If you were going out, would you tell your partner an exact time you were coming home?

[GirlOnIt]

Sorry long title, couldn't think how to word it.
But if you were going out somewhere, would you generally tell your partner/spouse exactly what time you'd be back, a more general "I'll be a few hours" or nothing at all?

We have young children and I'm pressuring that changes things slightly, also if other plans/commitments would require an exact time I get that's different. But in general on a day to day, going to the shops or a few drinks, what would you do?

I never give a time but I do text when I'm leaving or on the train.

Yeah we both say roughy when we’ll be home, and text if we’re going to be later. Thought that would be normal in most couples. Saves worrying unnecessarily.

I estimate vaguely. I wouldn't expect anything else from DP either nor would I be annoyed if he was longer than he guesstimated.

I'd give a rough ballpark figure. Generally though my ex could rely on me to be around the time I said I would. If I was going to be later, I'd let him know, or if I was going to be super late or out longer than expected I'd tell him not to wait up. Same user to apply for him but he'd often got incommunicado and roll in at all times

It depends. If I'm going shopping or visiting I'd give a rough idea, but I'll text if I'm going to be a lot longer than expected.

If I'm going on a night out I wouldn't say as who knows? I could be back at 12, I could be back at 3. I'd text when I was getting ready to come home.

Pre children I always gave a rough indication so he knew whether to have dinner without me or whatever, but if I was back significantly earlier or later it didn't matter at all. Now we have children I do tend to try and give a more accurate time, and keep him updated. I don't know why really as he is absolutely fine if I'm back later as long as he knows I'm alright (if I said at 3pm I was on the way back and was still not home with no communication by 3am he might worry!), I am the same with him.

I always say 'I'll be back by x time' and give myself some leeway, eg if I expect to be home by 10 I'd say 'I'll be back by 10.30'.

If I'm going to be so much as one minute late I phone. I'm an absolute stickler for punctuality and it drives me round the twist if people are late so I don't do to others what I hate being done to me.

(yes, I really am that obsessive about it)

All depends on where I'm going, what time of the day, whether I go usually or it's a one off, whether or not I have to be back in time for something else etc. Usually it revolves around whether I want tea cooked for me or not.

I'm guessing one of you went to the pub and the other didn't like the time they swanned in at?

Depends where I was going.
If out in the evening with friends I might say "I'll get the last train home" or "I expect I'll be back about 11" or whatever. And if it got to that time and my plans had changed i would text or call to update.

If I was taking the DC out for the day, I wouldn't give a time, but might text "just setting off home now" or something when we were on our way back, if I thought he would be home before us.

But in general on a day to day, going to the shops or a few drinks, what would you do?
I'm going out shopping for the day. See you later.

I'm just popping to the shops. Be back soon If you think of anything you want from them, text me.

I'm going out to X (pub/restaurant/cinema) with the girls. Probably be back around X O'clock. Will ring if anything changes. See you later.

Depends where I'm going but usually I'll hi I've an estimate and update if it's going to be much later than that

If I'm popping to the shops I'll say I wont be long. If I'm out for drinks I dont know myself when I'll be home so no I wont give a time. The Crux is I wouldn't expect DH to ask and I wouldn't ask him either. Each of us are capable of looking after our small children alone for a few hours especially after bedtime

I'd give a some idea, just as he (and DC) would also do, as basic courtesy of knowing roughly when someone would be back - and when to start worrying if they're not. Also whether to cook for them.

If plans changed when I was out, I would text with updates. Just as o wouid expect them to do.

I don't tell him what time I'll be back usually

I give an estimate e.g. I’ll probably be back by 9pm, but will text if I’ll be any later. DP would do the same. Wouldn’t bother either of us if we were out later. Neither of us drink alcohol so no concerns about coming back causing drunken noise if we were out in a bar.

Sorry missed your day to day, pop to the shop line. Unless we're going somewhere, I'll be home when I'm done. We are in contact via messages throughout the day, mainly relating to ds.

I don't give a time. I text when on my way home.

If you have a DP who is insisting on being given an exact time for your return I'd guess you might have a bit of a problem.

A rough idea (which tends to involve meals) - ie going out shopping, I'll be home for tea or I won't be home for tea

If I'm going out in the evening then it tends to be I'll be on the last train (ie going out drinking) or I'm going to X's house (driving but will probably be late as we carry on talking till stupid oclock

If it's a food shop then it would just be a 'I'm going to ...'

The only time either of us gives a definate time they'd be back is to do with the kids - ie I'll be back in time for the school run or I'll be back in time for you to leave for work at X'

Not exact, but a rough time - I'll be home around xxx or I should be home before xxx.

If it was going to change by more than half an hour or so later, especially if late, I'd send a message and/or a text when leaving. To me thats just common courtesy though.

Just going to the shops - not really, maybe a very rough idea of how long I might be if I knew they'd be waiting for me for food, etc.

I'd usually give an estimate if going out in the day ie before lunch, school run, dinner etc.

For an evening out I'd say if it was dinner, dinner and drinks or late night out. However my husband dosnt need me constantly updating, I come home when I'm ready.

Same for him too....

Not sure having young children has a huge bearing unless you're going out often, parents need time to themselves.

I give an estimate but he knows it won't be exactly that time on the dot. I give an estimate purely for reasons of safety.

If I’m out for the night then no, of course not.
If I’m out for the afternoon and I’ve left DH with our young kids, I’ll give a rough estimate

I wouldn't for a night out as it depends how it goes. I would during the day if I left them with the kids

Depends where I’m going eg the gym, I give a rough estimate. For a night out - no, neither of us do. In the day - before or after lunch/dinner