To throw away wedding memory box

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Divorcing after (d)h cheated on me and have started clearing out some stuff.
I found our wedding memory box with cards, guest book, order of service, his speech etc. Tbh I would happily chuck it all in the bin but should I keep it for the dc?
Also thought about giving it to him. I had to look through it and relive the day, so he should to!
What would you do?

Keep it for your DC. It's their history too.

If you’re unsure then keep it for now. You can’t change your mind once you’ve binned it. Hang on to it until you decide what to do with it. Have you asked your oh if he’d hang on to it?

How recent? I'd put it away again and look at it in a few years when I could make better decisions about what I wanted and didn't. Too easy to chuck the lot out while it still hurts.

So sorry you've had this pain to go through OP.

Chuck it and move on. It will only make you sad and I would have thought your children too.

Give it to him. He can look though or save it for the DC if he wants. He should have to be the one to deal with it though.

Get rid of it.. Why hold on to something that brings back bad memories?

Having several members of my family who trace family history, this sort of thing might be very precious to somebody in the future, either your children or future generations further away. Could you keep a pared back version? Digitise some of it?

Bin it, no one wants reminders of a failed marriage.

I binned all mine. Got rid of wedding photos with both of us in them. It was a relief to me to get rid.

Giving it to him to sort just confirms to him that he's still occupying space in your head. It's not going to bother him to sort through it, after all the day couldn't have meant much to him if he couldn't even keep his vows.

Send each item to him one at a time so he relives the day for a whole month.

I have kept everything in a sealed labelled box in the loft for DD. It is her history, so it would not be fair to throw out all the wedding photos etc, as I feel that she has a right to see them. I kept my wedding rings for her too.

I lay these things out, take photos of a batch at a time, then upload it. That way it's kept safe but I don't have to look at it again.

Clearing out my house in preparation for a move, so I'm doing a LOT of this.

I decided to keep all our wedding photos. Just put them in the loft. It’s history for the DC to look at if they want!

Keep it for your DCs. I remember fetching my parent's wedding album out of a skip on our drive. I liked looking through it every so often. It's part of your DC's history. I still have the album and will probably show my DCs one day.

Get rid of it; as long as there are some photos for your DC to see if they ever want to then that’s the main thing.
I can’t say I’d be that bothered about going through all that stuff belonging to my parents whether they were still together or not.

My parents divorced, and my mum threw out every photo of the day. I really wish I had been able to keep at least a few photos. Put them away from where you might often see them, but your children may want to see them at some time.

I binned it, it was my memories not the children's

* Send each item to him one at a time so he relives the day for a whole month.*

Very odd suggestion. Effort on OP’s side and the Ex will just be “weird”.

OP - depends how ended. Awful and acrimonious, bin. Amicable, as mine was, I kept for my daughter to have a nose through when older

As someone who is divorced and now frantically looking for the order of service, I'd hang on to it. DM wrote a hymn for my wedding and DD2 would like it at her wedding and I have lost the OOS. I am beyond gutted. DM died 20 years ago.

Keep it, stash it where you won't come across it by accident and give it to your DC when they're old enough.

My parents are divorced because my dad was a dick. My mum still looks through the wedding album occasionally as it's got photos of her late parents and her family and friends.

Don't do something haste and anger that you may regret later.

I've got my parents old wedding album they divorced years ago. It's quite nice to look back on them.

I don't think you're saying you're going to chuck the photos (don't...) but absolutely chuck the paraphernalia...

A few years ago my mum asked if I wanted her wedding album. They divorced 20+ years ago and she had just kept it in a cupboard, but wanted to declutter. I was grateful to have it because as pp says it’s a part of my family history. I don’t look at it very often, but sometimes it’s nice to see my parents when they were young and happy together.

I'd suggest you keep photos rather than greetings cards, church notes, etc. Photos are usually interesting for kids and adults. (Write the family names on the back so it's easy for them to identify Aunt Ann and Grandpa Bob, etc.) If you're short on storage space, scan or upload photos to 2 different locations eg memory stick and cloud.

I would keep the photos for the kids. But I don’t understand keeping all the other shite, even if you were still together.

I kept my wedding photo album but everything else was disposed of