Holiday Kids Club

[cjt110]

We are off on holiday in August and the place we have chosen has a fantastic kids club. We've only done 1 kids club before and it was quite poor - very unorganised, someone who spoke little English and didn't really have a schedule set for the children.

This place looks brilliant and boasts qualified staff, endless activities etc.

I was telling my Mum about it and she said "well, as long as he spends some time with you"

I was a little put out by that comment. Afterall, we will be holidaying as a family. If he chooses to go to the kids club daily and is happy then that's fine by us. Rather than than him wanting to go, us refusing and us all having a miserable time. The same if he didn't want to go and wanted to stay with us... we would never force him to do the opposite of what he wants.

So I suppose my question is... If DS (who will b aged 6) wants to spend his time at the kids club rather than with us, are we bad parents? We will of course be with him morning, evening and nighttime for meals if he is at the kids club.

YABU - Yes, allowing him to go to a kids club all day if he chooses is a bad thing and he should be limited with his access.

YANBU - No, let him go if he chooses to, it's fine.

At the risk of repeating myself....you do know you can do both on a holiday? It's quality not quantity.

Family time doesn't mean being together 24/7

@WendyMoiraAngelaDarling I have no objection to people using kids clubs (I really couldn't care less either way as long as they're safe) but of course lots of people are going to prioritise spending time as a family over their kids hanging out in a kids club playing on a console and hanging out with random kids they'll only know for a week. Socialising and playing on consoles is what a lot of teenagers do most of the time at home so a holiday is usually a time when everyone makes an effort to spend time together and have new experiences as a family.

I would have loved to have had the experience of a kids' club rather than being dragged around cities looking at cathedrals and bloody art galleries. Then being shouted at when I got bored. Family time can be shit.

@MiniEggAddiction aren’t the ‘random kids they’ll only know for a week’ part of the fun of holidays ? Making a new ‘best friend’ every holiday that you promise you will keep in touch with ?! I certainly loved doing that as did a lot of my friends. We used to love coming back to school and sharing stories of our holiday pals.

Are your kids only allowed to mix with kids they will continue socializing with for 6 months or more ?! Mad!!

I was at Skills camps for a competitive hobby throughout my childhood and they’d be a week or two long, we’d make ‘best friends’ at those as well.

If a parent told the coach their child wasn’t attending camp due to ‘random kid’s music they’d be laughed out the place !

Haha, ‘music’ added itself randomly there!

but of course lots of people are going to prioritise spending time as a family over their kids hanging out in a kids club playing on a console and hanging out with random kids they'll only know for a week

And I never said they shouldn't

All my responses have been to a poster berating others for using "low quality" childcare when they put their children in kids clubs.

Do what you want.