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Original poster

To offer my sincere and heartfelt apologies..

155 replies

NoCountry · 07/01/2020 20:31

To the woman who, as I crossed the road in the rain in front of her car at a junction, took the time to shout out of her window 'This isn't a crossing you know!'

I just feel awful about the 1.5 seconds I delayed her massively massively important journey

Anyone else like to get a sincere apology off their chest?

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Bl3ss3dm0m · 08/01/2020 07:09

I would also like to apologise, unreservedly, to the people who try to walk passed me quickly (whilst I am going along at an average walking pace, in my powered wheelchair, because they assume I am going to hold them up), for me speeding up so that they can't get passed me - I can go along at up to 8 miles an hour (but never do) - but I never do this to the old, young, or visibly disabled (but then the first and the latter never do this anyway). Also, I only do it when there is a large enough space to do so safely. I usually stick to about 3mph, so that I have time to react when there are children etc about, who one may expect to behave irrationally. I suppose I do it just to be a CF, and because it makes me chuckle 😊

blubelle7 · 08/01/2020 07:46

To the lady whose his and was speeding and took no notice of people crossing the road at the pedestrian crossing and almost ran me and my son over. I'm so sorry your husband is a negligent driver and you felt the need to open the window and hurl abuse at me for your husband's dangerous driving because I dared to shake my head. I'm so sorry

ferrier · 08/01/2020 07:49

Re. Single use plastic bags they are currently not charged by small retailers on England but this is changing -
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-46689684

ChristaMSieland · 08/01/2020 07:53

suppose I do it just to be a CF, and because it makes me chuckle

Grin
TheMemoryLingers · 08/01/2020 07:56

I assume the OP is in the UK, so there is no crime of jaywalking, therefore the driver was out of order to comment that the OP wasn't using a crossing.

Pedestrians can cross wherever they like as long as they are on a road where pedestrians are permitted; e.g. not the M1. Obviously they should cross sensibly but unless the OP stepped right in front of a speeding car, she has done nothing wrong.

tillytrotter1 · 08/01/2020 08:00

Your sense of entitlement is massive, even for MN!

Freddiefatpants · 08/01/2020 08:11

I'd like to offer my sincere apologies to everyone who tries to deliver to or visit the flat below me for not being the flat below me. I realise that it's no excuse that I have a sign on my gate that you have to come through, saying that this is the first floor flat, and you are looking for the ground floor flat. I realise that you feel the need to argue with me over my address and who I am and point out that it's the same number and road name and completely ignore that the first line of the address that tells you which flat. I realise that your inability to tell the difference between 'ground floor flat' and 'first floor flat' is entirely my fault. And you reserve the right to be a complete arse with me because you came to the wrong door.
I also apologise to my neighbours for working full time, not having wild parties or a child who terrorises the neighborhood and being a decent citizen. I realise you reserve the right to still call me a scrounger because of my single parent status because I deserve it and I should never, ever question your 'knowledge' that I'm working and claiming at the same time, and that I absolutely shouldn't have laughed at you and said "Good luck with that as I don't claim anything" when you helpfully yelled that you're going to report me to the DWP for benefit fraud because obviously you 'knowing' I'm doing it is far superior to the actual truth.
I now know why no one ever stays here more than a year
Also sorry to the same neighbour that I don't have a car therefore you can't report me over where I park it. I realise this costs you dearly, especially when the police tell you to leave me alone because you're bordering on harassment and you yourself will get into trouble.

Broken2020 · 08/01/2020 09:42

@Clevererthanyou Actually if you're a small charity shop with less than 7 employees then it's not the law to charge 5p for a carrier bag

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NoCountry · 08/01/2020 11:03

Your sense of entitlement is massive, even for MN!

My 'massive' 'sense' of 'entitlement' to cross the road? Who the hell do I think I am - the Queen or something??

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Aus84 · 08/01/2020 11:14

Yes I do, and do you know what? I've been known to slow down to let people cross the road! I know - what a idiot!

Don't do this. Cars need to stick to their rules and likewise pedestrians. This is why people get seriously injured or worse. It might be well meaning but what happens if a car slows a little to check a street sign, or look for a parking space etc and the pedestrian assumes they are allowing them to cross. It's also teaching children that a car will stop for them if they just cross when they want because they are sick of waiting.

exbrummie · 08/01/2020 11:34

I apologise to all the motorists who have to stop for maybe 30 seconds when I walk out into the road dressed in yellow with a big lollipop sign doing my job of safely getting children to school,of course you have every right to raise your eyes or shout abuse at me for this huge inconvenience.

Halloweenbabyy · 08/01/2020 11:40

Buy a waterproof coat or an umbrella for your next outing. Fucking hate people walking on roads made for cars not pedestrians. You wouldn’t be feeling so smug if you ran you over.

