To move house because of cheeky fucker neighbours?

[bluetongue]

I’ve been in my current house about six years. One next door neighbour has always been an issue. It’s been so bad I’ve had to have counselling about in the past (I have chronic depression already.)

I thought they’d left me alone and the problems were in the past. It seems not. A few days ago they decided to start up again. They are the kind of people that can’t be argued with and think they’re better than everyone else because they have money. I’m exhausted. I’ve tried fighting them in the past but I think I’m done. My mental health has taken a battering and I’ve had to have two sick days this week.

Life is too short for this isn’t it? I’m pretty sure this is it and I’m going to sell.

To be honest I can’t really afford the work that needs doing on this house anyway and was already considering selling.

You can’t reason with nutters.
Nutters being unreasonable people.

Good luck op! I moved 4 years ago partly because of stress with my neighbour. I can’t tell you how much better I feel now I don’t have to deal with them. I used to feel ill approaching the house as I came down the street. It really affected my ability to relax and enjoy my home! Definitely move!!!

Firstly YABVVU to title a post on MN with the words cheeky fucker neighbours and yet make no mention of what the cheeky fuckery entails.

However, YANBU to move house. Get away from your arsehole/awful/abusive/nasty or whatever neighbours.

@bluetongue ah great, fingers crossed for you!

Oh Instagrump I so wish I could post the details. The audacity of these people is truly breathtaking. Sadly, it would also be pretty outing so I can’t.

Just as an update. I’ve decided to sell.

I’ve been googling my neighbour’s behaviour and it’s an absolutely classic case of narcissistic personality disorder. I never understood before how they could spout such blatant lies and gaslight me the way they do. I truly feel sorry for anyone in a relationship or marriage with such a person. It’s absolutely toxic and you end up questioning your own sanity.

I was so upset last night. Could not stop crying. I ended up calling a counselling help line which was really helpful. The counsellor I spoke to said anyone would be upset about being forced to sell their house and going through a grieving process was natural. She also pointed out the power imbalance in the relationship. Neighbour has bullied me because I’m a woman that lives by herself, has much less money than her and is a generally nice person that avoids conflict.

Anyway I feel much better today. Still angry that I have to sell my house when it was just starting to come together but also aware that it isn’t the end of the world and I’ll get through this.

I’m glad you’re feeling much better. I think sometimes having a plan of action (even if the plan isn’t something we would have chosen given the choice) gives you something to work towards and let’s you know the end of the shit stuff is in sight.

Hopefully you’ll find somewhere even better than where you are now :D

Try not to see this as a negative OP. Sell and be happy. Get a smaller and cosier home where you are away from dickheads like these.

My home is small and cosy

I do however want a bigger back garden for my dog so I will look for that

In hindsight ‘cheeky fucker neighbours’ was selling them way short. Now I know more about narcissistic abuse I realise that now I’m in her sights she will never give in to me. She will happily lie and destroy my life just so she can play the victim and never be wrong. I’ve never come across someone like this before. She is a ‘normal’ person on the outside but the real her has no empathy. There is no fighting with someone like that.

Good luck OP

Hope you find something you love

I probably was being too kind by calling my neighbours cheeky fuckers. They are more like emotionally abusive neighbours that have sent me a letter with a thinly veiled threat to try and get me to pay for a problem with their house. I feel sick about it all. I’ve done everything by the book but they just are just arrogant and entitled and think that they can get their own way by threatening me

I’m sure I’ve been targeted because I’m a nice person but I refuse to be a doormat.

All I can do is try and hold them off and keep them quiet until I can sell and move. They outwardly look like a perfectly nice, middle class family so at least I’m not trying to sell with chavs next door.

The only consolation is that my area is zoned to allow dense development. With any luck my house will be bulldozed and some monstrous flats put up