Who's wrong here?

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I'll try to keep it brief.

I've been with DH for 12 years have 1 8 year old and have been TTC for 6 years with 6 miscarriages along the way.

My sister has been with her boyfriend for 4 years, has one 3 year old and is now expecting her 2nd.

This did hit me hard I'll admit but I was civil, congratulated etc. It's then announced she's having the name Henry.

My DS is called Harry. Harry is a 'nickname' as such for Henry.

Aibu for not agreeing with the name?! It's too close to home for me and doesn't make any sense.

Please feel free to tell me if you disagree with this but please be nice

So is your son actually called Harry or Henry? Sorry, it's a bit confusing...

Your kid is Harry. Hers will be Henry. Two different names. Never heard of Harry being a nickname for Henry. Yabu.

Unfortunately you don’t need to agree with the name
If she wants to use it it’s her choice, bit odd but even so

YABU totally different names imo

yabu 2 different names.

Fair enough if his actual name was Henry.. but it isn't, YABU.
It's sad that you had to be 'civil' when you're sister is pregnant, I understand you're going through a hard time but I wouldn't ever except to be 'civil' if my sibling was expecting.

I can see why you're irritated but tbh it's not the hugest deal in the world and I think you should try to get over it. These days they're seen as different names really and Harry is nicer .

Sorry you're going through fertility problems and miscarriages.. it's really tough

I don't think it's up to you to agree their choice of name?

Harry is a common nickname for Henry (Prince Harry's actual name is Henry @AlwaysCheddar) so you'd think she'd know but as it's apparently not well known, from responses already here, maybe it's a genuine mistake. Have you talked to her about it?

Your kid is Harry. Hers will be Henry. Two different names. Never heard of Harry being a nickname for Henry. Yabu.

Prince Harry's actual name is Henry!

To be honest I don't think the names are too close even though one is a nickname of the other. It's like being upset that your child is John and your sister chooses Jack as a name.

@AlwaysCheddar Prince Harry's name is Henry so it isn't unknown or unheard of.
However, OP YABU - they are two names and I very much doubt your sister will be using the nickname Harry for her son.

I don’t think you are being u- Harry is a well known nn for Henry - as for never hearing of it @AlwaysCheddar not heard of Prince Harry then?

It doesn't matter if you agree or not, it's not up to you.

The only Henry who's known as Harry is the ginger sponge who's off to Canada

I think this probably stems from a sadness that she’s managed to conceive and you haven’t understandable. But don’t let it wreck your relationship with her or her new baby.
Traditionally Harry used to be a nickname for Henry. It is of course Prince Harry’s name. But they’re very different names and I don’t think you should be getting worked up by it. As is evidenced here, most people don’t know that anyway.

Cry God for Harry, England and At George.

Harry has been the nickname of many a Henry, for centuries.

I have two sons ones called Harry and his brother is called Henry. YABU

YABU, I know harry is a nn for Henry but they are very different and harry has become a name in it's own right now really so 99% of people don't associate the two with each other

Wow completely none of your business. Your poor sister having someone who is only 'civil' about a new nephew. I understand ttc is difficult but do try and be nice. Plus Harry and Henry aren't the same name.

Unless she’s planning on shortening the name to Harry then I don’t see the issue. They are totally different names.
I’m sorry for your struggles but I think you know that they’re having an impact on your reaction and your emotions are being displaced to the name.

The only Harry I know whose full name is Henry is prince Harry. And I know plenty of people who had no idea that was the case (SIL has a Harry and a Henry!)

I know plenty of other Harry's and Henry's, and I think they are far less similar than Eva/Ava, Emilia/Amelie, Joshua/Joseph or any other amount of "vaguely similar" names that it's totally acceptable for cousins to have. It's a non issue IMO.

The two boys will be cousins with an 18 year age gap between them and will be called by two different names.

Whether or not Harry is a nickname for Henry is irrelevant, Her child will be called Henry and they will both be going by different names.

She isn't stealing you son's name.

Lots of old names had ‘short’ alternatives. Many are these are used independently today, I wouldn’t worry e.g.

Henry - Harry
John - Jack
Richard - Dick
William - Bill
Thomas - Tom
Margaret - Peggy
etc.

Are you serious?
Get over yourself.

I think it's weird op and I would be a bit annoyed. Unless it's a family name that's really special to you both.

Either way, your ds is definitely older so it's going to be obvious to everyone that she copied you and not the other way round. Yours is most definitely the original.