Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

Remember when you were at school? There was always the girly gang of popular girls that everyone thought they wanted to be part of. Except the reality was that the chief popular girl caused shit in that group, turning each of the others against one another in turn. And the other girls in the group were so desperate for it not to be their turn to be picked on that they did everything the top girl said and believed everything she said. That, sweetie, is Friend A. And you and Friend B are the morons that are still arse licking, doing everything she says. And she knows it. Shit, she can make you do ANYTHING. She can make you pay for a holiday and then tell you that you aren't allow to go any more and you'll just go home sadly, feeling sorry for yourself. She can turn people against you, get money out of you. And she knows that you'll take it and go back for more because you're desperate to call her your friend. THIS STOPS NOW. If "Friend" B can't work it out then she's a moron but friend A has such control over you both that I imagine Friend B is a lost cause anyway. What you do with the tickets is up to you but you need to stop thinking of this toxic relationship as friendship. It isn't and it probably never was. Time to wise up and move on.

OMG seriously? Just send them both the tickets and write off the £400 as a good value investment in ridding yourself of such toxicity. Neither of these people are your friends. It will liberate you to no longer have dealings with either of them and you can spend time on real friends instead.

Why are you still hounding B? Shes a bitch but she made it clear before that she doesnt want to talk to you so why are you calling and texting her? I personally wouldn't give either of them the tickets but that's me

1. Friend B will realise your other friend is a cow sooner rather than later. No need to prove you’re nice to her by losing out on money you’re owed (again!)...

1. Stop trying to hang onto either of these women. Do something else to make friends - join a gym, your local Women’s Institute group or look for a few clubs that interest you on a website like Meetup.com.

Lots of luck. X

I'm a little confused OP; first you said the fall out was about bowling, then about your ex boyfriend in the pub dancing with other 'girls'. I'm at a loss after the holiday debacle why you entertained A.
To be fair to B she was friends with A first and obviously has some sort of loyalty to her, however misplaced.
They both sound like bitches but to be honest, you sound like you've been harassing B trying to explain yourself and with all your claims of 'jealousy' I'm not sure if there isn't more to this.
You say you don't like drama but from this it appears you do. If my 15 yo behaved like this I'd be surprised, it's more like 11 yo's the longer it goes on.

@angieloumc I think there were two seperate arguments. The first was regarding bowling and then OP wasn't allowed on holiday and they made friends, then the second one was over her ex and now the issue with tickets.

Invite A & B on Jeremy Kyle and reveal your new death heart tattoo inscribed ‘Up Yours Biatches I Sold The Tickets For This!’ Then stomp off stage and choose a new BFF (C) from the audience. Then sleep with her boyfriend - obvs.

Oh dear tbh op you aound a bit desperate for them/friend b to like you, stop being so lame and feck them both off. Other friend b? Is not nice and judging from her short 'demanding tickets' replies obviously doesnt give a shite if you really are or not. Stop pandering to these nasty pair and block BOTH OF THEM. Either go with a true friend or sell all 3 blasted tickets and stop this bitchiness
& forget them.

Send B her ticket. Sell or give A’s ticket to your other friend. Then have fun at the concert with nice friend whilst B is squirming! Block A forever.

If you have to "prove" to this other "friend" you're a nice person then you shouldn't be friends. It sounds exhausting. Almost like having a shit partner.

I wouldn't give her the ticket and I would move on to find better friends. Regardless of what you do they will still try and make you look bad. Cut them off!!

Why would you even consider inconveniencing yourself and posting either of the tickets? It will cost you time and money. They've decided you can't go even though you ordered them. Why would you put yourself out for two people who have treated you so appallingly?

Tell B if she wants it to come and get it otherwise you'll attempt to sell. And like everyone else has said DO NOT give A anything.

If it wasn't for me they wouldn't have even got the tickets as I got through ticket master and they couldn't.

Sounds like it could be a sold out concert then or highly sought after so in that case I'd be selling both of their tickets and once they are sold and cash received send them their money back.

They want to play petty childish games, do it back 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I’m sorry but I only got to of 5 - it’s pathetic.
Grow up.
Send B her ticket, tell A you’re not sending it as she owes you money and then either sell the 2 you have or find a friend or date to go with you.
And then bin both A and B - and get some grown up friends.

