I know I'm BU, but how do I stop getting annoyed at DH for mispronouncing words?!

[DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou]

Been with DH nearly 25 years, we are born and bred in the south and when we first met he spoke like me.
After about 10 years he started dropping his t's (batteries are now ba'rries). A few years ago he started saying ain't

But now he totally mispronounces words especially those with u in it.

Assume is now assoom.
Once he pronounce puberty as pooberty (he at least had the good grace to correct himself)
The G in long is now over pronounced as though he isn't a southerner.

There is now thurr.

I asked him gently tonight why he does he and got pissed of fans says I attack him about it.
But it annoys me, it's unattractive and cringey.

I know I'm being unreasonable. Tell me I am so I can feel guilty and get over myself.

Are you for real? Americans are heathens because our accents are different? I see you don't believe in tolerance

I'm pretty sure it was a joke..

When you spend all day at work with people who speak a certain way, you’re bound to pick it up. Leave him alone.

@DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou Peng wings!!! That’s so funny.

My sis does this but the other way round. We're from a inbread little mining town with a broad accent that cannot be missed.
She married well and now has a lounge and a couch. She still has the accent but the odd word is now different. The best one is her dd has a name that sounds very naice in her new invented accent. And very very rough when any of our family say it.

Are you snobbish generally?

I’m not from the UK. Are you saying that he’s trying to sound more working class than he is? Or trying to adopt a different regional accent? But only some words?

The dreaded glottal stop. I feel really sorry for the letter T. Poor T. What has it done to be ignored?

laz-an-yay ???
Please, I'm sure I'm just being dense, but what word is this supposed to be? I cannot figure it out at all

The ‘ick’ factor has kicked in

Dammit! Lasagne? Is it? Just clicked as I posted

@HolyForkingShirtballs.

Lasagne 🙂

The ‘ick’ factor has kicked in

I was thinking this

BrotherMouzone Ah. Thanks. Was being a bit slow

My ex does the Pacific instead of specific

LTB!

I think it's a bit mean to your OH to try and make your issue his. If you understand what he's saying, the communication has worked. If you understood but just wish he would pronounce it 'correctly' (by which I think you mean 'like me') then that's something you need to try and figure out and work on. Don't keep trying to make him conform to your ideals.

@DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou was it my post about pen wings I can’t say penguin now because if that clip

But yeah, accent sounds annoying! Who the fuck says pooberty?

Tbh, based on what you say it sounds as if he's doing it on purpose to annoy you.

I think the fact that his pronunciations have changed might bother me, but if he's not doing it with the intention of annoying you, I'd probably try to let it go. If it were only one or two words, you might have a fighting chance, but with so many changes, you'll only annoy him if you try to "correct" his pronunciation every time.

On a tangent, I was a bit disappointed when my husband's foreign accent faded over time. People can still tell he's "not from around here", but he's lost his most distinctive mispronunciations and strongly accented words. He was just too good at "correcting" his accent! Strange how some people blend in almost perfectly after a few years, while others can live somewhere their entire adult lives and still have a thick accent.

@isittooearlyforgin
Why is everybody not laughing at this?
My mil says broc-o-lie, laz-an-yay and wed-nes- day. I want to grab her by both lapels and scream in her face “have you never heard anyone pronounce these words before EVER?”
I think this is so funny. I keep reading it repeatedly and laughing. I can see how this would be unbelievably annoying. I'm surprised you haven't killed her.

@Newname1978 it’s only a matter of time!

This is kind of fascinating for me. For part of my masters degree in linguistics, I did a presentation on "accommodation theory" - basically ppl altering their speech patterns to either converge with the person (or group) their speaking with, or diverge from them.

I had a friend through work who spoke in perfect RP accent, yet with her family had the broadest, almost comedic Scottish accent. She switched between the two in one conversation even. But hers was an extreme case!

It's basically a way of forming closer social bonds & trying to make the other person (or group) see you as part of that social group.

Loads written on it, interesting stuff for me.

Weirdly, I moved from Scotland to London and ppl struggled to understand even my name when I spoke on the phone, so I tried to anglicise my accent... now ppl think I'm from the fucking West Country (no offence moi luuuuverrrs).

I think it would help you to get over it if you read up in sociolinguistics about why people change their accent in different contexts, understanding the psychology behind it.

You dont have enough to worry about

It isn't about the accent, though, is it? It's about what lies underneath that. I had the same thing with my mother, and what it was really was my anger at her need to be someone else in order to be acceptable. It was a form of appeasement - and an abandonment of herself in the process, albeit a minor one - and it grated me. (Of course, the reason it riled me so much was because it reminded me of all the times my sense of personal integrity was questionable, so there's always a little sting in the tail.)