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Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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whatdoidorr · 15/01/2020 12:20

My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

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BlueSuffragette · 17/01/2020 10:22

OP, time to wise up. B is not really your friend and A is just a bully. Cut ties with both and move on. Take control. I'd send B her ticket and sell A's to recoup some of the money she owes you. If can go with your nice friend C then I'd do that. B can then go on her own, as it's a standing ticket you won't have to see her. If B chooses not to go then that's her choice. Best of luck.

lyndseylou43 · 17/01/2020 10:28

Keep the tickets sell them then make an online application to the small claims court to get the rest of the money.
Those women aren’t your friends Sid then hold your head high.

7yo7yo · 17/01/2020 10:35

I feel really sorry for you op.
They aren’t your friends and there’s some really shitty posters on this thread who also aren’t your friends with their mature kids who wouldn’t behave like this Hmm.

Send Bs ticket, don’t communicate with either of them.
Let them chase you about the other ticket and still don’t respond. Ghost the fuck out of them.

In the long term, you need to do something about your low self esteem. I suggest you look at counselling.
Flowers

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 11:25

I haven't posted B her ticket yet.
I'm going to do it tomorrow.
There is other stuff been going on with Friend B but I should have included it from the beginning and I would only be accused of drip feeding.
Also the outcome would still be the same ..she isn't my friend.
I think if I posted the other details before then you might have understood why I was probably more upset than I should be.

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MRSsqueak · 17/01/2020 11:27

i would send 1 ticket and take the friend that wants to go with you. and cut both friend A and B off for good. neither sound like nice people tbh. if it was seated and you would have had to sit near them i would have refunded 1 ticket cost and kept all the tickets taken the real friend and sold the other. i havent read the entire thread yet

angieloumc · 17/01/2020 11:35

Nothing to do with anyone's DC being 'mature'. But the fact is teenagers are just that..OP is 35 and assuming her former friends are a similar age.
Perhaps if you had put more info in your earlier posts OP the advice may not have been as harsh.

mummmy2017 · 17/01/2020 11:37

Can you not sell her ticket and refund her?
She will only be nasty what ever you do.

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 11:49

I'm just going to post friend B her ticket then sell to my other friend ..friend A ticket.

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Ferrisbuellersdayoff · 17/01/2020 11:57

I think that's exactly the right thing to do. I can't decide whether you should refund A - it really depends on what's been said about the money she owes you and whether that debt is still outstanding, or if you've given the impression that it's been written off. For any small claims action, I suppose you'll need proof.

ikeakia · 17/01/2020 12:10

Personally I’d refund B, she doesn’t get to go now she’s being a bitch and go with two friends.

Or I’d sell the tickets, refund B - £20 for ‘admin fees’ and go on holiday with the rest!

Like fuck would I facilitate either of those cows going.

pam290358 · 17/01/2020 13:48

‘Why give the other girl the ticket when she said you weren't welcome, find 2 proper friends to go with and recover more of the money the first one owes you. What a bitch.‘

This. As per my previous post, don’t send or refund ANYTHING. Tell bitch B that you’re selling both tickets on to recoup some of the £400 that bitch A owes you, and that since bitch A is such a good friend to her, she obviously won’t mind refunding the £75 On your behalf out of her own pocket. And make it clear that bitch A still owes you £150.

When someone shows you what they are really like, you should believe them, and bitch A has shown everyone, including bitch B what she’s made of. Trust me, it’s only a matter of time before A treats B the same way - they deserve each other and you’re better off without either of them, cluttering up your life with their shitty brand of so called friendship.

pam290358 · 17/01/2020 13:50

Sorry, that should be £250 !!

Nottobesoldseparately · 17/01/2020 14:10

Please forget to put a stamp on when you post it!

Lizzie0869 · 17/01/2020 14:53

I'm sorry, but this sounds like the arguments that my DD2 (7) has with her friends, never mind teenagers. Completely ridiculous.

Just find some self-respect and ditch both of them.

Lizzie0869 · 17/01/2020 14:55

I realise that I was overly harsh just now. I think we get into a pattern of behaviour and it takes someone outside the situation to help you see the wood for the trees.

Pardonwhat · 17/01/2020 14:59

Personally I’d refund B.
Text A and tell her you’ll knock her ticket cost off monies owed.
And sell the lot.

Angiemum24 · 17/01/2020 15:12

A&B are psycho who deserve each other. My advice ditch both of them and write off the money owed by A as it will cause more Agro and your life will be a lot better without them.
Delete their numbers and be friends with people who don’t take you for a ride.
Enjoy the band.

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 16:19

Do you guys think it's strange how me and B would text every day and now it's like I don't exist

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mummmy2017 · 17/01/2020 16:24

I think your giving credit to someone who has been nasty twice to you.
Wake up she is no friend.

AllHeart1 · 17/01/2020 16:25

OP, this texting every day and missing it when you’ve not texted her for a day sounds more like relationship teratory than a friendship.

Not saying that there aren’t friends one might text every day but missing it when you’ve not texted for just one day sounds waaaay too intense.

So actually, I’d find it more strange that you always texted every day and would be less surprised if those texts had tailed off....

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 16:33

@AllHeart1 well me and friend B had a bit of history that wasn't totally "friends" but wasn't more than friends.
The situation was confusing.
I think that's why I'm upset
I should have explained In my first post but didn't think it was relevant and would have derailed from my original problem.

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BumbleBeee69 · 17/01/2020 16:34

Do you guys think it's strange how me and B would text every day and now it's like I don't exist

Don't you think it's strange that you cannot get out this feckin CIRCLE of self pity ?! Christ almighty.. she's treated you like shit and you're STILL begging for her attention... WTF OP .. find your inner strength and walk away .. Confused

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 16:40

@BumbleBeee69 I haven't text friend B in two days ,it might not seem Like much but is a big step

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CowBarf · 17/01/2020 16:40

well me and friend B had a bit of history that wasn't totally "friends" but wasn't more than friends.

What?

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whatdoidorr · 17/01/2020 16:47

@CowBarf when we first met we went out I guess on a date and have slept together (she's gay and I'm bisexual ) but said she wasn't wanting a relationship.
I had a boyfriend since then too and everything just got messy.
We haven't slept together since December,friend A had been telling her I was like her ex (controlling etc ) I think that's a reason she backed off.

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