To think DS is very ungrateful

[mummaaw]

All ds 7 went on about up to Xmas was that he wanted a Nintendo switch
So me and Dh saved up to get him one and got 2 games it came to over £300 and he has only played it once he realised that the games are quite hard compared to robox that he plays all the time so he has only played it once and it is sat in the box collecting dust.
His behaviour hasn't been great lately so we've banned him from Xbox but he still has not even asked to play the Nintendo I understand it's harder but he can't even be bothered to try, I'm actually really upset.

@TripTrappingOverMyBridge next year I will buy him fresh air for Christmas then

It's not yours to sell though, is it?

Obviously I'm going to have a conversation with him about it first ffs

Ds 6 also got a switch. Also found it more difficult. But is gradually getting to grips with it. Did you sign up for the nintendo online membership? You get loads if games with that and even I can do them.

Plus there is a free version of Fortnight which ds loves. He can't go online and play with other people on it (I didn't want him to be able to do that) and my ndn teenager came round and showed him how to do stuff in that. Then he got Minecraft which he plays on his tablet and can do that.

For your son's future happiness and character development, it might be a good idea for teach him to be polite when receiving presents, even if it were a foul egg! Remember Strictly coming Dancing vlogger Joe Suggs? He made such a fuss when gifted a Christmas packet. Perhaps, you could do a bit of role play and video him receiving presents! This will teach our millennial empathy. Also, ask him to do some chores and give him token money and ask him to reflect how long it will take to earn that amount of money. This way, you will make him a nicer person, budgetting and empathy.

Children of seven should not be encouraged to use video games. They are developed to be addictive and can cause numerous problems for users especially young children. Encourage your child to do anything other than play video games or use iPads.

What games did you get with it?
My son has a switch which he saved for himself and bought last year. He is 6 and loves to play minecraft, Mario, just dance, sonic racers, pokemon
Some of the games are harder but give it time and I am sure he will get used to them.
Have you suggested playing it together?

We have a switch (it is not our DCs) and it's all my 7yr old DD wants to do! Her time is limited obviously. She plays all sorts, Minecraft, Mario Odyssey, Yoshi's crafted world, Mario Kart, Zelda! Etc

We sometimes play together too, have you tried playing with him? Or having a go yourself? DD always wants a go when we're playing it

I'm sure I read somewhere that Roblox can now be played on Nintendo Switch? I'd look into that as it may be the way you get him to use it more.

Do you have any Mario games? Mario Party or Mario Kart? If so you should set the switch up to the TV and you could play with him.

My 7 year old mostly plays his ps4 but he will play the Switch for the Mario games and he watches YouTube on it.

That's just seven year olds for you. They're not long term thinkers and they don't have a sense of money. As parents we have to choose what will be worthwhile to save for and what won't.

He’ll go back to it. We had similar problems with DD and her switch last year. It took her about 6 months to really pick it up and use it regularly. I rolled my eyes internally because she had made such a fuss about getting it but never mentioned anything when it wasn’t played with. It’s one of her favourite toys now.

It's only Jan 13th..... and you want to sell his Christmas presents??? Really weird idea. And this I'll talk to him first? I may of course be completely wrong but Im not sure that he wont be pushed into doing what you want.

Also, it's an interesting lesson to teach your son.... it's a bit hard, so quick, sell it..... cos you know its been 3 weeks, you'll clearly never manage it.

Why dont you play it with him for a bit, find out which games are best for him, ie help him.

Oh and what you've described is not him being ungrateful.

I don't think its about gratitude
You made the choice to buy the gift. At his age he has no real concept of how much money that cost or how much effort he put into it
Find some easier games, sit with him and show him how to play it
And never ask for more than a simple thank you for a gift

It’s not his fault it cost over £300. That’s meaningless to him. It’s just a case of he thought he wanted something but didn’t really. My dd did that with an Xbox. I think he’s too young to be seen as ungrateful.

Please don't sell a 7 year old's Christmas gift on 13th January because it's been gathering dust for less than a month!! His behaviour has nothing to do with it.

It’s got nothing to do with gratitude. He isn’t ignoring it because he’s ungrateful.
He’s not playing with it because it’s not fun because it turned out to be harder than he thought. Because he’s 7 and sometimes 7 year old’s ideas turn out to wrong.
The person being petulant and sulky here is you.

Depends on the games really. Did you get one player or two? If you got two player (Mario Kart etc) you can link it up to the TV and play with him, that might help.

Or you could ask him what he wants instead and sell the Switch to fund it.

It's not yours to sell. You're behaving oddly OP.

Would it be ok for someone to sell your presents a couple of weeks after you received them? Why didn't you get the games he was accustomed too to start off with? Why haven't you hooked it up to the telly and learn how to use it together?

Sounds to me you want to punish him for his behaviour more than anything else.

No one asked for opinions on 7 year olds playing console games. This is clearly a question for those of us that did or have children who do.

DSD also 7 loves the switch - try downloading Pokémon Quest for him it's free and easy to play, definitely one of the games that got her into it the most.

Other games she enjoys, Yoshis crafted world (can be put on easy mode for kiddies), captain toad treasure tracker and mario rabids - she also likes the new Pokémon but is pretty pants at it!

Ps ours is a family console and me and DH like to play just as much as her so the games are not just bought for her... In other words we don't spoil her with tech!!

As others have echoed the cost of it means nothing to your DS!! Presumably he still believes in Santa? Wrote a list to Santa and asked for it?

He will play it in due course ... why don’t you play it with him? Mario kart is so fun for everyone to play!

I'd say it's the games too. My 4yo loves the switch and we have to really limit it because he'd play Lego worlds/lego Jurassic world/minecraft/mario kart all the time if we let him.

That's a silly response to my post, Mummaaw.

I just think that as the majority teenagers will end up with some form of screen addiction anyway (and despite their parents' best efforts), it's crazy to actively encourage it to happen when a child is only seven.

There are loads of presents you could buy a seven-year-old which don't involve being screen-bound. My point about being outside wasn't that you should buy your son some fresh air (do I really need to say that? Evidently so). It was more that if you have free time to spend together, you would all be better off if he were spending that time outside, letting off steam, climbing, running and so on.

I'm not sure that "ffs" is very constructive, either, when posters are politely advising you not to do as you mooted as a possibility, namely sell your son's Christmas present.