AIBU to think that the motive on gift wrapping paper does not matter?

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Dd, 3 years old, was invited to a birthday party by a girl from nusery. All fine, responded she would like to come, asked for wishes and went with dd to get a gift from list. Thought I had frozen gift wrapping paper at home. Wanted to wrap this morning before party at 10am to realise that the only wrapping paper we had was Christmas inspired green with gold trees on so ofc wrapped the gift in that paper and took dd to party..
All went fine at the party, the birthday gift liked the gift and party was nice.
But just received a txt from the birthday girls mom where she is moaning about the paper and accusing me of regifting a Christmas gift that I clearly didn't even bother to rewrap.
I'm a bit gobsmacked by the txt.. I have a recipe that proves I bought it last weekend, but I really didnt anybody would care that much about the look of the wrapping paper?
AIBU?

I can't say that I ever even notice what paper a gift is wrapped in. I can't see how it matters, and I wrap gifts in whatever paper I have to hand.

I wouldn't care, but then I have a summer birthday and have never really thought about how it might affect children born closer to xmas.

I've wrapped birthday gifts in xmas paper before without issues! But usually then they're March-October birthdays so perhaps less easy to get offended by it.

I wouldn't even be offended by a regift so long as the item was useable and my child was thrilled. Does it really matter?

Does it really matter?

No, it doesn't. As I've said upthread, our planet is choked with the crap that we've been producing and discarding for decades.

We all really need to look at the waste we create and take care of our corner of responsibility. Future generations will be enormously affected by our choices right now. Whining about 'the right wrapping paper' and being sniffy about regifting makes me despair slightly.

If I ever caught myself being whiny about my gift not being 'wrapped in the right paper' I would give myself a bloody good talking to.

Oh as an adult, sure. But surely we can try to make kids feel special?

Having a near-Christmas relative, I’ve used the Christmas wrapping paper inside out before now because I know he hates getting it in Christmas paper but I didn’t have anything else in. He liked it and now that’s what we do every year deliberately

My birthdays coming up, it’s after Christmas but before pay day but not too much before pay day so everyone is always broke.

I’ve never been upset by gifts wrapped in Christmas wrapping paper, I have been upset when DP went to Sainsbury’s the morning of my birthday and gave me a candle and room freshener from the Christmas discount aisle.

I’m on your side OP the woman sounds a cheeky fucker, moreso given the texts she’s sending other mums! Does she usually give very expensive gifts to other people’s children?

Oh as an adult, sure. But surely we can try to make kids feel special?

DD3 has a Birthday around Christmas. She knows how much we love her and that her Birthday is just as special as her siblings. Everything is exactly the same other than her gifts are wrapped in Christmas paper, if that's what's around.

At 10, she has a decent handle on environmental issues and truly does not care one jot about it.

As I said upthread, I'm a Christmas Birthday - it didn't bother me either.

Making kids feel special is vital, but I strongly discourage mine form measuring it via the medium of gifts and wrapping paper.

My almost 3 year old wouldn’t notice it’s christmas paper & not special birthday wrapping paper 🙄

My three year old sees a present and goes ‘ooooh present for Anna’ (not her name), then attempts to unwrap it. Regardless of who’s present it is. I tend to keep a firm grip on the kid when near other people’s gifts.

I cannot say my 3 year old would be bothered by this. She’d be thrilled about having a birthday, she keeps telling me it’s her birthday. I keep telling her it isn’t yet.

To clarify Im Danish so gift lists are perfectly normal to me. And yes I make mistakes within the English language, but I try my best.
The birthday girls mom is non Danish, and I don't know how long she has lived here..
I did actually try to pick a thoughtful gift that was on the list and didn't deliberately wanted to use Christmas paper but thought it was better than no paper.

Be' hende om at rende og hoppe, hun lyder godt nok både grov og anstrengende. Jeg går ud fra den anden mor undrede sig over kommentaren om den for billige gave, så hvis du evt. Kan snakke med hende? Hvis ikke så ignorer og undgå fødselsdagsbarnets mor. (Jeg er så nysgerrig over hvilken nationalitet... ).

Ha' en god dag.

My birthday is New Year's Eve. I've always had birthday presents wrapped in Xmas paper when people have not got any birthday paper in! I have never given a toss what paper is used and I can't actually believe that people can be that precious about it, let alone rude enough to actually text and moan about it! I'd either completely ignore her or tell her to fuck off!

Ha ha ja det var en noget overraskende besked at få fra hende. Har snakket med den anden mor og vi er enige om at ignorere det lige nu og håber der så ikke sker mere i den sag.

Moren til fødselsdagsbarnet er amerikansk

Tak for info . Jeg troede, hun måske var engelsk med tanke på de tråde om gaver der kører her .

First time I’ve ever used Google translate for Danish...

Haha ja det kunne godt have været

@Butchyrestingface
now you made me curious as to how it translates, ha ha.

@Butchyrestingface a word of warning it usually translates in to something that makes no sense or at least that what tend to happen for my dh

Jeg forstår, at hun er en berettiget amerikaner.

Åh hvor er du dygtig . Jeg gættede på englænder.

This is completely baffling! First of all who cares what paper the gift is wrapped in? Plus if it was regifted so what? Regifting is totally fine, if you won't use the gift and the recipient will what's the problem, she should be grateful for any gift at all and it sounds like the birthday girl was.

Unbelievably rude of the mother and I dread to think what example she's setting for her daughter if she thinks it's acceptable to send a complaint about a gift - outrageous.

Wow - I would absolutely do the same (OK, I might have looked for something more generic than Christmas trees - in fact, that's one of the reasons I lean towards generic paper at Christmas, so I only need to buy stuff once and then just use it all year), but the idea that you'd complain about a present at all is amazing! Even if you had regifted, who cares?! a gift is a gift.

Fancy whinging about wrapping paper! I’ve received gifts in a carrier bag because the person had no wrapping paper, but I wasn’t so ungrateful as to complain. And if I have Christmas paper left I’ll use it, even for a birthday in July!

jeg elsker google translate 😁

I would give her the recipe and tell her if she doesnt like the gift she can return it!

Jeg ruller måske mine øjne mod indpakningspapiret, men jeg vil ALDRIG sige noget, langt mindre kastede forhåbninger om selve nutiden. Kvinden er en fræk boot.