Is it just me, or is anyone else not good enough for posh toiletries?

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Aibu in thinking posh toiletries are wasted on me, and re-gifting them or giving them to a raffle or charity shop so someone proper can enjoy them?

I was given a few sets for Christmas. I was having a bath the other day, without a small child for once, and I thought for a second about putting one of the bath bombs in for a bit of luxury. But then I thought no, that'd be wasting it! Someone could enjoy that!

I feel a bit like the opposite of the loreal ad. I'm not worth it! Is it just me?!

Yanbu: Give the stuff to someone else
Yabu: waste use them on myself

@OP. Do you dare to eat the peach?!

I slather myself in the posh stuff .
The posher the better
Because I’m worth it !
And I don’t just use mine... I use everybody else’s too if they leave it sitting around getting wasted

Molten Brown Black Pepper for me.

If you like them, how could that be a waste? Unless you plan to sell them and use the cash for something else, you have them, shame to let them rot.

You tend to get what you pay for, and some more expensive items are so much nicer than cheap and badly smelling ones.

That's like when people save their best clothes to wear another time and they just sit in the wardrobe. Or saving your best body lotion or perfume for a special occasion. Toiletries go off. Use them and enjoy them. Personally I don't like bath bombs so I'd regift them but if you actually like them then enjoy them. Life's too short.

I'm similar with clothes. I have a few nice things in the cupboard, waiting for an Occasion to be worn. But I never go to any Occasions, and so there they will sit until the end of time. I also refrain from buying any further nice things, because who do I think I am? Tsk.

This led to me having not one thing to wear to the Christmas party and getting terribly sad about it. Use the nice toiletries, op.

Why do you think you’re not worth it, OP? Because that’s what you’re really saying. You deserve a bit of luxury, as much as any woman, no matter their background or financial situation. And for those questioning whether it’s luxury or not, luxury is being able to use those things that would normally be considered too expensive for your normal budget or extravagant. It’s not about YOUR definition of luxury, it’s about the OP’s. Enjoy it OP. I used to ‘save’ the good stuff until it ended up being unusable. I chuck the stuff in now, because there may come a time when I won’t be able to afford or I’m too ill/old/ disabled to manage it. Fuck that! I’m worth it!

I never buy myself posh toiletries so I love it when I get something nice for Christmas.
If I have to pay for it then it is a pack of Lidl soap or a bar of coal tar so it is a real treat to have some L'Occitane or Molton brown and the only person I have left who buys it for me is my mum via her qvc shopping addiction.

Enjoy, even if it’s only momentary. You are worth it x

I'm with you OP. It's a lovely thing to be given, but it always feels like 'I need to save this for something special...' and then there never really is something special.
More everyday stuff like body lotion, soap, or hand cream is not such a thing. But I hardly ever have a bath or wear make up so that sort of thing is totally wasted on me. Same with naice shampoo or hair masks. I don't have a reason to use it.

If it belongs to you and you want to crack it open - then go ahead. Do not feel guilty!

Then relax and savour the moment. 👍🏻

To use it is to enjoy it, not to waste it.
I made bath bombs and magnesium sulfate soaks as well as complexion soaps for everyone in the family last year and they all loved them. Kids love them too, just make sure you read the ingredients.
My eldest son was the biggest fan of the foaming bath bombs.

'Someone proper'?! YABsoU, use the nice things, you are someone proper.

I’m a bit tight so getting posh stuff was always better regifted than used ( better gift fir someone else than I would buy).

I am older now, I use all the nice stuff myself..

Oh gosh. That is exactly like me! But not just with toiletries. With everything. I’m not worth it. I should give it away so that someone else can enjoy it. Toiletries, stationery, jewellery, special drinks, hot chocolate - everything I would love really. I’ve never seen it put into words like this OP. it’s not that I don’t love the fancy toiletries, I absolutely do. I’m just not as worth it as others.

I would donate them.

But to the local food bank.

Some mother somewhere will get a nice treat in her parcel that will hopefully make a really tough time a little nicer. Maybe not bath bombs as water and heat cost, but the body lotions, moisturisers etc would be a lovely treat and would mean a lot.

She's worth it.

I’m not into the posh expensive toiletries either, I’m happy with the cheaper brands from the supermarket and never bother with bath bombs/salts etc. I feel awkward when people buy me designer ones or just over priced bits for Christmas as to me they’re a waste whether myself or anyone uses them. I tend to still use them out of politeness but some I’ll save to regift if they were very expensive.

Posh stuff all the way for me. Currently have Molton Brown and Jo Malone on the go. I get Molton Brown bought for me by a couple of friends but Jo Malone I have to fund myself.

My first YABU - they were a gift to you so it would be rude not to crack open at least one gift set and settle down for a long soak to see whether you enjoy it. By all means if you don't enjoy it re-gift or donate, but you only live once!

Use the nice stuff!

Why would you think you weren’t worth it?

I use expensive shower gel every day, because I love the smell and it gives me a little lift.

Why would anyone else be more deserving than you?

Hadtoask
of course you are worth it.

It's one thing not to buy "posh" things you really can't afford, but another entirely to use gifts.

If you are desperately short of cash and want to regift, why not, If you are not, you do deserve them just as the next person. life is short, enjoy it!

If you love them then you are worth it and you should enjoy them.

But I agree with other posters that 'posh' doesn't necessarily correlate with 'expensive'. I really love a certain £2 bubble bath, and it's always a bit spoiling; my mum knows I love Neil's Yard too and bought me some of theirs. And my SIL, god bless her, once bought me some unspeakably fancy designer bollocks, which sadly I had to fess up to hating and give back to her.

The bottom line is that, while we can all get into the MN-style competitive-snobbery about which is the fanciest of the fanciest brands, you are breaking the rules by saying you are not worthy of a luxurious bath. You absolutely are. If you feel too decadent, just pop back here and read the most snooty replies that tell you if it wasn't excreted from the glands of Madame Chanel herself, it's worth nothing - then you'll feel able to justify whatever you used.

My daughter in law works in a department store and gets all of the high end luxury goods cut price and gives them to me for birthday and christmas.
I love it, I go to work in the NHS smelling of chanel and wearing touche eclat foundation.
Because I'm fabulous

Do I dare eat the peach? Eh? I don't know what that means Newyearsresolution2020!

It's a poem - daring to eat a peach is a metaphor for living life to the full.