technically is supposed to be doo-vay, but I hate the sound of that.

That is one of the weirdest things I have ever read on here. Do you also make them pronounce 'do' as 'dew' or 'moo' as 'mew' in case people think they're uncultivated?

ButterflyRuns · 17/01/2020 15:32

I've even taught my daughters to pronounce duvet as 'joo-vay' - I know that it's a French word so technically is supposed to be doo-vay, but I hate the sound of that.

Not even sure what to say to this Confused

Original poster
DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 17/01/2020 20:00

I've even taught my daughters to pronounce duvet as 'joo-vay' - I know that it's a French word so technically is supposed to be doo-vay, but I hate the sound of that.

What the fuck no you did not.

You do realise that makes you worse than my husband?

I love peng wings No. Get out.

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53rdWay · 17/01/2020 20:32

Well on the one hand there’s a long well-researched history of people switching pronunciations to fit in or distinguish themselves from the people around them, and it’s very elitist to assume everyone has access to hearing unusual words in speech rather than only ever seeing them written, and who are we to get all prescriptivist about pronunciation as if our way is objectively correct.

But on the other hand: ‘peng wings.’ God.

53rdWay · 17/01/2020 21:33

Argh I've just remembered the way my DSis pronounces 'data' as 'dah-ta'. Not 'datta' like the Americans do, full on 'daaaaaahta'.

GabriellaMontez · 18/01/2020 11:27

"Chow batta" is still better than the "see a batter" that I have to endure. grits teeth

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