AIBU to think that the motive on gift wrapping paper does not matter?

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Dd, 3 years old, was invited to a birthday party by a girl from nusery. All fine, responded she would like to come, asked for wishes and went with dd to get a gift from list. Thought I had frozen gift wrapping paper at home. Wanted to wrap this morning before party at 10am to realise that the only wrapping paper we had was Christmas inspired green with gold trees on so ofc wrapped the gift in that paper and took dd to party..
All went fine at the party, the birthday gift liked the gift and party was nice.
But just received a txt from the birthday girls mom where she is moaning about the paper and accusing me of regifting a Christmas gift that I clearly didn't even bother to rewrap.
I'm a bit gobsmacked by the txt.. I have a recipe that proves I bought it last weekend, but I really didnt anybody would care that much about the look of the wrapping paper?
AIBU?

Why in the name of all that’s Holy should op apologise and plead human error, DoesItGetAnyBetter?! She’s done nothing she needs absolution from
I’d have instructed crazy lady to shove it up her arse.

@Butchyrestingface

I dare you to translate your last post into English 🤣.

This is hilarious!! What a supreme cheeky fucker!

Having a wish list for nursery pals (fair enough for family who ask for it)

Complaining about the paper (seriously who does that)

Complaining about regifting!

I honestly thought regifting duplicate presents was par for the course for that age group: particularly when it’s just a wee gift for a party rather than a big gift from family!

My son received an obvious regift: I just said thanks for the gift as normal and had a wee chuckle to myself that I had caught it out.

I get slightly annoyed if people wrap DSs birthday presents in Xmas paper, but that's because his bday is a few days before Xmas and DH and I work hard to try and separate the two.
I have a friend who has twins and she gets upset if we wrap the two gifts in the same paper as she says that we need to treat the girls as two individuals who happen to share a birthday. I have pointed out that if two, unrelated people shared a birthday I would probably wrap the gifts in the same paper anyways!

Sorry I sort of see these as the same thing. You want to distinguish your DS birthday as special and different (from xmas), she wants to distinguish each of her DTs birthdays as special and different (from each other)

I think having read several posters issues with near-xmas birthdays if I had a close friend or family I would try and separate the 2 occasions as much as possible. However, sometimes I have been caught out with wrapping paper and given a not ideal wrapping for class mates presents.however the point of wrapping (especially at that age)is so the contents are a surprise.
Does anyone feel shocked or aggrieved if someone wraps an xmas present in birthday paper?
My Ddad used to give blatantly reused paper at xmas for myself and DC. i was just grateful he'd gone to the bother of buying and wrapping a present.

I am DYING of a managed gift list and receiving table for a 3 year old. And disappointed feedback from party Mum. 3.

74NewStreet I didn’t say I think the OP SHOULD apologise. I said she had already been been very good to apologise.

If you read the whole of my post instead of picking out the bit you could bitch about, you would have seen I thought the party mum was a complete “dick”, rude and ungrateful.

Fair enough.

To be honest that would be something I would do. But I do have a ds who has a birthday just after Christmas...... however only 1 of his aunties/uncles sent him a card!!still quite fucked off by this

The 3 year old won’t give a shit which wrapping paper is used.

Wow! The woman is bonkers. Why on earth would she text you to complain? Ungrateful cow. If I ever received a text like that from a parent then that would be the last time I ever bought a present for that family. If I ever received a birthday present wrapped in Christmas paper then I'd just laugh. It's really not worth getting so worked up over.

and to be honest you haven't been particularly thoughtful

Really???

OP chose a present from the child's gift list - so thought about what the child wanted and paid for it.

OP thought about wrapping paper and remembered having some suitable at home. Unfortunately she'd forgotten she'd used it all up. OP thought some Christmas paper might be better than no wrapping paper, which for many people it would be.

Is the wrapping paper or the actual gift the most important thing here, for the 3 year old recipient?

I have done this before but reversed the paper. she is just having a hard time. Ignore and move on.

Is the wrapping paper or the actual gift the most important thing here, for the 3 year old recipient?

Well given the parent of the child in question was bothered enough to complain it seems fairly likely that the 3yo was upset. I have no idea why so many people think they have a better grasp of what the girl in question cares about than the child's actual mother.

The mother was beyond rude to text you.
Having a child with a January birthday I probably do judge the family members that use Christmas wrapping paper, but just for being lazy or disorganised, never would I think it was a regifted Christmas present.

Next time give her a roll of (appropriate, of course!) wrapping paper, since that appears to be of far more importance than the gift inside it.

If this is all she's got to worry about she's a lucky woman .

I’m with Mammylamb on this one. Recipient unbelievably rude and ungracious, and staggered at the idea of a gift list. I personally would avoid Xmas paper ( as have friend with Xmas birthday and she gets very cheesed off!!) but this kid is 3!! Would be tempted to respond along ( sarcastic) lines of: so sorry if I have traumatised ( dc) or caused terrible confusion for him just as he is learning to distinguish Christmas from birthdays. Sorry also that my explanation and apology was not relayed via your husband. We were so busy ensuring precious darling received something off the wish list that, unfortunately, I didn’t make time to check my wrapping paper stocks. Left ourselves too little time on the Saturday morning (10 am party) to make a specific gift wrap trip as genuinely thought you wouldn’t mind an eco friendly wrap; and that dc would be so pleased with presents and party that the paper would not be a big issue. Sincere apologies for underestimating your child’s discernment in embellishments. I consider myself thoroughly chastised and will ensure adequate supplies of quality gift paper and ribbons/ bows for future toddler parties. Thank you so much for drawing my attention to this vital issue”. Then avoid this crazy parent like the plague in future!!

Yes the wrapping paper matters. But I dont think I would have pulled you up on it.

The mum is a cheeky cow. I’d just take a pic of the receipt and send it to her. No explanation. Air her feel like a tear. But I’m passive aggressive

All these people on here moaning about wrapping paper, over their gifts, I was bought up in a childrens home. I had zero family and we weren't allowed 'outside' friends so therefore I had many a birthday without a birthday present at all, if I had been given a gift I couldn't have cared less if it had been wrapped in newspaper, it wouldn't have been wrapped in christmas paper as we didn't get christmas presents either ... talk about ungrateful. Some people don't realise just how lucky they are

Sounds like a proper cheeky cow, I use whatever I can fins to wrap presents, its paper thats going ro get wripped anyway. Id be horrified if someone messaged me over it. Id probably be downright rude n tell them if it's such a problem give the gift back and bog off the entitled T#&t.

I’m actually so cross for you !! Send her back a photo of the recipe and tell her you would be very happy to return it as it was clearly not appreciated. What an absolute wagon!!!!!

Dear CF Mum,

This planet is in a bit of a mess,
And as you clearly saw!
I’m doing my best to try to redress,
A small part of the eco war!

So, my New Years Resolution,
Was ‘Reuse, Recycle, Reduce’.
I truly wasn’t expecting,
To be met with so much abuse! 😮

Your gracelessness has left me speechless!
I don’t like your attitude 🤷‍♀️
And I really have to ask...
‘Did you mean to be SO bloody rude?’

Send this in a card, with the receipt stapled inside 👍

Yes the wrapping paper matters

No, it really doesn't.

Dimples experiences like yours are what I always keep in mind in so many scenarios, to give some much-needed perspective. I hope life got better for you once you were out of the care system.

What countryandconfused said
Send her a copy of the receipt and tell her you would be happy to return very ungrateful person