People who say they are fat when they're not

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Has anyone else seen this on social media - somebody takes selfie showing their body with caption such as "time to get rid of this belly" or something along the lines of.

Somebody I follow has just done this, except she's not fat at all, the very opposite. She actually had lipo and other work done to her body and everyone always comments about how amazing she looks. She's actually paid thousands of pounds to look skinny.

Why do people do this? Is it an attention thing?

are my husband...

Total attention seeking and is desperate need of compliments. Dont engage.

Very attention seeking. Don’t engage with it. Can’t stand people like this.

Fishing for compliments

I'm a size 14,5'6, and just under 12 stone. I look awful and I feel huge. In pictures I look really big because I have a naturally strong build- big shoulders, rectangular - so I really do just look like a big lump. My friend is a size 14 but she looks incredible because she's a proper hourglass. I feel really miserable about my size at the minute and I am doing something about it. Most of my friends and family are naturally slim and petite so I tend to be the fat one in any group.

MN is full of posters falling over themselves to tell us all that a size 10 isn't slim

If you are petite say 5'3" or below size 10 isn't slim. 5"8' and above then it is.

Depends - on sm I'd see it as bragging and unfollow.

In real life, I'd just take the person at their word - they aren't happy at their weight. Which is fair enough. I wouldn't take it as a comment on my weight or as fishing for compliments. I think body confidence and healthy lifestyle issues are common to almost everyone, so I'd hate to think a friend couldn't express their concerns on these topics around me just because I'm fat.

I'd reply along the lines of "yes it's tough around Christmas time/it's annoying when you don't feel comfortable with yourself isn't it/have you tried the new whatever diet has been in the news.

I unfollow and block people like that on social media, it’s bad for my wellbeing

I think actually fat people don't go round saying they're fat - what's the point? They know and the people they know, know. Saying so won't change it!

So really the only people who make a point of claiming fatness are the ones who aren't.

I have an over weight friend who regularly comments she's "fat". In my experience plenty of over weight people will say it, it's like getting in there first and being self depreciating.

I've also seen it on social media.

Oh god yes! I've got a friend who trains and has a 6 pack yet will post a picture of herself holding her top up showing her abs saying she is fat and bloated 🙄

I have an over weight friend who regularly comments she's "fat". In my experience plenty of over weight people will say it, it's like getting in there first and being self depreciating.

I am fat (seriously so). I understand the "getting in first" response in a conversation or ongoing thread, as there is no point pretending you aren't (as well as reclaiming the word instead of the awful coy ones like "larger", "full figured" etc - bleugh!)

I was thinking more as a proactive SM post - "Hey everyone I'm fat, gonna start 2020 with a bang!" type thing.

I've lost 6 stone, and still have a couple more to go, but whilst I do roll my eyes at people who do the 'so fat me' comments, I do get it.

I've maintained my weight over Christmas (exactly!), but not stayed as toned and fit as usual. I can feel it all over! Though I've not gained weight, my stomach is still bloated out a little, and I've lost the muscle definition that was coming through at my waist.

If you're in tune with your body, the changes are noticeable and uncomfortable - and you should notice.

It’s a personal thing

I feel fat at the moment because all of my clothes are too tight and my tummy wobbles when I walk

I’m a size 10/12 so not huge but I’m fatter than I’ve ever been before (outside of pregnancy)

Honestly plenty of overweight people post it on social media, from their weight loss journeys through to their clothing choices. I follow one woman, she's a size 24, regularly calls her self some form of fat, and her clothing choices. I follow her because she's interesting.

In my experience, many over weight people don't shy away from saying it. The issue comes in when someone else says it.

@ZaraW I'm 5ft3 and a size 10 and I am definitely slim by any standard. And yes, I understand about vanity sizing as I wore a size 14 back in the 80s when I was about the same weight, but I am much more toned and fit now than I was then.

Colourmylife I'm 5'9" and size 8/10. My friends who are petite and the same are not slim.

You have fat mates who wear a size 8?

No one who actually feels fat puts pictures of themselves online! But sometimes people feel fat when they aren't. It's all relative. I feel fat if I put on a couple of kilos, although technically I'm not. But I don't put photos of myself online anyway.

I've gone from a 6/8 to a 10/12 (lots of chocs and wine!) and I'm very petite, it's gone straight to my thighs and legs, which are now chunky tree stumps. I bought a larger swimsuit and took my boys swimming on the weekend. I've booked into do some lanes myself. I DIDN'T take a swimsuit selfie with a monologue to bring out the "huns". Who the hell cares about my wobbly thighs really?! I don't care about anyone elses, skinny or bigger!

The "huns" are all so fake, do people really believe them?

I agree with a PP, would love to see what would happen if it went like this:

"Omgz I'm sooooo fkn fat! need to hit that gym harder than eva!!"

*posts duck faced picture of rock hard abs and bronzed arse"

"Awww hun! maybe if you stopped all the cake and burgers you wouldn't be so fat!"

Yep definitely attention seeking. I had a friend who was tall size 8 and not an ounce of fat on her. She would have to bend slightly to grab some skin on her belly and say "ooh look at all this fat"

Of course initially you would tell her not to be daft she wasn't fat etc, but she did it all the time. There was a constant flow of girls off her estate in her house and she would be glueing while they told her how skinny she was

Was very sad to see actually and I phased her out

@ZaraW I suppose it also depends on body composition as I have lowish body fat and a medium frame. My BMI is 21 and if my weight drops I look gaunt. I guess it just shows that we are all different! To be fair I could still just about squeeze into a size 10 when I weighed 10lbs more!

Glowing not frikkin glueing

But its possible they are a bit fat just not as fat as the next person. People in the UK have got much fatter over the last few years with the increase in unhealthy foods takeaways etc so a bit fat has become the new norm

It's an attention thing I think. I'm a bit overweight and aware of it but I wouldn't dream of posting it all over Facebook for some attention.

Mine and my OH's old housemate from when we lived in a house share was like this. But she was a size 10 and went to the gym on the regular, had a fantastic diet. She KNEW she wasn't fat but would call herself fat in front of our male housemates because she just enjoyed the attention when everyone was like ''oh no of course you arent''

I used to think, if she thinks she's fat then what does she think i am?! I must be a whale to her!