You are better off with no friends than with friends like this. Tell the friend who is believing her lies the truth. Say "so and so is telling you x y z about me but you are misinformed and she owes me £400 , which she obviously doesn't want to pay back , this is the 2nd time she has done this to me , I forgave her last time (like a fool) and she has caused me to not go on holiday because of the lies she has told and the money she owed me. I think she might be doing it to avoid paying back the money which I needed. She is making up lies which you are believing but I'm afraid she will do the same to you...I need the money back and of she is willing to do this to a friend ...well who needs enemies really and what's more I see no reason why I should give you the tickets when you've been taken in by her and are now excluding me, who is telling you the truth ...but seem for some reason to want to believe her over me ?! I've already lost £400, a holiday , been taken for a mug and one friend...and it seems I shall be losing another because of this woman."
You warn friend & say you are on her side (good) but at the same time spell out exactly what has happened and express regret but also convey the fact that you are extremely pissed off and this woman's a total bitch and you aren't happy at all and won't stand for it any longer.

No way! Don't give her the ticket, until she had repaid you for the holiday, explain it to her friend and post hers but sell her ticket to get someone to accompany you, or your going to lose out on the holiday and concert, maybe she'll know what it felt like for you and also she's lucky it is a ticket and not a holiday like yourself ! X

Id refund friend B with her money, and say friend A owes you £400 and can have her ticket or refund when the loan is paid, if nothing is forthcoming i would either invite other friends and have a good night out, or sell the tickets. I couldnt care less what friend b thinks tbh.

THIS°° cracked me up

Hi OP,

I’m sorry you’re having such a rubbish time at the moment with people who you thought were your friends. I’m also sorry that posters on here think it’s ok to verbally bash someone who is at a low point already by calling them immature/childish/lame etc. Mumsnet posters - you should be ashamed of yourselves. You’re as bad as the bullies that the OP is struggling with.

OP - these two people in your life are bullies. Isolation and exclusion are forms of abuse. The worst kind. Please don’t put up with it any longer. I know it’s sad (and hard) to lose people you thought you had a good relationship with, but these two people do not care for you and will continue to make you feel low.

As some posters have suggested, please refund the “friend” who doesn’t owe you money. Sell both tickets and enjoy the concert with someone who doesn’t make you feel bad. Don’t give these awful women the satisfaction of enjoying themselves at a concert that you organised. To hell with them.

Please try to put yourself out there and join some groups to make new friends.

Here’s an article about making friends and some apps that people use to meet new people. www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a24799641/best-friendship-apps/

I wish you lots of strength to get you through the end of this toxic friendship - it will get easier and you’ll look back and be glad you’re free of them once you make real friends that make you feel good about yourself. Enjoy the concert, too! x

I would send the friend who your trying to stay civil with her ticket but since you have been made unable to go and the other person owes you I would sell the remaining tickets to get back some of your owed money x

WhenISnappedAndFarted ah I see. Definitely far too much drama then, OP you're best off out of it for your own sake.

You tried to explain things to friend B and all you got back from her was ‘post two tickets please’ !!?? She’s fully aware of what’s been going on, and also aware that friend A owes you this money. So she’s willingly involved herself in this mess and has taken sides. So let her take some responsibility - text her back ‘Will post two tickets if friend A pays me back the £400 she owes me by (date of your choice) - if not will have to sell them on to recoup the money.’ The ball is then back in their court so leave it at that. However this plays out, you really don’t need these two toxic bitches in your life - this stuff should have been left in the playground long ago.

So much drama

Glad to see OP has taken on the advice of pretty much every poster. Ditch A, send B's ticket. Move on

Thanks everybody for all the advice.
I'm aware it's a crazy situation and one I really didn't want or need to be in.
I think I did let me loneliness and insecurities try and keep a friendship going with friend B.
I didn't text friend B yesterday and it was hard as we spoke daily for the last year (probably a text every hour ) so she's a massive miss.

Why give the other girl the ticket when she said you weren't welcome, find 2 proper friends to go with and recover more of the money the first one owes you. What a bitch.

Did you post ex freind b her ticket?

Have you stood up to a and said your not posting her ticket because she owes you £400
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