MeetmeinParis · 08/01/2020 11:53

I should like to apologise to the guy in the van behind me for stopping this morning to allow a large truck with its hazards on in front of me to turn into a side street and also for then not speeding straight past the driver (as he maneuvered said truck into said side street) on the opposite side of the road by a blind corner. I apologise that I did not feel like risking my and his lives just to save you 30 seconds of your very important day. I was bring a polite and considerate driver, you should try it some time?

MeetmeinParis · 08/01/2020 11:53

*being

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NoCountry · 08/01/2020 12:37

You wouldn’t be feeling so smug if you ran you over

You're right there. Whatever you're on about

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ShirleyPhallus · 08/01/2020 13:04

You wouldn’t be feeling so smug if you ran you over

How very Brian Harvey of you

Buster72 · 08/01/2020 14:03

From the highway code
.If traffic is coming, let it pass.Look all around again and listen. Do not cross until there is a safe gap in the traffic and you are certain that there is plenty of time. Remember, even if traffic is a long way off, it may be approaching very quickly.

So if you forced her to slow down, brake etc then you were in the wrong. It's just plain unsafe and foolish.
YABU.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 08/01/2020 14:08

I would like to apologise to the driver of the van which stopped in the middle of a narrow urban street during the morning rush-hour to make a delivery and blocked the whole road, for failing to reverse past fifteen parked cars and out into a major road in order to make it possible for him to go immediately on his way after holding me up for seven minutes. I am also sorry that I didn't get out and walk back explaining to each of the eight drivers waiting behind me that he was more important than any of us. How could I have been so inconsiderate of him?

(I do not however accept responsibility for the four drivers who had got into a queue behind him. That is on their heads not mine.)

MyCatScaresDogs · 08/01/2020 14:17

I would like to apologise to the white van driver (stereotype but true) who I held up yesterday by refusing to break the speed limit in a 40mph zone. I realise this meant you had to pretty much hang off my bumper because you couldn’t possibly have just kept a safe distance or overtaken. After all, I was only driving at the speed limit.

I’m also sorry I didn’t pull out quickly enough at that roundabout which meant you had to lean on your horn. It’s just that I’d prefer not to be in an accident, especially when I can see two cars coming round said roundabout towards me and not signalling, so I won’t pull out unless I’m confident the car on the roundabout isn’t actually going to drive into me.

SmileyClare · 08/01/2020 20:06

How very Brian Harvey of you Apologies Brian but that made me laugh!

My favourite post on this thread is the very indignant You're not at all sincere on the first page Grin

lljkk · 08/01/2020 20:09

To the car who beeped at me tonite:

So very sorry NOT that I paused at the pedestrian crossing to let pass the jogging gal (who was on the crossing already) & the guy with husky mostly finish crossing, before proceeding 20 feet to then wait for the jogging gal cross the side road (she got there before me too). I know I delayed you by a good 10 seconds since you didn't want to risk a head on with oncoming traffic, when I followed the highway code to let a pedestrian already crossing a side road have right of way.

You only beeped b/c I was a cyclist delaying your journey; you wouldn't have dared if I had been in a motor vehicle.

The road you were heading down only has some housing & the gastropub. Were you impatient due to being late for supper, perhaps?

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NoCountry · 09/01/2020 15:07

Cars need to stick to their rules and likewise pedestrians. This is why people get seriously injured or worse.

So this is where i'm going wrong - Mrs I. Owntheroad wasn't being an arrogant gobshite, she was just trying to help me by letting me know the rules! In future I will not slow down to let pedestrians across the road, I will just breeze straight on, pausing only to shout out my window as I pass "It's for your own good you know!"

I would also like to sincerely apologise to Meghan and Harry for snorting my tea at their statement that they will 'work to become financially independent'. I realise now that they weren't trying to be funny.

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Sunflowersok · 09/01/2020 16:19

My deepest apologies to the cyclist waiting at the side of me who was in the same lane AND turning the same direction for not realising my error when I began to move and turn right as indicated... as you cut across the front of me from the LEFT hand side. I sincerely didn’t know cyclists were supposed to be on the left hand side of the traffic if they were turning right... so I fully accept the mouthful you gave me as you dangerously cut across me not expecting me to move my car as the lights turned green to turn right. My bad. Next time I’ll hold up all the traffic whilst I wait for you to circle around the front of my car, and additionally please feel free to do a full extra circle around it for good gesture.

Aus84 · 09/01/2020 21:30

So this is where i'm going wrong - Mrs I. Owntheroad wasn't being an arrogant gobshite, she was just trying to help me by letting me know the rules! In future I will not slow down to let pedestrians across the road, I will just breeze straight on, pausing only to shout out my window as I pass "It's for your own good you know!"

No she wasn't trying to 'help'. She pointing was out what a twat you were being. Bit of a waste of time it seems as the only arrogant one in your story was you.

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NoCountry · 09/01/2020 22:20

No she wasn't trying to 'help'. She pointing was out what a twat you were being.

While being a twat herself. Something you clearly feel kinship with, and I sincerely apologise for pointing that out to you Grin

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