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Car parking with diagram

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 15:02

I'm parked up in this space in diagram 1, excuse the back of envelope job.

When I arrived there was a car and van already here, I parked next two the car so the van had ample space to get out. I didn't park next to the van because I knew the car park would fill up and I'd get blocked in. There are no marked spaces. If I'd parked next to the van I'd have blocked him in.

Then, diagram 2, another car arrives (Ca) and parks, closely followed b6 another car (Cb), the van is now blocked in. At this point the van driver gets out, stands next to my window and shouts that I have blocked him and should go and park somewhere else.

I could of parked where Cb is now parked but didn't as it's poor visibility when pulling out because the wall is six foot and you can't easily see what is coming from that direction and it's a busy road. Car Cb will be going soon as they (and I) park here daily and they pick up somebody at this time and then go (they have gone as I am typing this), the van is no longer blocked in and they are still sitting parked up in their van.

I have locked my door and am ignoring him. He intermittently beeps his horn and shouts for me to move my fucking car.

Who is being unreasonable? I could move my car now and block in car Ca but after the van drivers behaviour I'm not moving anywhere.

Car parking with diagram
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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 16:18

So why can't he move then? I'm looking st it and it seems he has space?

Yes, he had space to move if he had wanted to. I've seen vans pull out easily from behind other cars before now.

The whole point of my OP is that *he did not want to move his van, he objected to me parking there AFTER cars A and B arrived but he didn't go and shout abuse at them, maybe because they were both men ?

When I left the car park Cars A and B had both left, the car parked directly in front of the van and the van were both still there. At no point did he talk to the driver of the car in front of him who was the original person to park in front of him.

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 16:19

No need for this big drama.

When a man is standing by my car window screaming obscenities at me then they are the one causing the drama.

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Drum2018 · 09/01/2020 16:24

You didn't block him in at all. He could have got out to your right when you originally parked. He was blocked in when car C parked to your right. At that point all 3 cars in front were blocking him. And as he didn't actually need to leave the car park then, he was an ignorant prick to you.

FAQs · 09/01/2020 16:25

From your diagram you’re blocking him in, and locking yourself in and ignoring him when you could move is dickish behaviour, stop being a twat.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 09/01/2020 16:25

@schoolcats are you sure he didn't have a go at you because 2 vehicles either side makes sense as they can all use the middle of the car park to drive out, whereas you parking right in the middle means nobody can exit or enter?

Bit weird that it's almost a universal YABU, plus a RL stranger telling you YABU, and you're still insisting YANBU.

Dontdisturbmenow · 09/01/2020 16:38

You are being so unreasonable yet can't see it.

Where you parked means that only three cars can park as otherwise the can driver can't get out. If you'd park on the right hand side up and then someone in front, 4 cars could park without being blocked. So what visibility isn't great, it's good enough for the others.

There's always a parent like you or couldn't care less about others as long as they get the best parking spot. The worse is when such parent take their car from home back to home, when it's walking distance.

Dontdisturbmenow · 09/01/2020 16:41

At no point did he talk to the driver of the car in front of him who was the original person to park in front of him
Because he did nothing wrong since he could have moved out if you hadn't come and parked there.

I bet it wasn't even as easy for him to get around you as you've shown on the drawing which is why he had a go at you rather than them.

cabbageking · 09/01/2020 16:44

You blocked him in and were inconsiderate.

tillytrotter1 · 09/01/2020 16:47

People can be so petty! The other week I had to go through a narrow tunnel under a railway line, the marking is that traffic coming the other way has priority. When I was almost through, no traffic coming the other way initially, a car turned to come through and clearly intended me to reverse back through the tunnel for his right of way! You have no idea how slowly I can reverse when necessary, I had to keep straightening up and so on, I also stopped part way through the reversing to take the moron's photo. I'm pleased to say he was apoplectic once he finally got through, especially as I blew him a big kiss.

CarolinaPink · 09/01/2020 16:56

Seems I'm out of step with majority view but I agree with you, OP. YANBU. If he'd spoken to you politely it would have been different, IMO.

zoobincan · 09/01/2020 17:03

So about the car park, is it council or private? I'm so interested in the car park that makes you 'double park' so you are blocking people in Confused

adaline · 09/01/2020 17:17

At no point did he talk to the driver of the car in front of him who was the original person to park in front of him.

Why would he? Car A didn't block him in. You did.

Purpleartichoke · 09/01/2020 17:25

You blocked in the van. How on earth was the van supposed to get out with a car behind and another car in the adjacent ‘lane’?

Purpleartichoke · 09/01/2020 17:27

And that area only has space for 3 cars. No one should be parking behind another person like that.

easyandy101 · 09/01/2020 18:44

If you're all sat in your cars and able to pull out then no one is blocked in

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 19:24

You blocked in the van. How on earth was the van supposed to get out with a car behind and another car in the adjacent ‘lane’?

When I parked there were no cars in the adjacent lane, look at diagram 1. Car a and car b parked after me.

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 19:43

And that area only has space for 3 cars. No one should be parking behind another person like that.

Which is why I don't. The van driver was parked behind another car but i don't know if he reverse parked behind the car to my left or just parked at the back and the car to my left parked in front of him.

Car A - the one diagonally to my right - was the one who stopped the van from being able to leave if the driver had wanted to, which he didn't. car B then blocked in car A.

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BunnytheBlueWhale · 09/01/2020 19:53

You should have parked on the other side

They may have got there after you but you are the one blocking him

You know for next time!

Sirzy · 09/01/2020 19:54

None of your justifications make me change my view. You knew parking there would block them in. You should have parked at the otherside

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schoolcats · 09/01/2020 20:00

You knew parking there would block them in. You should have parked at the otherside

So I am supposed to have a crystal ball and know that two more cars would turn up and block him in then?

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Sirzy · 09/01/2020 20:01

No you should have parked sensibly and realised that leaving the gap in the middle would allow 4 cars to park and all to have access. Parking where you did meant nobody else could park without blocking at least one vehicle in.

drinkygin · 09/01/2020 20:01

Why is everyone ignoring the fact that he didn’t even want to leave the fucking car park
Would totally agree if he was trying to get out but he was still there when most of the other cars had left!!
Op he was a twat and you’re way less petty than me because I’d turn my engine off and sit there until it went dark if he spoke to me like that Grin

Roundtoedshoes · 09/01/2020 20:08

It’s a stupid set up. I think it really is for 3 vehicles, but if everyone cooperates, you can fit in 6 (as long as you are willing to move when the back 3 want to exit, or the back 3 except they may have to wait - sounds like it’s just used for short term pick ups).

You should have just parked where CB did in the first place (as he could of). However, I do feel for you, he shouldn’t have had a go at you as he saw all the comings and goings and didn’t even want to leave at that point. Love the women’s solidarity on MN!

mummmy2017 · 09/01/2020 20:09

Not being funny but Car C has blocked him in, before anyone else did.
Not your fault.
If you can only fit 3 cars side by side getting out with a car behind the van would be very hard, due to the walls.
You parked so you wouldn't get blocked in.
Car ca parked and let Car cb park behind.
If your all on the school run, the you wait.

73Sunglasslover · 09/01/2020 20:35

I don't know if the pictures are to scale but it looks like you made the whole space only possible for 3 cars to park in whereas if you had parking on the right hand side 4 cars would have been able to park there. I think you were in the wrong here and poor visibility it not enough of a reason to cause this problem. Had no-one parked in the middle you could have pulled out from there anyway.

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