If you were going out, would you tell your partner an exact time you were coming home?

[GirlOnIt]

Sorry long title, couldn't think how to word it.
But if you were going out somewhere, would you generally tell your partner/spouse exactly what time you'd be back, a more general "I'll be a few hours" or nothing at all?

We have young children and I'm pressuring that changes things slightly, also if other plans/commitments would require an exact time I get that's different. But in general on a day to day, going to the shops or a few drinks, what would you do?

Nope!
Except if it's related to picking kids up from nursery if one of us is running late.

Yes I’d most likely say ‘I’ll be back around 7pm’ or whatever and if I was going to be hugely late back I’d let him know. It’s common courtesy imo.

I think it is courteous to let someone know how long you'll be out for so they can plan their day/night accordingly. If you're expecting someone home at 7pm, you might wait for them to return before cooking/eating and would be unlikely to make other plans yourself for the night. If you know they won't be home until 11pm, you might have a friend over for a film/takeaway or something.

If you give an estimate time, hoe much difference would you think to notify your partner? Half a hour? A hour? Or longer?

@GirlOnIt guessing he didn't come home at closing time then?

I guess it just depends what time you realise.

Depending what I'm doing I'd try and let DP know earlier rather than later, but just depends when I actually notice the time.

I’d usually say which train I intended to get back if working away but text if I wasn’t on that one for some reason.
I’d usually ring my husband on the way back from a meal out/cinema etc.
We tend to speak frequently and plan our diaries so we know what each other is doing but most social events we’re together anyway.

@GiveHerHellFromUs, he was home at 9:30. I didn't post about him, it was to do with me telling him.

I normally stay at a hotel and come back the next day about lunchtime. Don't go out often though - once every 1-2 months. Came directly home from Xmas do this year but did not know when would be home but had told dh that would be having a lie in etc. I am out in anothet City next week so staying in a hotel - lie in, dirty breakfast and home about lunchtime to relax on sofa 👍😊

If it’s not about your h and you don’t care why are you asking. ?

It was about me @AnnDaloozier.

Blimey no way do Nutella my DH when I’ll be back not vice versa! We both let each other know if we have something else planned so I know I need to be back for a reason, but we are adults. If I’m going out with a friend I’ll be gone most of the day. If he’s playing golf the same. The minute you start giving exact times it starts to go wrong. If only do that as a curfew for the kids.

If you’re posting about yourself, on reflection what do you think is ok and is this inline with what your dh thinks or do you get a hard time when you go out?

If I gave an estimate I'd call if I was more than about 15 mins later. Unless I was taking over childcare in which case I'd call after just a couple of minutes.

If I'm out for drinks, no. But I don't do that often and when I do it's always roughly the same time. Shopping again no but I'm often in contact (do you want this to eat, shall I grab this for so and so's birthday/Christmas present). When I'm at the gym I usually give a rough time and call on way home ( because the walk is boring). If I'm out all day at meetings I will keep in contact when I can to arrange who's doing school runs and dinner.

Nope never give a time.

If I go out on a evening, he’s home with the kids so I say see you later and I come back when I’m ready.

If I go on a night out with the girls then I can be back anytime from 1am-5am. Never give a time.

My husband can be as late as he wants however I do like to know what sort of time latest he will be home so I don't hear him come in and wake up in a panic which I do. Want to be home at 4am OK no problem but just let me know.

I'd give a rough time, if I was going out with friends or meeting work colleagues work, as in 'I'll be home about 8ish' if it was any later than say 8.30 I'd ring. If I was popping to the supermarket for milk, then no I wouldn't