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Car parking with diagram

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 15:02

I'm parked up in this space in diagram 1, excuse the back of envelope job.

When I arrived there was a car and van already here, I parked next two the car so the van had ample space to get out. I didn't park next to the van because I knew the car park would fill up and I'd get blocked in. There are no marked spaces. If I'd parked next to the van I'd have blocked him in.

Then, diagram 2, another car arrives (Ca) and parks, closely followed b6 another car (Cb), the van is now blocked in. At this point the van driver gets out, stands next to my window and shouts that I have blocked him and should go and park somewhere else.

I could of parked where Cb is now parked but didn't as it's poor visibility when pulling out because the wall is six foot and you can't easily see what is coming from that direction and it's a busy road. Car Cb will be going soon as they (and I) park here daily and they pick up somebody at this time and then go (they have gone as I am typing this), the van is no longer blocked in and they are still sitting parked up in their van.

I have locked my door and am ignoring him. He intermittently beeps his horn and shouts for me to move my fucking car.

Who is being unreasonable? I could move my car now and block in car Ca but after the van drivers behaviour I'm not moving anywhere.

Car parking with diagram
OP posts:
mummmy2017 · 09/01/2020 20:44

I'm willing to bet £10 to charity if 5 cars were parked there the van would have blocked everyone in and taken the sixth spot.
Come on folks this is people parking for 20 mins max to get people/ children from school.

StoneofDestiny · 09/01/2020 20:48

Time for a grown-up conversation "Hi, sorry about this, but you weren't blocked in when I arrived. Tell you what, if you let me know when you want to leave I'll pull out then. Is that OK with you?"

But I'd add
"But if you swear at me like that again I'll make sure I've suddenly lost my car keys".

YeOldeTrout · 09/01/2020 20:56

Maybe just walk next time? Can't help but suspect there was somewhere free to park within 10 minutes walk that would have avoided drama aggression of the "Move your arse even though I don't need to move my vehicle at all, yet" van man.

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 21:52

The other places were the always full secondary school car park which i don't have a permit for, a workplace car park, a permit only residential road, the cross hatched area outside the school or double yellows either side of that or a dual track road.

Which would you choose ?

OP posts:
GiveHerHellFromUs · 09/01/2020 23:59

Any of the above that don't involve blocking someone in would work

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schoolcats · 10/01/2020 00:17

Any of the above that don't involve blocking someone in would work

So parking illegally or without permission is more acceptable than parking in a car park?

What a fucking stupid thing to say.

And I didn't block anybody in.

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maddening · 10/01/2020 00:29

You should have all parked like in my sketch, then no one gets blocked in and you all exit from centre so no one has to exit with awkward sight of oncoming traffic

Car parking with diagram
BoomBoomsCousin · 10/01/2020 00:32

What do you mean by " dual track road"?

zoobincan · 10/01/2020 06:41

And I didn't block anybody in.

You did. You really did. Why are you having so much difficulty understanding, despite many many posters explaining AND drawing yourself a diagram?

adaline · 10/01/2020 07:01

And I didn't block anybody in.

Oh dear OP.

Yes, you did. You didn't leave enough space for him to manoeuvre his van out of the car park.

Sirzy · 10/01/2020 07:22

As you where picking up an adult surely “wait in work for 10 minutes and then I will pick you up when the traffic has eased” would be the easiest option by far?

Purplelion · 10/01/2020 07:47

If they are the only spaces acceptable to park in where do all the other parents park?

And yes, YABVU

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schoolcats · 10/01/2020 08:04

Yes, you did. You didn't leave enough space for him to manoeuvre his van out of the car park.

Oh FFS are you all being deliberately obtuse or what? I didn't fucking block him in - the two cars who arrived after me blocked him in.

Nice to see that you all (mostly) think it's OK for a man to intimidate a woman by standing next to her car and screaming at her. Now you all fuck off to the far side of fuck and keep going.

Don't waste your time replying, I've got better things to do than listen to a bunch of male apologists.

OP posts:
BunnytheBlueWhale · 10/01/2020 08:14

Oh gosh OP

I suggest you don’t post in AIBU again if you are not prepared to be told that you are!?! Confused

KnifeAngel · 10/01/2020 08:19

@schoolcats do you behave like such a Muppet in real life too?

FrancisCrawford · 10/01/2020 08:20

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 10/01/2020 08:21

@schoolcats maybe next time you should park over on the far side of fuck and it'd avoid you blocking people in.

No one has said his behaviour is ok. We're just saying yours isn't either.

You're being a bit nasty and aggressive too so I can only imagine you gave as good as you got.

adaline · 10/01/2020 08:21

Oh FFS are you all being deliberately obtuse or what? I didn't fucking block him in - the two cars who arrived after me blocked him in.

Yes, you did.

If you hadn't parked where you did and had left him enough space, he could have easily driven out.

You just don't like to be told you're wrong Grin

sliceofbeautypie · 10/01/2020 08:35

I haven't seen such a good flounce in ages! Grin

For what it's worth, if the roles were reversed, I'd still think you were both prats.

ineedaholidaynow · 10/01/2020 08:36

I’m not the best parker but I can’t see how a van could have been able to get the right angle to get past you and get out of the car park before the 2 other cars arrived, unless the car park is much deeper than shown in your diagram. If it is much deeper than surely you should park as shown in maddening diagram.

No his behaviour at shouting at you isn’t acceptable but I do think he is right that you have blocked him in.

Where do other parents park?

Sirzy · 10/01/2020 08:39

If nothing else you parking there means only 3 people can use the space, if you had parked further over 4 could have without anyone being blocked in.

Bipbipbipbip · 10/01/2020 08:42

You blocked him in when you parked. It's clearly meant for parking down each side with access through the middle. You parked in the middle and blocked the access.

I've only ever seen two rows of cars with no access at workplaces when generally you're all coming in and going at the same time and Steve doesn't mind moving his Fiat 500 at lunch when you want to go to Sainsbury's.

zoobincan · 10/01/2020 08:52

Oh FFS are you all being deliberately obtuse or what?

Are you talking to yourself OP?

SoupDragon · 10/01/2020 09:08

Nice to see that you all (mostly) think it's OK for a man to intimidate a woman by standing next to her car and screaming at her.

No one thinks that.

It's just that no one thinks you should have blocked him in, everyone thinks you did block him in and no one agrees with you.

HTH.

OldEvilOwl · 10/01/2020 09:12

Why is everyone missing the point that he didn't even want to leave the car park anyway?

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