To think DS is very ungrateful

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All ds 7 went on about up to Xmas was that he wanted a Nintendo switch
So me and Dh saved up to get him one and got 2 games it came to over £300 and he has only played it once he realised that the games are quite hard compared to robox that he plays all the time so he has only played it once and it is sat in the box collecting dust.
His behaviour hasn't been great lately so we've banned him from Xbox but he still has not even asked to play the Nintendo I understand it's harder but he can't even be bothered to try, I'm actually really upset.

Probably going to get crucified here, but, does anyone else think that children spending so much time in front of consoles etc. at least partly responsible for so many more now having SENs?

No. If it was mine would have SEN but they don't

sell it

Don't give it in to CEX fgs, sell on ebay is best and you'll get most of the money back for it as long as it's in good condition.

7 is extremely young for that surely? I would sell and keep the money though I guess it’s second hand now and will lose money on it.

Might have missed it but couldn't see the games you got? Massive difference in types of game. I think children expect to pick up and just be able to do stuff instantly, some games take practice. We have a Switch and play on it together, now there are some games he will play alone.

"Probably going to get crucified here, but, does anyone else think that children spending so much time in front of consoles etc. at least partly responsible for so many more now having SENs"

This must be one of the most stupid things I've ever read.

Probably going to get crucified here, but, does anyone else think that children spending so much time in front of consoles etc. at least partly responsible for so many more now having SENs

You certainly are going to be crucified, and deservedly so. What a ridiculous comment. Also, just because parents allow their children to have screen time, it doesn't mean that they don't do other things. My DDs love playing with screens, but they also do gymnastics, choir, guides and play with friends.

It's also not the point of the thread.

Probably going to get crucified here, but, does anyone else think that children spending so much time in front of consoles etc. at least partly responsible for so many more now having SENs

What a lot of nonsense!! What about the SEN kids that have never had a console?

My daughter couldnt speak until last April (3) and she was not getting a tablet until I deemed necessary. Turns out she's Autistic and I was advised by several professionals to get her one with certain apps. Guess what? She has an extensive vocabulary now and is doing amazingly well. She also abandons the tablet in favour of imaginative and outdoor play.

Yeah. My ds at 6 has a switch. It's for his down time. Rest of the time he is either at the allotment, at the ponies, kayaking or maybe out with me walking the dog.

Half an hour sat with a switch isn't going to give him autism/adhd/learning difficulties/attitude problem yada yada yada.

You deserve to be crucified tbh.

@Fedupofdoingit no correlation at all. My 6yo DS has a switch and has no SEN at all.

Apologies if I have upset anyone, but I HAVE done some research into this topic, which I suspect many parents haven’t, and I am NOT being ridiculous! I have found a significant number of research articles, which prove very interesting reading. However the findings in many articles do contradict the findings of other ones!

Some research has found that excessive use of gaming can cause (amongst other things) anxiety, stress, depression and anti social behaviour! However other articles have found that use of gaming can in fact positively increase the portion of the brain which is used for problem solving, can improve hand-eye coordination and also help with learning new sensorimotor tasks! On the whole I do think many children react negatively if allowed excessive screen time. I’m sure most of the responsible parents on here do limit screen time, however there are other parents who allow unlimited screen time to keep their child quiet and these are the ones that I feel may suffer negatively and have SNs!

Have a look at the research yourselves if you are open minded enough to do so? One particular article may be of interest to those who have said my previous post was a “lot of nonsense” and that my comment was “ridiculous.”

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mental-wealth/201609/is-your-childs-brain-video-games

Consoles/screens etc do not CAUSE children to suddenly develop SENs.

That's kids for you. He's 7 and this is not remotely surprising.

I would never spend £300 on a 7 year old anyway. It's not remotely unreasonable to sell it on.

Sorry, no sympathy here.

My DS is 7 and loves his switch, we started with easy games like Mario Kart and now he plays it daily. He has loads of games now (birthdays and xmas), mostly platform based as he likes that sort of stuff. I wouldn't sell it, he maybe just needs the right game to figure out how to use it. I look at the pegi rating 3-7 tend to be easier to use

I don't think you can say he's ungrateful just because he can't do it yet. He probably didn't realise how hard it would be. Presumably he wanted it because he thought it would be fun. If it's too hard it will just frustrate him and put him off wanting to play.
My 6 year old GS asked for a Nintendo switch for Christmas but he got lego instead. He was told to wait a few years for a games console.

I bet a lot of OPs are reduced to tears by some very one-sided comments. Some say that it's not OP's to sell since it is gifted to the son. Liberal go mad! If £300 was sitting there and gathering dust, why not talk to the boy and buy something else? Some very intellectually pretentious people here! The end of the day, you're the adults and you guide your charge even though you might be learning along the way.

Are you Jacob Reese-Mogg?

Was one of the games Luigi‘s mansion? My 13 year old got that for Christmas, and oh my gosh, it is so hard! Mario Kart is much easier, even I can manage that..
And no, I don’t believe for a second that video games cause SEN. I can see them potentially contributing to MH issues, and obviously there are well documented links between social media / cyber bullying / low self esteem, but that’s just not the same thing at all.

Showing my age here but my parents bought me a computer in the 80's that was well sought after. All my friends had commodore 64's and as an only child who had very few friends allowed in the house I had NO idea how to use it. I tried to work it out but my older parents had no idea so it sat there unloved.
Which games do you have? We bought the family a switch for Christmas and we bought one well known racing game. We play as a family with spectators and no-one is left out, even if it took a while to understand the game.

My DC both had their Switches for over a year, and I was feeling disappointed they weren't using them having absolutely begged for them. Then suddenly they got interested, I think when a friend was playing with his.

You cannot sell it. That would be ridiculous and selfish. Stop looking for people to agree with you so you can do it in good conscience.

Get easier games.

Give it time.

@Ginburee I was given a ZX81 for my 12th birthday (giving away my age here! ). It was my F who got it for me, and I didn't have a clue how to use it. He was keen to help me, but I wasn't keen to use it, because in my case I hadn't asked for it. (The reason I wasn't keen was because it meant spending time with him, and I didn't want that, as he was abusing me.)

The moral here, I think, is don't buy expensive presents for your children, unless you're sure that it will be used.

Lizzie that is awful to hear, mine was also a ZX. I agree as things are so very expensive. Xx