To move house because of cheeky fucker neighbours?

[bluetongue]

I’ve been in my current house about six years. One next door neighbour has always been an issue. It’s been so bad I’ve had to have counselling about in the past (I have chronic depression already.)

I thought they’d left me alone and the problems were in the past. It seems not. A few days ago they decided to start up again. They are the kind of people that can’t be argued with and think they’re better than everyone else because they have money. I’m exhausted. I’ve tried fighting them in the past but I think I’m done. My mental health has taken a battering and I’ve had to have two sick days this week.

Life is too short for this isn’t it? I’m pretty sure this is it and I’m going to sell.

To be honest I can’t really afford the work that needs doing on this house anyway and was already considering selling.

What is the problem with them?

" A few days ago they decided to start up again"

In what way? What did they do?

I think you'll have to cite an example please @bluetongue to get any decent responses on here.

I don’t really want to go into specifics 7seas but suffice to say she is gaslighting me and has threatened legal action. I showed the letter to a lawyer friend who laughed at it as their requests were ridiculous but that doesn’t change the fact that living here is making me sick.

I’m currently reading the puddle drama thread. At least I’m not alone

It’s really hard to comment or advise or help without knowing what’s been going on but fully understand you may not feel comfortable posting specifics.

It’s not unreasonable at all to move due to unhappiness with current home - for whatever reason, neighbours included. If you own and they have threatened legal action this is very likely to be something you will need to disclose on property questionnaire at preliminary stage of process after you’ve accepted an offer.

Support - difficult neighbours are a nightmare and if you can you should move. Life is too short not to.

Agree life is too short. Now the exciting bit, finding a new home.

YANBU to move because of your neighbour and the effect it's having on your mental/physical health.

I do believe you need to disclose your neighbourly disputes when it comes selling the house.

You would not be unreasonable to stay and stand your ground, but you are also not unreasonable to decide it's better for you to move. Lots of people with bad neighbours find it a truly awful experience and there is nothing at all foolish or unreasonable about moving on if that is more appealing to you.

Assuming that their behaviour is unusually terrible, I would say YANBU.

Just consider the possibility that your new neighbours could be even worse. Without knowing what your current neighbours have done it is hard to gauge how likely that is. If you're satisfied that they are on the more extreme end of bad neighbours then I would just move.

I’ve tried standing my ground before and it was successful for a while but I now realise they are never going to give up.

Luckily I have a reasonable amount of equity in my house as I put down a nearly 20% deposit.

I’ve already started ringing estate agents and feel better for taking some action.

I would move. Take control of your situation. Good luck

Move.
Definitely.

Do it before it turns into a proper 'dispute' and you have to declare it when you sell.
Your MH is precious.

I'd do it too. Anything that affects your mh and can be changed for the better - do it!

This would be a no brainier for me. You are hot happy there and haven’t been happy there for years. Move it’ll make such a difference to your life.
I stuck out 10 years with an awful neighbour, I hadn’t realised what a shadow it had cast over my life until I moved a year ago.

Thanks for the votes everyone.

I’m so lucky I have equity and can do this.

I’ll be seeing a counsellor through my work employee assistance program next week and it will be good to have another opinion.

My mum wanted me to see my GP, bless her, but I’m already on anti-depressants so I’m not sure what more they can do. Neighbour has no idea about my mental health issues (but are always complaining how upset they are about everything.) I wouldn’t want to give them the satisfaction

i do believe you need to disclose your neighbourly disputes when it comes selling the house
Only legal ones, you don’t have to declare if they’re just moany arseholes.

My neighbour actually phoned the estate agent when I was selling to complain about me. The EA told her to do one and I told her if she did it again I would live there forever and never do another thing she demanded of me for the rest of my life. Awful woman.

Are they moaning your home isn't up to standard. If so they need to MTOB.
I'd sell for peace too if I hadn't the mental strength to deal with them.

Good luck with the move. The sooner you do the better by the sound of it.
Just hope the next neighbours are a lot better

Sell. I have just sold my house after years of my horrible noisy neighbour. I have given up my dream home in an amazing location but nothing is lore important than mental health.

I am counting the days till we move out

You can’t just sell, especially if they are that bad they are creating legal issues for you.

Any neighbour disputes have to be specified before you sell, you can be fined for not being transparent about this I believe.

Move. I've been through this too, I didn't realise how much the stress was affecting me until I moved. Very happy now with my lovely quiet kind neighbours. Sorry you are going through this.

Any neighbour disputes have to be specified before you sell
Only legal disputes, not annoying nosey neighbours. No one would ever sell if that was the case.

Agree with jelly beans. You have to declare disputes. We only had 1 letter from the council about anti social behaviour in the area, no specifics and were careful what we did and put in writing. In the end we kept quiet, included that one letter in the sellers pack along with every certificate to do with windows, when we had fires swept and installed, electrical safety statements etc so the pack we sent was very detailed. Covered ourselves legally. It was over 10 years ago that we sold that house but I still think of it.

Can your mental health withstand the stress of moving
perhaps you could see your GP since your DM, who knows you and your situation, makes this suggestion

One of the reasons we moved was because of our next door neighbours. I have zero regrets and would say if you can, do it.