I'm going to come in a teeny bit on his side - hear me out...
my mother was a control freak. I used to wash up alternate evenings (my brother was the other evening) and my mother would often storm into the kitchen, pick up the plates I had (so I thought) perfectly adequately cleaned, scream at me 'look at the state of that! LOOK AT IT!' sling the plate back into the sink, scoff at the rest of the washing up and storm out.
I'd be terrified. I'd wash and wash and rewash the plates and she would still often find a grease mark or egg stain (that I often couldn't see).
When your DH washes up, have you tried just sitting beside him (Peeling sprouts or some other domestic job) and when there's something like a streaky plate or glasses the wrong way up, saying gently 'that looks like it could do with another rinse - look' and pointing out the mark? It may be that he genuinely (like me, as a child) thinks he's doing a bang up job and either your standards are higher or he just hasn't noticed. Ditto with the glasses, a 'they won't dry if they're that way up, will they?' to make him engage his brain.
If he keeps doing it, then he's being strategically incompetent. And yes, you shouldn't have to 'guide' him through such a simple job. But I know my mother's standards were so much higher than mine that I could never see what she was making a fuss about.
Incidentally, she did exactly the same to my brother.