Nobody's bothering with my new baby

[tiredandgrumpyx]

I gave birth on Friday by emergency c section and came home Sunday I have a two year old dd and an adult dd child. When I had little dd people came to visit bought little gifts and cards ect but this time nothing no visitors no cards nothing. I didn't have a baby shower so I don't know do people generally not bother with second baby's?
I'm feeling very down actually my dh isn't being that nice I've not even had a cheep bunch of flowers from him. He just seems annoyed that he has to help me more. I'm just trying to get on with it as I feel asking for help is just pissing him off
Anyway just wanted to get that off my chest I probably am being unreasonable or hormonal I just feel really forgotten

I agree; Bloody well done you! You're a superhero to be caring for your baby, recovering from surgery and entertaining your 2 year old while your dh boils some eggs

Do people really expect their sisters to take annual leave after they've had a baby? what an odd comment. I have 3 sisters and we all visited each other after a new baby (yes even the third baby). We bought gifts, cards and phoned to see how new mum was getting on.

You don't need annual leave to send a card or flowers or pick up the phone.

No body has been to visit called or left a card absolutely no body
My dh thinks I'm being vunreasonable what do I expect ect I'm just going to forget it no talking to him has made me feel even more shit than I did

Your 'D'H sounds like he's compounding the issue. Bet he was complaining at the time of conception though, was he?

He needs to step up and quit playing the fucking martyr. You've just had major surgery and you need help

Congratulations on your LO

I think people give you things after birth more a as a way of recognising your transition to motherhood than giving much of a hoot about the baby tbh.

This.

I went to see my best friend to help her feel herself two weeks after birth because that's what she wanted. I took a day of to help my sister paint the nursery. I go to see if friends need support, gauge how well they're doing. I actually feel hugely maternal towards my friends when they're new mums!

People will also assume that you have your hands full bonding the existing siblings with the newborn. I have a friend or two who were careful not to have too many people fussing over the baby so their elder kids didn't feel shunted out.

I think it's very odd that close family/friends haven't acknowledged your baby at all.

Not visiting is a different matter, but no congrats messages? How strange.

@BillHadersNewwife You got upset because total strangers didn't ooh and ahhh over your baby? That's a little precious